More thoughts (possibly long)
12 years ago
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tavimunk
tavimunk So I was thinking about my previous journal. I'm not going to make everything 100%, because nothing ever is, but I have a rough idea of what I need to do. I don't think 'officially' taking a break from FA is really necessary, because FA is not the source of my stresses - if anything, it's what provides me relief because I can draw and write and escape my reality (when I am able to draw and write, at least).
Much of the reason I've been stressed is because I'm almost always alone, but when people try to actually talk to me I find it difficult to connect with them most of the time. I have a lot of trouble with smalltalk ('Hi, how are you' 'Fine, thanks, you?' 'Fine') because it leaves me feeling like I should say more, but I'm not sure what. In real life it's much worse. I'm homeschooled, so the most human contact I get is usually only my parents. The last time I went out with someone my own age, apart from family, was a year ago, and often when I try to reconnect it ends up going nowhere. It's like my world is confined to the four walls of my bedroom, and those walls are slowly getting smaller and smaller.
There are a lot of solutions to this problem, but often they end up presenting 'if's' or 'but's', and it's just really difficult to work around.
So yeah, that's what's up with me.
Much of the reason I've been stressed is because I'm almost always alone, but when people try to actually talk to me I find it difficult to connect with them most of the time. I have a lot of trouble with smalltalk ('Hi, how are you' 'Fine, thanks, you?' 'Fine') because it leaves me feeling like I should say more, but I'm not sure what. In real life it's much worse. I'm homeschooled, so the most human contact I get is usually only my parents. The last time I went out with someone my own age, apart from family, was a year ago, and often when I try to reconnect it ends up going nowhere. It's like my world is confined to the four walls of my bedroom, and those walls are slowly getting smaller and smaller.
There are a lot of solutions to this problem, but often they end up presenting 'if's' or 'but's', and it's just really difficult to work around.
So yeah, that's what's up with me.
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It doesn't help that it is often harder to meet people and get to know them well while you are still living at home with parents. Do what you can to get out and be around people. I know all the "ifs" and "buts", because I dealt with it myself. To some degree, I still do. Things did get better socially, once I was on my own and not living at home. Many other things became more tough though, but overall, things came into balance. They likely will for you too. It does take overcoming some of the "ifs" and "buts" though. It never needs to be all at once though. Just tackle one or two things at a time on the path to being less alone.
You are a good person little bro. Push yourself a little bit farther than what you're comfortable with and you'll start to get better at social interactions.