More specifically, what turns us on. I've been having an interesting conversation with someone about whether or not our turn-ons and sexual interests are "hard-wired" or if we're influenced by things we see or experience, especially when we're young because our minds are like sponges with how much they absorb. It was mostly about bondage and she feels we're hard-wired and while I agree with her I wonder if we are influenced in some way by something outside of our genetic programing. What say you?