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Soooo, totally off topic...
12 years ago
I just saw a piece here in the recent submissions that made me think about some things...a female furry artist uploaded a picture addressing the fact that she has been getting a lot of "Do you have a boyfriend?" questions lately, to which she replies that she is of the other persuasion. This made me think. On the furry personal site that i frequent (i'm trying to meet some furry peoples in my area) there is a whole section dedicated to people bitching and complaining about not being able to find a "mate." The majority of these individuals are teenage males that are straight and when it comes down to it, very socially awkward. To this, I offer some advice:
1. Stop using the word "mate", its annoying, its used out of context and generally gets people thinking about a lifetime relationship. For some (most, IMO) this can be scary and the idea of commitment is too much to handle when first attempting to reach out to someone. Also, this immediately implies that sex is involved and may also imply that creating a family is involved. That's plain creepy to mention on the first date.
2. Stop looking for a lifetime partner. Looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with means having unrealistic expectations of what you want from someone. Look instead for someone to be your friend, or if its your thing, a fuckbuddy. You can always work things up from there, but if you don't let anyone get close, you're never going to find anyone.
3. Look outside the fandom. Personally, I think this is the best advice I can give anyone, EVER! There are a few reasons for this...First, the fandom is saturated with people of alternative persuasions, which means straight furries are hard to come by, let alone single ones. The likelihood of a teenage, straight, socially awkward male finding an equally teenage, straight, socially awkward female in the furry community is slim, though it does happen. Instead, there are plenty of nerdy, straight girls out there in the world that will have no problem with you dressing up like an animal. In fact, if you can, find one who likes cosplaying and they'll be more than happy to accompany you in their best japanese schoolgirl outfit...Personally, I have only had one furry partner since I joined the fandom four years ago, and I've been perfectly happy with the other non-furries I've dated since. Sure it took a bit of explaining of what the fandom is, but if someone really likes you, they really won't give a damn. Second, furries tend to have a stigma related to their species, you'll be setting yourself up for failure if you immediately make assumptions based on their species...by dating outside the fandom, you don't have those stigmas associated with you and you have the chance to (believe it or not) get to know someone.
/endrant
Also, I'm STILL open for commissions! Check out my other page: www.furaffinity.net/user/combatspace
1. Stop using the word "mate", its annoying, its used out of context and generally gets people thinking about a lifetime relationship. For some (most, IMO) this can be scary and the idea of commitment is too much to handle when first attempting to reach out to someone. Also, this immediately implies that sex is involved and may also imply that creating a family is involved. That's plain creepy to mention on the first date.
2. Stop looking for a lifetime partner. Looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with means having unrealistic expectations of what you want from someone. Look instead for someone to be your friend, or if its your thing, a fuckbuddy. You can always work things up from there, but if you don't let anyone get close, you're never going to find anyone.
3. Look outside the fandom. Personally, I think this is the best advice I can give anyone, EVER! There are a few reasons for this...First, the fandom is saturated with people of alternative persuasions, which means straight furries are hard to come by, let alone single ones. The likelihood of a teenage, straight, socially awkward male finding an equally teenage, straight, socially awkward female in the furry community is slim, though it does happen. Instead, there are plenty of nerdy, straight girls out there in the world that will have no problem with you dressing up like an animal. In fact, if you can, find one who likes cosplaying and they'll be more than happy to accompany you in their best japanese schoolgirl outfit...Personally, I have only had one furry partner since I joined the fandom four years ago, and I've been perfectly happy with the other non-furries I've dated since. Sure it took a bit of explaining of what the fandom is, but if someone really likes you, they really won't give a damn. Second, furries tend to have a stigma related to their species, you'll be setting yourself up for failure if you immediately make assumptions based on their species...by dating outside the fandom, you don't have those stigmas associated with you and you have the chance to (believe it or not) get to know someone.
/endrant
Also, I'm STILL open for commissions! Check out my other page: www.furaffinity.net/user/combatspace
