THIS GAVE ME THE FEELS 100%!

YEP! Recently in fact. I had someone act as if just because they were able to pull out of depression, I should be able to do it too, and fuck me for even feeling that way in the first place. :T

Cuz that's what I needed when i was feeling suicidal. To be scolded.

:c people forget that we are all different and thus our problems aren't identical and can't be solved the same. Thank you for your input!

They do~ And of course! I love to discuss things~

This is something I have learned over the years. I learned it best from 'friends' who always seemed to have it worse than you.

I'm trying to talk to you because things are bothering me, if you wanna talk about stuff that's bothering you, sure! I'm here for you too. But If you're just going to attempt to compete with me over who has it worse... No thanks. If you're gonna feed me a five second solution... That's what Google is for.

And everyone deals with things differently and someone does always have it worse than you, but that's not the point. The worst pain in my life might have been the easiest in yours. Give advice, don't brush off or compete over who has it worse! Everyone must learn and deal with the hard times they face.

This also brings the phrase to mind: "Knowledge speaks, wisdom listens"

We are in an age that people can not just sit and enjoy the moment they are in, they must distract themselves with social media and video games (Which is fine from time to time). But we forget simple things... Like coffee or a walk on the beach with a friend, admiring the wonders the world has to offer.

Another phrase also comes to mind: "All metal must be cast through the fire to become a priceless gem". To me, this means we all face hard times and are tossed into the fire, but these difficulties and how we deal with and survive them is what makes us who we are. It is okay to hurt, it is okay to be upset. It takes time to accept and deal with issues that bombard us in our every days lives and often, a skill that is being lost in our society, listening, is a huge help, even if it doesn't end in a solution. Things will work out in time, but, right now, you just need to vent.

Holy long response. Okay. Just wanted to contribute to this =P Hope I didn't get too off topic too often, haha.

There are lots of ears ready to listen and hearts to console your own.

I know what you mean about the "who has it worse" competition, that can be frustrating!
Very great points in your response and I agree with it all. Sometimes people just want to vent like you said or just want a shoulder to lean on not necessarily for you to solve their problem for them.

Yeah I'm guilty for this too! I try to remain a constant beacon of optimism for my friends when they come to me for support, but looking back on it I do sound pretty dismissive when I'm like, "Oh I'm sure it's fine, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about!"
It can be comforting to hear but sometimes you just need to look at things more realistically or just have someone say they understand.

Really interesting and eye opening, thanks for sharing <3

Thank you for reading!
When I find something that makes me think I like to share it with others. So we can reflect and maybe better the way we approach things.

Agreed =]

I see that alot actually. And a lot of " my problems are bigger" talk too . For myself sometimes when I'm upset the last thing I wanna hear is " oh it'll be okay" ^_^ I'm kinda a weirdo :p. best thing is to just let them know you"ll listen. I agree!

Love Meekakitty. She's got some really thought provoking videos (lots of funny ones too). This one though. apfkaf. Feeels. Reevaluating how I think about stuff like this for sure.

I have to say that I COMPLETELY agree with this. While I am guilty of doing it myself.
I was in a car accident 2 years back, has permanently damaged my hand and, while I know people are just trying to be supportive/cheer me up, I HATTTEEE people saying "At least it wasn't (insert other body part)"/"at least you're not dead"
It's for the exact same reason.
I feel like they're dismissing my problem as nothing, when it's actually a really big thing, something that will affect me for my entire life.

While I do agree that you do need to tell some people that "It could be worse" (because they're whiney little nuggets who are just complaining about EVERYTHING) some things... yeah.
It's hard.
I just know I hate it when I feel like people are dismissing my hand.

"Its okay to not be okay...
You don't have to feel shame over those emotions."

That right there really really really impacted me. I am constantly feeling SO bad about sharing my feelings with others because I feel like I am burdening them. And if they don't have a solution to my problems they feel bad and frustrated because they cannot help me. Which in turn makes me feel even worse for telling them in the first place. But that right there just... really fantastic quote.

Definitely something I need to keep in mind when talking with other people as well. I always want to help people so much when they are hurting, and really sometimes the best answer is to just be understanding. Really really interesting to think about.

that sounds like the book we had to read for marriage and relationships class: I Thought it Was Just Me (But it Isn't): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy & Power, it also talks about shame .__. pretty thought invoking book I thought.