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Im over it. (rant/advice pls)
12 years ago
Hey guys, I just wanted some advice.
I have been with my current partner for almost two years now, and we love each other very much. I've known her for longer than I've known several things about me. Firstly, I didn't know I was pan until I learnt that I was attracted to people because of their personality not their body, and that the body meant very little to me. Secondly, that I am genderfluid. As a straight female herself (let alone one brought up in a old school catholic way) she has been very accepting of my gender and sexuality.
Recently we have been having major problems, mainly that I am getting ignored and snapped at for no reason, and being generally treated like crap. She keeps apologising, but she is ruining myself esteem, which she knows, and she doesn't seem to want to change it. She keeps doing it no matter what I do or say. I have tried talking to her and asking her what's wrong, but every time she just says 'nothing, I just didn't think, I'm sorry'.
She is getting to the point where, last night, she ignored everything I said for half an hour, then snapped at me for no reason, the last time having been a few days ago where she promised she would stop, and then she did it two hours later. The exact same thing. Where does it become her just being hurtful?
TL;DR: My girlfriend treats me like a door mate, I'm thinking of leaving her, what should I do?
I have been with my current partner for almost two years now, and we love each other very much. I've known her for longer than I've known several things about me. Firstly, I didn't know I was pan until I learnt that I was attracted to people because of their personality not their body, and that the body meant very little to me. Secondly, that I am genderfluid. As a straight female herself (let alone one brought up in a old school catholic way) she has been very accepting of my gender and sexuality.
Recently we have been having major problems, mainly that I am getting ignored and snapped at for no reason, and being generally treated like crap. She keeps apologising, but she is ruining myself esteem, which she knows, and she doesn't seem to want to change it. She keeps doing it no matter what I do or say. I have tried talking to her and asking her what's wrong, but every time she just says 'nothing, I just didn't think, I'm sorry'.
She is getting to the point where, last night, she ignored everything I said for half an hour, then snapped at me for no reason, the last time having been a few days ago where she promised she would stop, and then she did it two hours later. The exact same thing. Where does it become her just being hurtful?
TL;DR: My girlfriend treats me like a door mate, I'm thinking of leaving her, what should I do?
She should explain why, I'm a female and I get like that...I snap when I'm angry at my mate because they don't do something I've asked and what not. So ask her and ask again and TRY sort it out. If things don't change then you need a break or break up.
Some girls can be really stubborn but if this is the case then I think you need to tell her it's time to call it quits. It's no good you giving her everything and taking it all and not giving anything in return. Relationships are about an equal ground and both people need to put effort into it, if she isn't then rid yourself of her.