Friend Crushes Rant
12 years ago
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Commission account battyarts
So on Monday one of the friends, Brandon M., I made this semester that I have been spending a lot of time with told me he wanted to date me and I told him I have a boyfriend, he was upset, but took it well (so it seems right now, he hasn't changed the way he acts towards me and he might be very good at hiding it =/ I'm not sure..) and now another friend, Brandon A., just told me today that my other friend Austin has a huge crush on me and bashes Dylan while I'm not around...this is very upsetting to me...1 he's never met Dylan so he has no right to bash him for being my boyfriend just cause he's across the country right now, love knows no distance and we would wait forever for each other; 2 today was the last day of school so I don't know when I will see him next, I want to confront him about it to see if it's true and to tell him to stop; and 3 he talks his crap to all my other friends we play magic with and I don't know how awkward it's making everyone feel when they know that I have no idea and he's bashing, I mean they are all nerd guys so they are already awkward so it's hard to tell if they are bothered or they are indifferent and are just being their normal awkward selves.... How many more of them feel the same way about me? Should I stop making male friends? Should I stop being a nerd?! Dylan is not a jealous person, he knows I am very friendly with my friends, but he trusts me because he knows that I only love him and would never hurt him by being with someone else; I am very grateful for that because it is just easier for me to make male friends, I just get along better with them, especially being a nerd and playing magic I'm around about 30 guys all day long. Seriously, for every female friend I make, I make 3 guy friends.
I just need someone to talk this out with...I think I'd rather talk with someone who doesn't know them before talking with a friend that does and might not know about the situation. I'll probably end up asking Gage if he's heard any of this.
I just need someone to talk this out with...I think I'd rather talk with someone who doesn't know them before talking with a friend that does and might not know about the situation. I'll probably end up asking Gage if he's heard any of this.
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You have to remember, YOU'RE doing nothing wrong, and YOU shouldn't change anything you do or enjoy because of other people.
But... There are actually a lot of sexist people in nerd communities. You'd think a community that has "smarts" and "learning" as one of their traits wouldn't be, but sadly its true. They need to change, not you.
Luckily, these guys are young, and probably just learning about relationships in general. So you can be the person who helps educate them to not be a dick. Most people react fairly well to being nicely, but firmly, put down telling them you are not available or interested, and are in a great relationship already even if they don't see the two of you together. And if they don't get it, or react badly to that, or don't change, then they shouldn't be your friend until they can learn the world doesn't revolve around them.
he needs to chill his shit and let you and your honey do your thing instead of talking shit.
dont stop being a nerd! ive had this happen alot specially in the boffer community since there isnt many female fighters, and a good amount of the ones that do fight sleep with alot of guy members. so it puts a bad name for the ones that are taken.
Thanks for posting, sometimes I just need to hear someone else affirm my thoughts to think calmly about the situation.
Sidenote, awesome that you play mtg lol
I love mtg, it has made me many new friends this semester and they are all extremely nice people.