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I say it's not better t have no friends because if you have something you want to talk about, friends are usually the best people to talk to about such things.

I don't know if you're broken. I've been feeling this same way to an extent, but for me it's the opposite. I've worried about everyone else for so long, forsaking myself and my wants and needs that I'm pretty tired of even doing something simple as chatting. I get irritated at the smallest things and I just want to keep to myself a lot of the time. Sometimes that happens. I don't think you're being a jerk, especially if you're explaining why.

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Noooo.

I can understand you're having difficulty because of your current status as an artist. You're extremely popular, and you no doubt have tons of people wanting to be your friend. There may also be language barriers. But despite all of that... Having no friends is a very cold way to live.

Trusting is hard for some people, I know. But... don't you have someone you've been with for a long time? Someone you can honestly call your "friend"?

It's best to have at least one friend. Being alone is ok, but painful at times. You need one person you can trust at least.

So your being jerk right now? and you feel broken? Hm. . Well it seems like there's more to this than what your saying out.

Awh Ru o: to be honest it's not better having no friends, I mean sure it is nice to have icolation sometimes but when it really comes down it it, it's always nice to have someone there to talk to even if it is just for a little.

Honestly there are pro's and con's to it.

If you don't feel like talking to people let the ones whom are in your life most know that you aren't feeling up to talking or bonding. Chances are they will understand and when you want to bond again or talk they will be there to support you.

I think its good to have a couple friends..
You are an introvert a person who just like to have alone time a lot
That is not a problem you aren't a jerk just different c:
I'm like that a lot where I just want to be alone a lot..

Theres no wrong in alone time!

ur not broken, ur just human, and let me tell u, i was friendless in kindergarten and until 8 grade, cause when i entered 8 grade i also changed school, and there is where i met 1 of my now best friend, and she let me meet her 2 best friend who also my best friends now :3 so my 3 best friends are all i got :P but we dont meet much, but we talk even less on skype ans such :P so do like i do, go with ur own phase, if u feel bad try talking with them or take a walk outside in a forest or beach, at least someplace u can be alone and think.



sorry for being so weird... i know im hard to understand but... yeah my way of helping is more a brain turner.

Sometimes you just need that alone time, I have those moments. Still, you should find some peeps to hang with RL, it's not good to have nobody to talk with and visit.

=3 they arent friends if ya dont wanna talk to them even once a month r so

Pfft I have friends I haven't talked to in a long time. I just don't want to seem clingy and want to give them their space. I think a friend is better when you can have an exciting conversation with and you enjoy talking with them even if you don't talk to them for months on end then a friend who calls you every two hours just to say "Hi" and run up your phone bill that you can't afford. /sigh....

the internet is free

No, it isn't. At least not in the United States. D: You have to pay for it from your internet provider.

40 dollars a month is a really lot less than my car payment and insurance

We use high speed... $70 a month. :x

The friend who calls a ton can't afford nothing.

you can stream skype over dial up, i did it for almost 4 years

I've never had real life friends. The only ones I've ever had are the electronic devices and gaming systems I have in my home. :/

i don't have any friend in real life anymore, least ones locally , and when i talk to people online i usually give short responses... i remember going like weeks between talking to people. i do enjoy talking to people occasionally though but if it's not an interesting conversation i get distracted.

This sounds like the story of my life. :O
Sorry that you're going through something similar as I am. It's not fun to deal with.

No, it's very important to have friends, especially IRL.

As Clarence said at the end of It's a Wonderful Life, "No man is poor who has friends."

Look at all the people who have commented on this journal. Every single one of those people cares about you. Even if they dont, they still at least have enough decency to come to you when you need help, and help you. I know what its like to be lonely, it really sucks.... So its better to have friends. BUT! I agree that its better to have only a small handful of BEST friends than to have a massive amount of just "eh" friends. Work must be very stressful for you, and we understand that... Theres nothing wrong with taking a small hiatus break and pulling yourself together, ive done it myself. But I always come back stronger.

To tell ya' the absolute truth, we NEED friends. No one should be an island. Don't confuse isolation with alone time. <:' <:)
There's a time and place for everything. Sometimes we need some time alone so we can do stuff that needs to get done or finish something we've always wanted to do.

But with someone without friends, loneliness, depression and anxiety sit in. <:' We all need someone to talk to, cry to and have fun and hang out with. <:3 It's part of being human.

I for one will keep you in my prayers. <:3

I do not know what else to say that my upstairs neighbors. =/

Sometimes you just get fed up with people. Take a small break, get in some time to just breathe and not have to worry about social games.

It's terrible to have no friends. It happened to me in school and I felt like I wanted to die. Though, I also sometimes just want to ignore een my best friends and be alone.

I say it works perfectly. No friends, no bother, no fuss.

Stand back: furries at work on psychology

LOL WIIFFLER GO HOME

IM HOME AND NAKED ALREADY

OHMAN IM EXCITED.

it's funny cause someone's sad
and we're rubbing our human animal boners
HUEHUHEUHE

It's stupid. I'm pretty sure none of these guys actually know what they're talking about.

they dont
I guess they try to help him so theres good intentions behind it but if he listens to these guy he's gonna end up much more unhappy then he is right now

Meh got to do what you want to do RU.

BUt hell that shit sucks, 6yrs? I go insane.

RU, you are one of my dearest friends on FA, and the coolest dragon that I've ever got to know. From friend to friend, they should be a REAL friend knowing that you are busy and may not have time to chat to them. I know that you are busy, so I leave you your space, and I still think of you as a close friend. Please don't you ever give up on your friends RU, I know I haven't given up on you~

I Agree full heartedly and we should help him though the dark times even if he doesn't want too.
I would be very ashamed if I lose either of you so please don't throw me in the dust filled Void of Despair, It a very "HORRIFYING" Place!!!

Well arent you technically friends with a lot of people here on fa?

Sometimes you just need to get away from people for awhile. I get sick of my friends from time to time and just need a few days to myself.

Mmmmmm, Not ok.

In the long run, It is more beneficial if you have friends and contacts that will be willing to give you a hand.

Balance.

Man, I have no irl friends, either :[
It's not that I'm not social or even that I'm not a pretty cool person (I'm a pretty damn cool person, AND outgoing, and amazing. Healthy self confidence ROCKS *fist pump to no one*) I just kept moving then had a full time job and never really got around to it. Plus, I have a rockin' boyfriend and we have so much fun playing video games together and hanging out there's not like, a big empty void where my friends should be.

Anywho, I know wha'cha mean.
There's not some desperate longing, but it'd be nice to have some irl friends.

Its best to keep friends but its not a good idea to consider everyone a friend.

Every now and then this happens, you should just take your time and relax. Live your own life and if you want to or need to talk to others go ahead. Everyone needs a break sometimes, even from friends.
You're not a jerk, you just like to be on your own! =3

nah, just need the right ones.
Even if you don't speak with them for a while it always feels good to have someone to bullshit with every once in a while. Social games are the best for that <3

I can honestly say that I have ONE friend (of sorts...who has the patience of a saint), and there certainly is a sense of tranquility and freedom to not running around all the time doing god only knows what. BUT...there are times when I do wish I still had some peeps to hang out with. I think I'll echo what a few others have said here and say that it's better to have a few GOOD friends then a gaggle of OK ones. Good luck to ya!

I say friends just hold you back... your perfectly normal and independent in your own way...

I know this may sound strange, but having a bad time with a friend is better then having no friends at all. Makes you feel more fulfilled
If we are lucky enough to find a really good friend, we'll want to spend time with them, no matter what happens

I've been pretty much the same way in the friend market. I have like 3 friends irl and theyre good friends but sometimes I just really...dont want to reply. I have lots of friends on Skype, but yeah, like you said, not the same

It's okay, don't worry friend. I feel the same way too. Been like this most of my life.
I mean I try to keep the remain bestfriends I have. But I barely get to see them.
And have learned to love being by myself. And realized the good it does. Like I get things done faster and better. And can do a lot more things
because sometimes you might have people that don't want to do the same things and you miss out on lots of stuff. So I think it's okay to feel that way. Nothing is wrong with it. :)

It's okay if you want to be by yourself, but you could always talk to someone if you want.

Each to their own I guess, I personally have no advice,nor do I have the right to give advice honestly

Well... Those without friends tend to become depressed or even start to fall into the world of seeing things... So... Yeah... Then again... "To each, their own." And all that rot.

Honestley i been feeling the same way, even had a few occasions when i needed somone to talk to, i just....talked to myself, to let it out in some way, my mother was worried i was going crazy lol but yeah, i know the feeling of just wanting to be alone, it gets to the point where the characters you draw and the people you idolize are your only companions and you just decide to block yourself off, i cant say its a good thing, even now, something reminded me of a time a friend was having a bad moment in there life and i was there to hold them till they stopped crying, nothing will ever compare to the contact of another person, weather to laugh, cry, or just talk with, but there will always be that feeling of wanting to be alone, but trust me, there will come a time when the need of a actual person to spend time with will over power this need of feeling alone.

It's okay to not feel social sometimes.. people should understand if you don't want to talk sometimes. You and I seem to be a lot alike in how we treat our work as something that is much more important to us than pursuing social stuff. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Just don't cut ties, because there are times when you would like to have some interaction... it's good for you sometimes to have people to talk to.

not even the ones you trust that's harsh

om... moo...

As far as i'm concerned,both friends irl and over the internet are real friends, coming from a person who has both. (Incidentally my online friends do a lot more with me relationship wise - maybe its the irl tension? i dunno)

I'd say to have at least one person to call a friend; someone who can fall outside the category of "friends because we're artists and that's it", or similar small related categories. Those kind of people can really pick you up when you're feeling down, about anything that might be. Talking about problems to someone really loosens up the emotional load, at least in my opinion (I'm lucky enough to have a friend like that I can express anything to, but i imagine its hard to find that person when everyone is clamoring to you because of internet popularity, if that's even a thing i mean)

But it's totally okay to want some extended alone time though, to recharge your "social energy", re-find yourself and all. (Maybe you're a particularly prolific introvert? That's a thing that happens with them..) Happens to everyone at some point i think. Just be sure to have the initiative to move forward eventually!

friends are overrated

Life will be your paradox or paradigm, it's psychosomatic, the choices are yours however.
I hope you feel better and make the right choices towards positivity, everything can be healed with
The right support and energy cause that's what we are on a molecular and physical level, as well as mental and spiritual (if your into that). During these darker times (as obvious as it is to everyone) there is control we as individuals can express, truth is we all got fucked over in extreme various ways and I know you already know this and feel hopeless and completely bound to our own psychosis and the pressures of what's to come, the human (or furry whatever) has a remarkable ability to heal and conquer. It's not how we're all alike but very different and there is only one RU. You have something one of a kind and extremely rare even if you don't know it and only you know how to use it and that's what people are truly attracted to and they will want what you have to be able to use it in their lives but only you have the purest and only you can teach how to use it. To separate yourself from others and be anti-social is a damn shame cause just a taste of who you really are is like nothing in this universe and not like anything we can get in a trillion lifetimes! Again we are given choices always (no matter what) and I do really hope you make the choices that ARE YOU! ;)

Ru, it's not better to have no friends. I mean, yeah, sometimes you need your space and want to be alone sometimes, but you need somebody to talk to from time to time, to get stuff off of your chest.

My Fiance does not make friends IRL....
I'm pretty much her only friend, but I'm always there for her and I like to think I share my friends with her :3
Don't worry little RU... Sometimes IRL is a little harder than what it should be...

That's a tough choice, choosing friends
As always, not anyone who you meet is going to be your best friend, it may be happen, but it may not
In RL, i have some friends but because they were friendly to me since the beginning; in online life, i used to have many, but bit by bit they have left, and now i am alone when i am online. But after a while you notice that some friends may bring drama, but others will bring fun to the life

So, don't rush and take your time to choose nice friends~! It may always be hard, but the best of the life is hard to get
Good luck!

some people just dont really need friends idk
most people need friends but there are some that just... dont?

friends are friends even in the interwebs.

your asking us right, we are your friends.
although its good to have friends near too.

^ᴥ^ ♫

Oddly, the more I detach myself from people, the less lonely I feel. However my anxiety may be responsible for this lonely feeling so I'm not sure if my experience is even realistic for the average person. xD
I say you should just find a balance- have friends there to hang out with and keep life interesting/unstressful, but be sure to give yourself some alone time too. c:

Knowing that you have been face-deep into your work, friends find it hard to contact you to even keep a convo. going. Sometimes you should just lay back and not take so much food onto your plate Ru-ru. I wish you luck on your projects, animations and all that. Hope you get to relax and put you feet up sometimes. Where you live and all that you should be easy enough just to take and day or two to rest, relax and just chill. Dont walk about work or anything.

Not having friends will just leave you more in to a depressed state. Get outta your house and get some fresh air. Also.. make sure your eating and drinking, or ill come to your house and kick you in the rear. Just please, least drop by and say Hi. so i know you didn't get into something horrible or worse.

Again, a few seconds of your time just to text on Skype is good enough.

CHILL BRO, CHILL.
Peaceout~

^ basically this + the rear kicking.

Nothing wrong with wanting a break from friends. (everyone needs their solitude once in a while bro.)


Just know, there will be friends that will understand if you need to take days/weeks on projects/personal you time, so they will not be upset that you need to focus on things that are important to you-- We'll be around to talk like always when you're back!

Friends are a relative subject. Most are vain and will drop you at a hat, when you are feeling down and out and have nothing to give, you will find out who are your "real" friends and those will be worth more than any commission or gift art.

Fans will want to be your friend, mostly due to a image you present as yourself or through your work - it's catering to your vanity and unfortunately that is a byproduct of putting yourself out there, the "cost of doing business" if you will. If you are unhappy with this development I would suggest finding another line of work, it seems so sorrid to subject yourself to the whim of others only to wish to pull away from it - your art and you will suffer for it eventually.

In my experience, it is better to remove yourself from the situation and evaluate what you really want out of it, the fame? The money? The attention and friends that come along with it? Or the "true" friends that have your back when your work is no longer famous and you are no longer popular, I don't know you or your friends. You need to know what you want, and whether that is a realistic perspective with measurable results or a fallacy based on vanity.

If you push your friends away eventually they will stop coming to you, and you'll find yourself coming to them when they simply have better things to do than bother with you.

Friendship is a two way street, give and take - if you do not receive that then they are not your friends. If you cannot give that then you are not really their friend and why should you expect them to be yours? If you don't want friends simply cut them off, I have a feeling that it is a decision you will regret and there may be no way to mend those relationships when you do something like that - many people will not cater to "fairweather" friends.

"Broken" you are not. Only the dead are "Broken". If your emotions are "Broken" then its time to take a step back and get some perspective.

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RU, listen me, I told you my experience and i'm honest.



I've been alone a long time since my childhood.

Alone and faced the madness and misery.

Not have a friend is not good at all, must have a minimum of people.

Having time alone is good, but loneliness is a drug poison brings you to dementia.

You can not pull the hand, but you can the past.

Try to have your moments for you and spends time with others.

I saw so many things in my entire existence and it is not better, should be good, but it need not be alone.

UK takes me seriously, I knew the madness and suffering should not be alone, just sometimes have its own time.

You know, I'm the look as everyone sir, but I'll always be there if need ears or someone I not let people down that I find enjoyable, I help how I can.

I know that having someone, it takes a direct in real life, but with will be appreciated and we will try that one can have.

not need to work for friends or others, you've got an interest, following your heart and soul, but also reflected a bit.

All made mistakes, I'm an idiot too often, we learn, perfection is when sought, do not stop.

My boy, I have so much to make you learn, but still some you gonna do, there are people for you, even among people who just seems fans or jealous.

is confidence in you, I'll be there if you need me Ourais, but I'm a person like the other, just that I want to follow the truth, the ideal, honor and wisdom.

I know that you will know how to reach me in need, I encourage you in your life and never said that loneliness is a friend, it's just a shade to relax which can poison you.

Well I think a friend would be there at times when you're not feeling so independent. And they're more than just having someone to go to anyway.
Friends are just nice and stuff yes

I know how it feels RU, and I'm sure alot of others do to. I've jumped schools alot, and when I stuck in a school for more than 2 years, I jumped again, now It's my senior year and I just really don't know a single person. I had my 18th birthday on the 8th, of August, I only invited one person to go to a small local restaurant, they straight up said no. The feeling of wanting to be alone, I have it to, because I feel like there is really nothing anyone could do to at this point. Isolation, has its perks and its downsides.

Sigh... This is a difficult topic for me to tackle....

When I was young, I had no friends who I can gang-up with. At school, I had far more bullies than close friends. None of the kids at school were my friends; students who claim to be my friend are either doing it out of pity, or just so they can be mean to me afterwards. At one time, the entire classroom became my bullies.

No, the only friends I had on that time were just the school teachers, who protected me from those bullies. =_=

I grew up being an antisocial person. It's difficult for me to gain friends IRL because I have vastly different interests from the kids here. Most of the stuff I like are all Western interests. It wasn't until I start attending college and university that I finally meet-up with friends who have roughly the same interests as I do.

Still, the majority of my friends these days are all foreign friends from different countries in the world. I never met them face-to-face; I mainly chat with them through Skype and Steam.

I'm just grateful that I have any friends at all. I feel like a jerk sometimes for pushing them aside, just so I can do my own businesses without people interrupting me, because I hate interruptions.

So, the point I'm trying to bring forth here is that I understand how you feel. Though, don't you dare mentioning that you have no friends. Besides, I have been trying to be your friend, too, and I kinda feel depressed that I never saw you online on Skype.

And, looking at other people's comments, it appears that all of us have the same problem as well when it comes to making friends.

It may be hard sometimes, but trust me when I say it is intimately better to have friends. Nat even many. Just one or two close people you can really trust is all it takes. Humans are social creatures, and friends make life a zillion times easier and better. You just need to know where to look.
And I'd be willing to take that position :3

You aint broked ru An if you is Join the club cuz i loath people sometimes *Hugz*