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12 years ago
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Oh lawd.... -facedesks- ... My "mom" sent me a text today. I am going to share with you first what she sent me, then share with you my thoughts:
"IN GODS HANDS.
Once upon a time, there was this mother, who had a daughter that made the same mistake in her life, time after time. This mother always talked to this daughter to go in a different direction to get a different result, but this daughter never listened.
One day this daughter was on her own, and made a very bad choice, and again this mother tried to warn her and talk to her, even to argue with her, but this daughter still would not listen.
Then one night, God spoke to this mother and said. "Let her go."
So this mother did. Now this mother knows God will teach her daughter more than she ever could. So, with the love of a mother, she put her daughter in Gods hands and said goodbye for awhile.
IN GODS HANDS."
.... -facedesks- x-x While I do understand my mother is just trying to 'love me' by offering her advice, she has done NOTHING but judge me in the past and now has been judging my once mate when I told her I was with him awhile back. She has done nothing but judge him, calling him a loser without even KNOWING him or MEETING him. I told him everything they said, for I do not feel it is right for people to go behind someone's back and slander their names or lest judge another without getting to know them...
I awoke this morning to this text. I think what frustrates me the most from receiving this text is not the text itself, but the fact that it is clear that she still thinks she is right to be judging him, and does not see what she herself has done wrong. I think that has been what has been frustrating me the most. They think they have right to judge and slander people behind their backs. Yet she is putting me in 'God's hands now.' She is sure oblivious. God has always been with me when she wasn't or my father wasn't. I went to God when this SAME MOTHER in the past called me a WHORE, is now putting me in 'God's hands,' but her hopes and reasoning for such are so that I will somehow "realize she is right and I am wrong." It was GOD and the love of my FRIENDS who lifted me up. When I had NO WHERE else to turn, I had my friends and GOD behind me. I prayed and I received God's love and assurance. Where was she during that time? JUDGING ME. Slandering me... whilst all I could do was pray and cry in my bedroom, and hide a lot of stuff from them in FEARS of being judged...
THIS SAME MOTHER, who when I tried to tell her about my therianthropy, JUDGED me and said "if you ever, ever say that you THINK you are a wolf, we will get you admitted." I am fumed..... and hurt. I have wanted nothing but for her to just love and accept me.
Well "Mother," GOD has been there all along. I have always been under HIS watch. It is YOU who has constantly judged me. I have prayed countless times to God. While you slandered me, calling me a "child," or "whore," or telling me that you would get me admitted, or calling me a freak/weirdo for being into the furry fandom. While you guys judged me, I got God's love and reassurance...
My 'mother' has also blamed him for the problems we had. She needs to realize that it is HER that is doing it to HERSELF and to us. My parents are what have made me so paranoid and fearful, aside from my bad past relationships... they made me cower in fear of being judged and ridiculed. I used to live with my folks and I would have to hide everything in the confinements of my bedroom. When I would go into a mental shift, I would only do so late at night when both of them were asleep.... not able to fully be myself or who I really was...
"IN GODS HANDS.
Once upon a time, there was this mother, who had a daughter that made the same mistake in her life, time after time. This mother always talked to this daughter to go in a different direction to get a different result, but this daughter never listened.
One day this daughter was on her own, and made a very bad choice, and again this mother tried to warn her and talk to her, even to argue with her, but this daughter still would not listen.
Then one night, God spoke to this mother and said. "Let her go."
So this mother did. Now this mother knows God will teach her daughter more than she ever could. So, with the love of a mother, she put her daughter in Gods hands and said goodbye for awhile.
IN GODS HANDS."
.... -facedesks- x-x While I do understand my mother is just trying to 'love me' by offering her advice, she has done NOTHING but judge me in the past and now has been judging my once mate when I told her I was with him awhile back. She has done nothing but judge him, calling him a loser without even KNOWING him or MEETING him. I told him everything they said, for I do not feel it is right for people to go behind someone's back and slander their names or lest judge another without getting to know them...
I awoke this morning to this text. I think what frustrates me the most from receiving this text is not the text itself, but the fact that it is clear that she still thinks she is right to be judging him, and does not see what she herself has done wrong. I think that has been what has been frustrating me the most. They think they have right to judge and slander people behind their backs. Yet she is putting me in 'God's hands now.' She is sure oblivious. God has always been with me when she wasn't or my father wasn't. I went to God when this SAME MOTHER in the past called me a WHORE, is now putting me in 'God's hands,' but her hopes and reasoning for such are so that I will somehow "realize she is right and I am wrong." It was GOD and the love of my FRIENDS who lifted me up. When I had NO WHERE else to turn, I had my friends and GOD behind me. I prayed and I received God's love and assurance. Where was she during that time? JUDGING ME. Slandering me... whilst all I could do was pray and cry in my bedroom, and hide a lot of stuff from them in FEARS of being judged...
THIS SAME MOTHER, who when I tried to tell her about my therianthropy, JUDGED me and said "if you ever, ever say that you THINK you are a wolf, we will get you admitted." I am fumed..... and hurt. I have wanted nothing but for her to just love and accept me.
Well "Mother," GOD has been there all along. I have always been under HIS watch. It is YOU who has constantly judged me. I have prayed countless times to God. While you slandered me, calling me a "child," or "whore," or telling me that you would get me admitted, or calling me a freak/weirdo for being into the furry fandom. While you guys judged me, I got God's love and reassurance...
My 'mother' has also blamed him for the problems we had. She needs to realize that it is HER that is doing it to HERSELF and to us. My parents are what have made me so paranoid and fearful, aside from my bad past relationships... they made me cower in fear of being judged and ridiculed. I used to live with my folks and I would have to hide everything in the confinements of my bedroom. When I would go into a mental shift, I would only do so late at night when both of them were asleep.... not able to fully be myself or who I really was...
Actually, from what my mother says to me: "no man is good enough in a mother's eyes for their daughter(s). You could be marrying a prince and he still isn't good enough but after meeting and getting to know the gentleman the mother will grow to be supportive of the relationship because her child's happiness is all that matters."
I took that into account.
But to sum it all up your mother jut wants the best for you. Not in a method that she has partaken into but it's in her own way. I think you both just need to actually sit down and have a heart to heart.
I know she is worried about me being 'taken advantage of' but that was not the case with Raven... But of course due to my fears, I let it take control and now I lost him as my mate and lover..... I do hope to regain that back with him some day..... if it is ever even possible. :I
*hugs*
There is also the verse:
"For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again."
Or also:
"Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye."
I don't know all of the details, but that message does not sound supportive. I hope that you have people that can support you and provide you assistance when you need it. I don't find a message like that productive.
I hope the relationship between you and your mother improves, but short of that, I hope you find happiness regardless of this situation.
Hang in there, Snow. People care, and show it in a more positive way... I hope some of us can show that to you :)