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First Con Nerves
12 years ago
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I'm getting kind of nervous about MFF. I'm not really sure how to approach my first fur con, but I'm pretty sure I'm overthinking it at this point.
1. Dealing with creepyfurs.
I'm really bad at this. I am uncomfortable telling someone to go away because I find their presence/smell/personality/etc. off-putting, but I'm also very uncomfortable around those people, so it's really a damed if I do damned if I don't type situation. I've heard varying reports of how prevalent a problem this is - I'm just really bad at dealing with awkward people, and that really worries me.
2. I'm not really comfortable being a furry.
As many of those who talk to me frequently are probably aware, even though I've been kicking around in the fandom for years and years online, I have very little IRL furry experience under my belt. I've been to two or three fur meets of varying size, hung around with a select group of furs outside the confines of an organized event. But that being said, I am still VERY new to being around in a furry atmosphere. The idea of existing in a furry specific bubble for an entire weekend frankly weirds me out quite a bit. I'm most certainly a furry, and I'm most certainly interest in some of the things that other furries are interested in, but I honestly don't understand how to relate with other furs on a furry level. (as stupid as that sounds.) I'm stupendously self conscious about the whole thing, and I'm too uncomfortable to really let my fur out and allow myself to be as silly/fun as I want to be, and have fun with other people. I'm a bloody stick in the mud, and I hate it.
3. I don't know what the hell I'm actually going to do at MFF.
I don't have a fursuit, I don't really have much experience with video games, I'm not a big fan of techno music, I don't dance for shit, and I don't have the coin to spend all day in the marketplace buying porn and dildos, or whatever the hell you do there. I know a fair number of people that are going to the con, and I know of a few outside the hotel things that people want to do, but I honestly can't imagine myself filling up an entire weekend comfortably with these things. I don't want to end up stuck playing around on my iPhone pretending to be interest in the minutia of the fandom.
These are just a few of my concerns that I wanted to flesh out, because goddamn. I'm worried for no good reason and it's bothering. me. I'm still going to go, and I'm going to try have fun... but I'm certainly not walking into it confident that I'll be much fun to be around. But that's probably just my low self esteem speaking.
Over.
1. Dealing with creepyfurs.
I'm really bad at this. I am uncomfortable telling someone to go away because I find their presence/smell/personality/etc. off-putting, but I'm also very uncomfortable around those people, so it's really a damed if I do damned if I don't type situation. I've heard varying reports of how prevalent a problem this is - I'm just really bad at dealing with awkward people, and that really worries me.
2. I'm not really comfortable being a furry.
As many of those who talk to me frequently are probably aware, even though I've been kicking around in the fandom for years and years online, I have very little IRL furry experience under my belt. I've been to two or three fur meets of varying size, hung around with a select group of furs outside the confines of an organized event. But that being said, I am still VERY new to being around in a furry atmosphere. The idea of existing in a furry specific bubble for an entire weekend frankly weirds me out quite a bit. I'm most certainly a furry, and I'm most certainly interest in some of the things that other furries are interested in, but I honestly don't understand how to relate with other furs on a furry level. (as stupid as that sounds.) I'm stupendously self conscious about the whole thing, and I'm too uncomfortable to really let my fur out and allow myself to be as silly/fun as I want to be, and have fun with other people. I'm a bloody stick in the mud, and I hate it.
3. I don't know what the hell I'm actually going to do at MFF.
I don't have a fursuit, I don't really have much experience with video games, I'm not a big fan of techno music, I don't dance for shit, and I don't have the coin to spend all day in the marketplace buying porn and dildos, or whatever the hell you do there. I know a fair number of people that are going to the con, and I know of a few outside the hotel things that people want to do, but I honestly can't imagine myself filling up an entire weekend comfortably with these things. I don't want to end up stuck playing around on my iPhone pretending to be interest in the minutia of the fandom.
These are just a few of my concerns that I wanted to flesh out, because goddamn. I'm worried for no good reason and it's bothering. me. I'm still going to go, and I'm going to try have fun... but I'm certainly not walking into it confident that I'll be much fun to be around. But that's probably just my low self esteem speaking.
Over.
2. Thats ok, you do it at the level your comfortable with. Every con I have been to I always take a break at least once or twice and find something local to the area thats interesting - like some creepy house that has tours, trying new cuisine, seeing a local historical landmark, ect.
3. Since there will be stuff of all kinds happening everywhere, just roam, watch, and explore. You might find something that really grabs an interest you never thought about.
You will be ok.