I really don't think you are, trust me you have far more tact than somebody like I and personally I've always enjoyed your humour.

Thanks, means a lot!

hey, daniel! you are a great artist!
i love your artwork, and concept. if someone says comment offensive so...
that is the jerk.

Not really. Perhaps I'd need to know more proper context, but submission wise or comment wise, I've not seen anything that would warrant this particular label.

Thanks squirrely wirrely

you're not a jerk O: you're a jokester , maybe that person doesnt have a sense of humor for your jokin ? or maybe you caught em on a bad day

either way eye love joos

Thanks DriggleMcSquiggles!

new skype name! TY

Oops, forgot the shitload of hearts.

Not being told about something you did wrong is the single most childish excuse for someone to have. Tell them to man up and explain what was done wrong, otherwise its probably nothing and you shouldn't be worried about it in the least.

As someone who occasionally is in your streams when you happen to be chatting and whatnot, no, you're not offensive in any way and are probably one of the nicest people out there.

Thanks Jazzy, it's always nice to see you pop into my streams. I'll be honest it somehow really spikes my mood, maybe because I've known about you practically since I joined FA.

And I agree, what they and people like them need to understand is that the Rule of the Universe is "You can't learn something unless someone or something else tells you it!"

I'm glad that I can spike your mood for the better and for the good! Makes me happy!

Though yeah, it goes along with people trying to manipulate others. Like, "if I don't tell him what he did wrong, I'll eventually get into his head and get stuff." Least that is how I see it at times and what's happened to me on occasion.

Still; wouldn't/shouldn't let it bother you. <3

I meant Jaggy*

I can only judge by your art, and you're kinda mean to rodents once in a while, but still nothing to be offended about.

THEY DESERVE IT

i don't ^^

Nope you not a jerk, I can tell when your joking around teasing ^^ I enjoy coming to your streams cause your fun to be around. Also enjoy your company! I'm sorry to hear somebody sent ya the message and you felt hurt by it.

Thanks Steph, you are the one I was actually worried about the most, seeing as I know you don't like sex with your character and occasionally I'll doodle a joking picture of it.

Awwwwwwwwwwww <3 No worry Ivan I know you only teasing kidding around :3 It's funny really.

I like how you are, and know its mostly just fun

Thanks Jaggy!

I meant Jazzy!

I meant Jabby!

Hah no problem Ivan :D

We've already talked about my perspective on this, as you know, and you've clearly worked on the areas I pointed out, so I don't really have any complaints anymore.

With that said, the way you tell this story, it kinda sounds like the person who was offended is being the jerk. If you're offended, tell the person why so they can fix the problem. Obviously, I don't know the whole story, and maybe they did tell you but in a roundabout way that you didn't catch or something, but taken at face value, I don't think you're the jerk here.

That's what I'm thinking too, sometimes instead of telling me that they're offended people will just use an emote like "O/////O", which doesn't really tell me anything.

Yeah. Furries are notoriously wishy-washy when it comes to making waves. I have trouble telling if they're serious or not, and if they push an issue, I usually just straight-up ask them if they're roleplaying or if they're seriously offended.

Mhm, I really appreciate the talk we had on Victor's stream, thanks for that.

Yeah. I'm glad we had it too. Clearing bad blood always feels good.

At the time...

stfu

no u

I don't think so!

First time I went to your stream for a commission I found that you're a pretty cool guy(and I hope to be back for another one in the future)! =)

And sometimes, with all of our different tastes in humor, offending people just can't be avoided. What can you do, you know? @w@

Yeah, different backgrounds and whatnot...

Thanks.

people can be sensitive about certain topics. I wouldnt exactly go so far as to call you a jerk

I don't know you too well but I don't see anything that would be offensive but then again you just can't please everyone

I agree, can't please everyone, BUT I WANT TO!!! lol

The fact that you are even asking this is proof enough that you are not a jerk.

A real jerk would have either-
A) brushed it off as somebody being too sensitive and forgotten already.
B) laughed and made fun of the person who said it wasn't something to joke about.

So no, you're not a jerk.

I won't even tell the gender of the person.. So it could be anybody! o.o!!!

Even more proof that you're not a jerk.

Nah you're fine, I just don't jnderstand some things about you, but that might be me just being dumb and oblivious

Every one is different. Some people offend easily. You can't please every one and any one, but it's the ones who are drawn to you that matters, regardless of what you say/do

As a guy who can randomly have Panic Attacks out of nowhere I can understand that.

By which I meant, maybe they were just having a mood spike.

Glad I'm not the only one with Panic Attacks

Actually, I think you fairly are.
But before reacting, read this text whole. Consider I'm telling you with all the sincerity I'm possible and as close to a friend as I can. Sometimes saying your thoughts is difficult, over all if you're super shy.

One of the things why you are known -aside of the art- are the jokes that you do, sometimes insensitive. Sometimes you tend to yell to people over petty things, and you get angry very easily. Believe it or not that was the reason why it was so extremely difficult to start daring to talk or to say anything in your streams. Basically the fear to be yelled out of nothing (or what I felt it was nothing).

I am aware we talked about this some weeks ago in a stream, and you have been working in fixing these problems, but you havent changed completely. And that is understandable, to certain extent: I keep several of my past defects, even if I worked hard for leaving them. Some defects will never be completely left, indeed.

The thing is: Always, when you're going to react or to say something, try to see everything from the point of view of the other person. Sometimes is difficult, over all if that person thinks different to you, but doing that requires time learning to do it. By example, you can't yell a person that is just trying to get a friend, doesn't matter how noob that person is. Some people have strong difficulties for having the bravery to talk or to ask stuff, and being yelled would only throw them off.

That can be applied to all sort of things. Is somebody on your stream pissing you off? Pause for a moment and think "Why is he doing it?".
Getting used to do that always, will make you be more empathic, and hence being seen as less jerkish. You aren't a god -nor am I nor is anybody-; we all are human beings and we sometimes commit errors and mistakes, and some of us like different things.

I'd say look around and think: "Why does people gets closer to me? What do I have to offer to that people that makes me sightly interesting?".

That's it, actually.
Don't think I'm telling this to you in a bad way. I tell this to you because I still care about you, what happens around and the people that surround us. We all belong to the same group, after all.

Yeah I've been trying to work on that.. Frankly it's a problem I've had most of my life, I hate repeating myself, and it's hard to for me to put myself in other people's shoes sometimes, on the spot it's even harder. It makes me mad when people say they've spoken English their whole life yet make spelling or grammar errors up the whoowhoo. However if I know they're from another country I don't get mad at them, because I know they just don't know any better. The ones that I get mad at are the ones that didn't take the time to learn their own damn language!

However half the reason I stream is for company, and when nobody talks it gets lonely, which upsets me. When I call out for people to talk they say stuff like "Don't know what to talk about." You say because they might be intimidated, which can be true, most likely is the case too, which is why my more recent streams I've been just jabbering away most of the time, and reading the replies, instead of just waiting for someone else to start the convorsations.

And that is appreciated. But as I commented, changing takes time and effort.
I consider myself guilty of once saying "I dont know what to talk about", but I later understood that you're right on that. One of the reasons why I stream too is company, actually.

Also I understand that is very difficult to get in the shoes of other person, but is an effort that well worths the investment. You can be seen as intimidating and/or mean -that is basically how I saw you in the past before we got to talk- and you can be seen as somebody nice. Since clearly you want to be seen as the second (somebody nice), trying to understand others its the key for that. That is, actually, why most of the times I am very careful who do I joke about or about the exact moment to throw a joke, even when I'm the streamer. I know it may sound ugly that i'm citing myself as example, but sadly is the only example I have handy now.

And like it happened in my stream that time, if you see the other person is becoming mad for real, talk to that person privately and apologize, even if deep inside you feel you are right. This is not a competition, and things can always be spoken later when the heat of the situation already colded up. I have lost friends in the past due to just replying stuff in the heat of the discussion, and I do not want that to happen to you nor to anybody, because its one of the worst feelings when it happens with somebody you genuinely appreciate and love.

Just my two cents. :)

Talk to that person privately and, if possible, apologize*

Damn my grammar.

Your grammar is fine! I mean it's only slightly off.. VERY slightly.. You're like near perfect.

Dont worry, I mean its my problem because I usually write and then hit send without re-reading my stuff twice and then I have to correct what I didnt say well, or to remake the post. If you sometime see a "hidden" post next to a post of me, its due to that.

Sounds more like he was just being overly sensitive. If you can't take a joke, that's your problem, not the problem of the one making the joke.

YEAH you big fat jerk! naw I'm just kidding

OR ARE YOU!?

tbtbtbtbt

Dude, some people will be offended at stuff they really shouldn't. This person is just being overly sensitive about whatever it is and can't see the likely psychologically healthy way in which you have used the subject matter for comedic effect. Don't worry about it, dumb people who don't understand the application and reason for humour will always just be there making arguments like that.

Your idea about birds sleeping on the ground to be EXTREMELY offensive.

Dude that DO do that! I seen them! When I had my paper route they all over da place!

You call me tiny and step on me with your foot paw which I find sorta offensive....what would Sasha think if she saw you doing all that too me?

Oh god you...

As a person who has had friends around that didnt like you and thought you weren't a nice person, I will give the opinion they gave me on their behalf. When they joined your stream they felt severely out of place because it felt like they didnt have the welcoming feeling they were hoping for when entering a new stream. For the most part they felt like it was mostly communication between, in their words, "his mousies and him." This is all I really have in terms of criticism that I have heard float around. So take it how you want, that's all I can give though.

NEVER!

I know we don't talk much but I don't think I could ever say you were a bad friend to me or someone I'd dislike.

From my view point you're a cool dude! If people think you're a jerk who cares! You have friends who are appreciateive of you for who you are!

DAWWWW Thanks Sol!

Yeah that's something I have to remind myself from time to time. I can't possibly be friends with everyone, there's a limit to how many people I can have as friends and make time to spend time with.

there are some instances where yes you could use a little more tact, and at some times you can get upset over some very insignificant things like htfcuddles had said, for one instance when you had called me an asshole simply for when we disagreed on what a video said about whether pie was infinite, though I bear no ill will towards that, you can also be rather intimidating because there are times you can lash out at people for the smallest things that everyone is so careful where they step because they do not want to upset you and just want to keep you happy, it may be due to your popularity that they don't want to get on your bad side, it makes it difficult for people to speak freely around you, if they are afraid to offend you or be heckled and degraded for their own opinion

however all that being said, I do also see where your coming from especially online its hard to read and judge how people will respond so some things and because of that something intended to be innocent can be taken the wrong way or out of context

do I think you are a jerk? I believe there are some things you can work on like everyone has, you have your moments as we all do

but no your not a complete jerk and you are my friend regardless of a few bumps in the road we may have had :3

Well that was just me being a complete moron and mishearing the video.. You were right, and when I found out I was wrong I got upset. I never said it but I'm sorry.

your fine buddy I don't hold it against you and I'm glad to have you as a friend, everyone has a few things they need to work on but that doesn't mean that don't like you and I still think your a really cool guy

I am going to agree with htfcuddles a little bit here. Mostly what it comes down to is a noticeable trend in oversensitivity, at least from the few times we've conversed. Perhaps it was just a few bad instances though, like you had a rough day? I need to actually be in your streams more often.

But the few times I was around, I saw you had a higher level of intensity than most would. I guess it's not a huge issue, considering you could have it marked up as being passionate, but when you meet new people and they see your very confrontational demeanor, it can be a little off putting.

I doubt you will remember it, but I remember during my commission that you had streamed you got pretty upset with me over something I would not even consider noteworthy, that is, I was talking too fast.

I do not want to cause a problem, especially because I know you are a shit ton of fun to converse with, so I am thinking the few times we talked were under stressful circumstances and perhaps I am getting a bad impression. In any case, I say this not out of maliciousness, but just being honest and answering your question. Shit, I don't think I am perfect either, so a few minor character flaws are not a big deal.

Well you're right, I don't remember getting mad about it, probably did though, when the comments are flying by so fast that I don't have time to read them before they're off the page it upsets me. I can't read and draw at the same time afterall. So I'm sorry dude.

Hey it was not really an issue for me then, it's not now. If it helps any, I found your stream pretty fucking fun and it's totally something I'll have to come back to.

People will always offend others no matter what you do. The important thing is that you make it clear you're just joking around though you can cross a line despite your intent. Messing with people is fun but if you do it nonstop then people will see you as a jerk. As long as you take a break from it and apologize to anyone you offended you should be good, cuz if anyone is still upset then they need an icepack for their bottom.

I think it's very big of you to make a journal like this :>
It's not easy to ask others about what our own faults are, but the fact that you're doing so means that you're trying to better yourself, and that's something all of us should do!

As for the journal at hand, yes some of what other people have said is true, but I always thought of you as someone who expressed himself better through art that with words :3
You're a generous person, and have always been a good friend to me. And the few times in the past where you may have said something that hurt my feelings, you were very quick to make up with me.

Self reflection is never easy, but being aware of your own faults is something that will always make you a better person in the long run. :3

But in short, no, I don't think you're a jerk at all :>

Sniff *hugs my mousy*

Well, I'll admit I'm sometimes not sure wether you're joking or being serious about something, both on the stream and in text format. Although that's probably more my fault than yours. x3

From what I know of you, you're definitely not a jerk though, you're a pretty nice person both to friends and random FA people.
So the person you're talking about is probably just being oversensitive about a joke, although it's hard to judge either side of the story when (s)he won't even tell what it's about. :V

(Then again, saying somebody did something to offend you and then not telling them what it was is pretty lame)

Of course you are. Cats are horrible people =P

On a more serious note...No... GOD no XD If you're a jerk, then I'm a super-villain =P

Well I'm glad you brought that up... Cuzz... You see...

JK, thanks man!

we are all are jerks in or own special ways ..but personally what you are describing sound to me more like an accident than you being a jerk..besides a jerk wouldn't have ask himself " am I a Jerk"

I've seen you come off as a little abrasive before, but I wouldn't say that makes you a jerk.

its hard to tell ivan .. i mostly dont take stuff to seriuse but thats one of my things i guess
but well being carfull of what we say is always important, " did i know this person enougeh to tell them this ? " is mostly what i ask myself
everytime i do jokes , like i said for my point of veiw you are a guy who like joking and thats how i take it , jokes..

Acerbic, certainly. Not necessarily a jerk!

There are just some things people don't want to talk about or joke about. And that's different for everyone. The only way to make a joke that doesn't offend anyone is to not make a joke at all.

we never talk, so i can't judge ya.

Was this person a mouse? Cause thats really the only reason id see for someone thinking your a jerk. Besides there just food anyway so dont take anything that person said to heart. Your great just the way you are!

I don't think you are a jerk. Not at all. :o You have a crude sense of humor (one that I personally can appreciate) but some people may just overreact about it.
Sounds like they got their jimmies rustled.

To add to this, people sometimes can't tell when others are joking. But if you tried to explain to them that it was a joke and they still got offended, I wouldn't really call that a friend. Considering you know, they won't appreciate you for who you are.

I feel as though I could have worded this better, but I kinda just woke up. XwX
Anyway, try not to let em get to ya buddy. Ya got friends who know you better than that and understand. :3

Usually when I'm joking, I try to use an Alternate Voice to help give people a clue.. I guess it could be confusing to people who haven't heard my real voice enough to know though..

not that I know of, then again I don't like to talk to people, but you seem like a nice guy. sorry to hear that. just another idiot in this world talkin random trash.

...get to know me so I can have an opinion? :3
*extends a paw*

We don't talk, but I never seen you be mean in the slightest, much less a jerk. You don't seem like one in the slightest and that person was wrong!
I also know how it feels with the not being told. I had someone who use to not talk to me, insult me, and be mean because of things I was never told about. So I know how it is to get called something or to -hurt- someone and not know how. If you want to talk about it at all you can note me.

Yes. Maybe not intentionally but you do sometimes come across as a total ass. Most of the time it's easy enough to ignore, but sometimes not. I say this honestly and withou bias because I never really considered us quite on the level of friends.

That said, you needn't necessarily change yourself. Just accept that some people won't like you, even if you like them.

You're a big name in some of these circles. That will foster a lot of resentment as well as admiration. For the record, I'd bet you only care this time because it is someone you know that you've pissed off.

And I've never seen this person this upset either, it's not a nice feeling.

Nah not really

No worries. There are a couple times I've thought you were a bit jerkish (the times of when, I cannot quite remember) but most of the time you're a pretty decent guy. Sorry I don't make it to your steams that often! I never seem to catch them while they're on.

I find your humor and comments to be awesome, personally. They remind me of my kind of humor. Generally people need to know ME before they understand my humor. Random question: may I add you on Skype =D?

Keep on being you. Some people may have a problem with it, but most of the time they're not worth the time anyways

-Hasp

I always thought your jokes are a bit funny and you don't mean any harm by it all and all I think your a cool guy

Never had any problem with you but we also don't talk thaaaat much. I like how you are *nibbles your ear*

Huh, I don't go to your streams. but these days it seems people in general are easily offended by seemingly mundane things. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Sarcastic? I say yes. A jerk? NOPE.

*Shrugs* Do you argue with yourself and lose?~

As it's very hard to upset me I'm probably not the best judge of character, especially over the internet. But from the tiny bit of streaming I have watch, the journals I have read and the comments on your work you have left; all lead me to think that you mean well.

I understand that some subject matter people can get quite passionate about, (there is even some that I do as well), but not explaining what it is, especially after asking is just imature and not going to help with the greater understanding of the situation.

What I think I am trying to say is that you shouldn't get too worried about the situation and that it is a sign of how much you DO care.that you made this journal entry. The fact that you seem to be reading through it carefully and responding rationally is further proof of this!

You are one of the better artist I follow on this site, in both quality and content. Don't let this get you down! The are plenty more mice like me that you need to 'help'.

Thanks for your time reading, if not TLDR: thank you for being awesome.

There isn't much I can say on the matter, seeing as I don't know much about you on a personal level, being a sensitive guy, and one who doesn't always get people's humor, I can say that to me, you did seem like a bit of a jerk the few times I have interacted with you for the past few years. Does that make you a jerk? Well its hard to say, you could say that the probleme lies with me in this case, as I am more sensitive then the average joe, so its really hard to say but judging from all the responses so far, it doesn't seem like you are.

And about the guy who is offended, it sound like he might be trying to get some attention, I know so because I am myself a bit of an attention whore, and being offended is often use as a way to draw attention to yourself, or he might not fully understand why he is offended himself: sometimes the emotional side of your brain isn't in sink with your logical side, making you feel sad/angry/disgusted about something which seems silly or trivial, which might explain why he doesn't wanna tell. That or he might just be angry with you for another reason, and was merly looking for an excuse to be angry at you.

You don't know me, but you've always struck me as someone who's outspoken and not really afraid to say what's on your mind (or to miss a chance to be witty)

I don't think it's a terribly bad thing though.

Well, you sometimes come off a little strong. All in all, you're not a jerk, but you can be relatively abrasive at times. Mostly why I haven't spoken to you in a while. :/ Didn't really know how to approach you on it. But hey, everyone makes mistakes and errors and such, and I know that you're not a bad guy. Just offending isn't always something that can be avoided.

Hope to be able to chat with you again soon.

Pretty much for all the reasons that HTF outlined. I don't really see you improving and you don't take well to offers for outside help.

we all act like jerks sometime but i don't find ya the type that offends people on purpose. it was accident, shit happens and that's life

I don't think there's much I can add to what's already been said, but I personally don't think you're a jerk, maybe just a little intimidating for us overly-sensitive folk. I happen to think you're pretty kind, actually. :3

Oh, and you're also quite humorous in your streams. Hehehe

Some people get more easily offended than others. (myself being one of them)
Although I can't say you have offended me because I can tell when you are kidding.
Some people do go through struggles daily, or /have/ gone through struggles in their past that shape their mood and how they react to certain situations.
Don't stop being yourself for somebody else. If they get really offended with things that you do, then it might be good advice to just go your separate ways.
Of course there are other options, I'm just not sure what else to say. xD

I like you just how you are.

I think that some people might get offended or otherwise put off by your attitude in general, but some people just have trouble telling when people are joking or not. I definitely used to for a number of years, and that was due to the people I was around at school while growing up. Being sarcastic and ironic was funny and cool, and I didn't respond well to that.

Obviously, things are different now! The only thing that offends me is being called Makunt.

...

*glares* >;c

I also have a sense of humor that can get so offensive I'm only willing to unleash it with very close friends. There have been times I've gone farther than they were able to stand, but the reaction was "Stop that," instead of refusing to say why they were offended.

Honestly, if they won't actually tell you what you did wrong, that means they're not allowing you a solution, and all you can do is assume they're screwing with you.

|: Total jerk. The jerkiest jerk ever. Shame on you. Nah kidding you're cool :P

Nope not at all of coarse i only just started to get to know you (been a big fan of you art for a long time) but since i've been on FA i've been given nothing but warm welcomes from everyone, including you, but from little i do know of you is that your a mild mannered and patient person sure you joke around here and there ( like with my name) but i know it's all in fun. and i'm like you i try to make everyone i can happy when i can but we all know you can't, but don't let this one bad egg spoil the whole bunch just take a look at all the people that took the time to comment on this post these are people you've touched weather it was personal or inspirational and if you ask me that is all that really matters

as always keep up the good work sincerely you bud TryManX

I don't think you are a jerk. But I don't really say much because I am afraid that you would get angry at me and shout at me like you have done to others in the past as i've seen you get upset easily over petty things. So i tend not really to say much anymore. I know that you're a nice guy at heart, especially with the time and effort you've put into doing surprises and gifts to me in the past. As well as viewing the work you have done for others out of kindness.

But to sum it up. I don't think you are a jerk.

That person should tell you what it was that seemed so offensive instead of beating around the bush. It's that kind of stupidity that makes a person become dull shadow of their former self. If they won't tell you then they should shut up on the matter and not drag your thoughts in the dirt. Complaining without giving the needed info is not fixing the problem, it's just going too make things worse and stressful.

all to much i know your feeling i have had that earlyer today and it was just on a comment well i hope you have a great day

Not a jerk, in my opinion. But rather direct, yes. I can see how a sensitive person might get offended by you. I manage to offend people the same way every now and then.

Yes. But you're my jerk. So it's ok.

You have at times frustrated me to unprecedented levels before, Broke my sune heart, and made me cry.

But you have also mad me happy, smile, laugh, and have a good time. I know we dun talk much these days, but just know you'll always be loved by me.


Much love bro,

Salty

You're exactly like me, so please don't change.

Well, *I* feel like a jerk for seeing this journal then forgetting to post in it for a while...

But no, you're not a jerk.

Although your writing style, particularly in comments and replies to comments, tends to be both heavily opinionated and rather terse, which can make it come off as sounding angry and mean spirited at times, even though that is not the intent.

I just wonder what's so wrong with being offended.

Personally, as someone who watches your streams and just lurks, I dont't think you're a jerk. I like your sense of humor, I remember you from lurking around .hack stuff, but I've never had any issue with you or what you say. I'm just shy so I feel weird approaching peoples, but you do seem like a really neat guy. It really does just sound like someone got upset for misunderstanding yah, and that happens. No-one can really always be on the same page, yeah?