As an asexual myself this does tend to sound quite similar to my experiences, indeed. I don't find either gender of human to be "attractive", I don't care for sexual activity (or depictions thereof) and I'm not much looking for a sexually relationship, though I'm also not particularly interested in any relationship either, but ehh, that's just me.

Granted I'm no expert on the matter, I just learned what it was and decided that fit me more than any other sexuality seemed to, but. Probably not someone who would be able to discuss much, though from what you've written here I'd say you seem to fit more into asexual than any other sexuality. Of course, don't let me or anyone else decide it for you, just my opinion and all.

I don't particularly think there's anything wrong with being asexual, or any shame that should be related to it. Society is just so overly sexual in nature that it wouldn't surprise me if people who are asexual feel pressured into sexual activity because of media and whatnot. Bleh. I'm sort of rambling now, I'll stop.

Oh, don't get me wrong, there is a bit of an interest there, but it's purely fantasy. I guess you could say it's similar to vore fetish fantasies where the imagination makes it sound a lot more appealing than the reality would be.

I don't mind rants though, it's nice to actually get some really deep insight into it~

Yeah, suppose I can understand it in a fantasy sense, since that's the point of fantasy. I don't even care for it in fantasy myself, but all people are different so it's not like that says anything about you or asexuals in general~

And I don't really have much in the way of insight, I can see Peanut's response below mine is certainly more insightful at the very least |3

From what I did discover while browsing the definition of Asexuality, it isn't uncommon for Asexual people to at least "not mind" the idea of sex. Some will even engage in it purely for the pleasure of the person they're with. So I guess it's a very broad thing~

Heh, yeah, I figured that would be the case.
No "group" is ever so simple that it's universal for everyone who considers themselves a member of the group. I mean, I've not met two people who have all exactly the same tastes in vore, for the obvious example. Honestly don't mind that things aren't simple, I don't think people are simple either (well... some are, but that's a different rant entirely).

O-oh dear. Someone else who's asexual? This is... So reaffirming you have no idea. ;~;

As for me myself, I don't believe there's anything wrong with being asexual. I didn't always feel that way, though. I used to think there was something wrong with me, given that literally everyone else in my age group I knew was pursuing a partner, while I was kind of left alone in the dark and wasn't feeling any of these "attractions" towards anyone else. At all. I started to feel lonely as more of my friends found people to date, while I still wasn't interested. I eventually got over it, though, and realized I should just be satisfied with being me. I realized I wasn't weird, or sick. Just different.

The very idea of intercourse or anything related thereto absolutely repulses me. I can't stand thinking about it, and the thought of ACTUALLY INVOLVING MYSELF in such a scenario makes me feel physically ill.

Just do what I do: Tell yourself you're not crazy for not being attracted to anyone in that way. I'm completely satisfied with just being me, myself and I, and nobody can take that from you or me, both. :3

Oh, I never said there was anything wrong with it, it's just something I've discovered and thought I should discuss a bit with someone. I did feel the same way for a while though. I thought that perhaps I just had a broken sex drive or perhaps I just hadn't found the right person but its starting to seem like Asexuality is the actual cause. After being in a couple relationships though I'm happy just staying single anyway. Romance is still nice, but a sexual relationship is what the other person is after then I doubt I'd be able to keep it going.

And like I mentioned to Korynn above, the idea of sex isn't that unappealing to me. Actually doing the act itself though just...Doesn't do anything for me.

Ranger...
You need to speak with
She is in the same boat, and would be a GREAT source of wisdom on the matter

I should, yeah~

My god. I think it might be the same thing as me. o:

It's possible~

Yes, this is sort of the reaction I had as well. "Oh... that's a thing? Sounds like me! I guess this is what I am!" |3

Almost what happened here too, only there was a fair bit more thinking behind it. Pretty much a "Oh yeah, I never really considered this possibility before...Maybe I should look into this more and see if the pieces fit"

Perhaps I'm just a bit more impulsive, then!

Well... This is certainly not something I expected. I'm not in the same boat, but being a virgin and not really enjoying anything sexual in roleplays other than as an addon to vore anymore, who knows. I do hope that you figure things out, either way. I wish you luck. ^^

I can certainly enjoy some good vore, that's for sure. Plain old sex in an RP is also pretty neat, but anything offline just...Isn't the same.

I couldn't put it into words; you just vocalized everything on my mind these last few days. Thank you.

Hey, no problem! I'm still sorta learning myself though.

This is very true, I'll have to take a look at that link sometime and read up~

I feel like i should say something, since i'm pretty much asexual 'n such. But i don't really know what to say. Blargh!

That's fine, there seems to be plenty of opinions floating about already~

I see that, i'm surprised!

I definitely have characteristics of being asexual.

But..I do love my Boyfriend..x3 And that's pretty much it
So I guess that makes me Male Romantic, but not really much else.

So, looking at the number of people who've commented on this journal thus far, you're not alone. : ]

Male Romantic sounds right, yeah. You're allowed to love someone without wanting to have sex with them.

And I never said I was alone XP I just wanted to talk to someone about it~

well I don't have any big insight about it, but im happy to hear im not the only one. ive had one or two mildly sexual experiences, kept my virginity but I can surely say that vaginas freak me out. of course boy parts freak me out as well to an extent but girls... *shudder* and what you say about enjoying the romance and all, I agree because im all about cuddling and kisses and time spent with eachother, not sure how long ive been this way for sure but atleast I know im not kidding myself when I say "im asexual"

I don't see the harm in referring to yourself as Asexual, even if, later down the track, your preferences or something were to change and you find that "spark" that sets things off, or that one someone who just knows how to make it good.

All up to you, really~

Mreh, lottsa furries can't really step back into the relatively less interesting human/RL stuff. I find sex woefully dull, and avoid it like the plague, feeling it's time I could better spend doing anything else, literally. Like playing gameboy~

I'd doubt you'd be properly asexual given your apparent enjoyment of sextimes online and in art. Sure, I love intimate and adult cuddling and stuff, but outright set...every time I've tried that I've been bored, and wanted to step back to lewd cuddling/kissing and whatnot, so you're hardly alone. Give me half an hour with the internet over boring old sex ~..~

Also...why would this be of concern to you, anyway? ;x It's...really not a big deal. If you're not interested in fucking, that's pretty straight forward, no need to be at all troubled by it~

I...Never said it was a big deal? o3o I know, yes, if I'm not interested in it then there's no helping it. I'm just asking about it is to find someone to and get a better understanding of it. From what I've read already it's not uncommon for an Asexual purpose to find sexual pleasure in something other than sex with another person, so I don't see why finding fantasies appealing would mean you're not "technically" Asexual.

I'm just not ruling out the possibility that I might be wrong.

Well making a journal about it asking for thoughts means there's some level of concern, or at least confusion :V Just be who you want and fuck what you want, s'all good *Noms on*

I already mentioned why I made a journal. I'm just making sure I'm not just jumping to conclusions is all. If anything, the only concern is the case where I settle with "Yes, this must be it" only to, later down the track, find out I was completely wrong. Plus, yeah, the only confusion is just that, before I actually started reading about it, I was making the same assumptions as a lot of people about what Asexual actually means, so finding out the proper definition and how much more varied it is than I originally thought is actually a really good thing to learn~

If you still get aroused and fap often to various things but just have little interest in actual sexual intercourse, you sound a bit like me. XD

The interest is there, but imagination constantly makes it appear more appealing than it really is, so when the actual act does happen it just doesn't do anything. I dunno if it's just having too high of an expectation or something but I've had plenty of situations that just don't really work out at all. The closeness is enjoyable, but the pleasure just isn't there.

Go looking for one other that's the same way, get all these. :P It's not as uncommon as you think, methinks. But yeah. Stuff around FA? Hot. Real life? ...Don't think I've ever seen a person as sexually attractive. Sure, I can tell who looks good and doesn't, or who's pretty and who isn't, but it doesn't provoke a *feeling.*

Yeah, that seems to be what I'm finding~

And yeah, I can definitely find appealing content through artworks, animations and even audio, but when it comes to any sort of offline interaction the pleasure just isn't there, no matter who it seems to be.

I consider myself to be Asexual IRL, I've never really been attracted to someone in reality. Though I do enjoy the occasional sexual act through Roleplaying, but to me it's more the act of affection that I enjoy with people who are close to me. Sex alone is meaningless to me without some kind of emotion behind it, and I think it's the background processes that I primarily enjoy, invoking pleasant emotions and sensations in my partner is more important to my fulfillment than invoking them in myself directly.

RPing is still enjoyable, yeah. That's because it's all fantasy, and fantasy is naturally appealing because you're imagining what you want things to be like, which can greatly differ from how they would really be. I also agree that affection is the much more prominent side for me than anything else. Cuddling, kissing, and just being close is what I find most enjoyable~

Aye, Well Said.

Yo dude, welcome to the Asexual Definition!

As I read, most people here described it well. The short form would be:

A person who lacks the feeling of sexual attraction.

That means: You can still have sexual desire, though you aren't attracted to anything. So, Asexuals can still desire to have sex, or sexual gratification, though nothing really attracts them. This would lead them down the ways of autosexual gratification, so to speak. I am an asexual and proud of it!

If you want to know anything, just ask. I researched asexuality long ago when I started identifying as an Asexual... and I have had tons of people question be about it in the past.

You were actually the first person that came to mind when I was thinking "Who's likely gonna respond to this journal?" X3

But yeah, we should talk about it sometime. I remember personally seeing a couple people giving you a bit of a hard time about it a few years back, so now I can see where you were coming from a lot more clearly. Makes those other people seem like quite the jerks from a different perspective now~

Does this apply to online, real life, or both? Because I'm not attracted to anyone at all, but for me that mainly stems from the fact I'm not attracted to humans at all, in any sexual manner. For me, a deeper love would be a prerequisite for any form of sexual excitement, a deeper love to overcome my lack of attraction for the human form.

In that, I believe love conquers all. Through love, anyone and anything can be attractive, depending on the type of love and the circumstance.

That being said, there are physical forms that are more attractive to me than others, even if they can't exist in real life.

So I guess what I'm saying is, you may not be truly asexual if you simply have not run across that one thing, or combination of things, that actually does attract you yet. And without exposure, this would be an 'unknown unknown' so you'd be unaware of where to start to look for this missing 'something.'

Of course, you could be asexual! Only introspection can tell, and from what I've read, others here have some pretty good definitions of it.

Being that i require a prerequisite of deeper love before sexual attraction is possible in anything more than fantasy roleplay, and that I feel that love can conquer all and so there are no limitations to what I could be attracted to, if love is added to the equation, I identify as Pansexual. That is, the rejection of binary gender identity as a basis for determining romantic possibilities. All you need is love~

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnQSKfWDR7s

The Asexuality I'm talking about refers to real life. I've always found things like furries, vore and just fantasy in general rather attractive and pleasing, but real life just seems the complete opposite. My brother and friends from school, when we were younger, used to point out girls near the beach that they thought were super hot and I'd be the only one in the group just looking at the girl thinking "Uh, yeah, she's pretty but I don't see her in that way".

I have actually "experimented" a fair bit in the situations I have been in to try and find that "one thing" that does work. There's been no luck thus far.

Well, I imagine an asexual orientation would apply to most if not all fantasy things as well. I could be wrong though. Again, introspection is your path ^_^

It depends. there's different "levels" of Asexuality, just like there is any other Sexuality or preference as well. Some Asexuals don't find anything sexualy appealing (Which is the usual assumption) whilst some just find very specific things appealing~

Fair enough. Maybe by that definition, I'm asexual too~

I would call myself "pansexual", as I can still obtain sexual attraction for people, but only individuals whom I fall in love with. A naked man/woman/herm/whatever does nothing for me if I don't know them. But, then again, I also don't actually have an interest in sex in the real world. Yet intimacy is attractive to me. So I could probably be called either pansexual or asexual and both would be partially right. But neither are really the whole story, so for now, I'm just me. :3

That's perfectly understandable too. Even back when I was just getting into adulthood, I had that same stance where I didn't really like the idea of "one-night stands" and hooking up with someone I didn't already know. I still have the same sorta stance, since if I ever do "hook up" it's with someone I already know decently enough and trust enough to go with it.

Even with that there though, it doesn't do anything more than just make things more comfortable.

Indeed. I'd rather cuddle with someone I'm comfortable with rather than bone them. I guess I'm just incredibly gay like that.

Nothing wrong with a drowning someone in cuddles <3

I can cuddle with as many friends are comfortable with it, then, too! <3

Well, I have not much to say, this is interesting, just that most of the comments filled out the info I had, all I can say, is enjoy life, for there must be things you enjoy, just be happy and live the way you want to live, of course, not meaning in a wrongful way, there is always something, aslong as you have a smile that makes you happy, you're good, I just hope you are happy, after all, we all deserve a bit of happiness ^^

Oh of course, I've been enjoying life plenty thus far! Though I can admit that, until I started to consider this possibility, I did have that lingering feeling of being "broken" in a way, since almost everyone else I knew had perfectly normal sex drives and didn't seem to have the problems I was having.

That's kinda why the idea of possibly being Asexual is actually explaining a lot.

well, incase you end up in that, because well, so far, it's an idea, but if you do take it in you that you are asexual, then, it's something you are well, comfortable with, not like you said "Broken" because, even if there are many things in this life that ARE ment to break us, life just is what you see it, you chose what your eyes see, so, you can say you chose to be asexual, or not, but if you just ok with you, then, it's that, no need to worry, you can sum this up in a way, just not to worry, it's nothing to be afraid of unless you do have a problem with that, but either way, you can solve it, that simple ^^; well, you can say it sounds simple ^^;

So since apparently several people on here are asexual could I get a little help defining it? I have never really looked at someone with a sexual fantasy or ever thought about having sex with another person of the opposite sex even when I know them quite well. As you've seem to have said Ranger I see it as much more enjoyment than thinking about an intercourse. Kind of like a really close friend thing but sexual acts have never seriously crossed my mind. Here and there but always fleeting thoughts. Would this count as being asexual.

From what I've read, the most basic definition of Asexuality is "Someone who is not attracted to sex". You can still be attracted to someone in a non-sexual way, you can still find other things sexually appealing, you can even still refer to yourself as Gay, Bi, Straight or Pansexual. The only difference is you just don't find the act of having sex personally appealing.

What you describe could possibly be considered as Asexual. It's in the same boat as me where sexual thoughts do come to mind, and I do enjoy the idea of sex. But fantasizing about sex and having sex can be very different in the end, since the fantasy could invoke any feeling your mind wants, whilst the real life equivalent could be vastly different.

Finding porn appealing doesn't have anything to do with Asexuality. Some Asexual people don't find anything sexually appeal, some find a few things sexually appealing, and some (like me and it seems quite a few others here too) find the fantasy of sex appealing but find no actual attraction to the real-life equivalent.

Before I was considering the possibility of Asexuality, I had been considering other alternate causes such as just a low/broken sex drive, or even just plain old not doing it right. Trying to "fix" those sorts of problems though has resulted in no changes, which is why Asexuality is appearing to explain everything a lot better.

Oh, of course, everyone's gonna have a different assumption. The specifics can always be explained though if need be, but it get the basic message across~

AVEN is pretty good source. Best, IMO.

Asexuality, as I've come to understand it, only means a lack of sexual attraction; it doesn't have anything else to do with anything else, such as having fetishes or masturbating (as I've noticed someone saying above). Within asexuality are divisions such as romantic and aromantic (from what you've said, you sound like you may be romantic).

I'm an aromantic asexual, and have felt secure in this part of myself since my early teens--for nearly a dozen years, now, I'd guess--so I'd be open to more talk about this, if you wish to contact me.

AVEN? Sorry, I'm not familiar with the acronym.

Yeah, it seems people are getting a little mistaken in thinking that "Asexual" means "No Sex Drive". I'd definitely say I'm the Romantic type, since I'm more than happy to be close and intimate with someone, I just don't get any sexual pleasure from it.

The Asexuality Visibility and Education Network

Asexuality.org

Aha! I'll need to check this out then :D

I'm probably asexual, too.
But it's not because I can't make up my mind.
It's because I just don't give a damn.

Heh, fair enough

That, and where I live, it's pretty hard to get in a relationship of either sexual alignment for a guy like me.
All the girls are either whores who'd give you a BJ just to score their next joint, or immigrants who barely speak English.
And all the gay dudes...well, there aren't really any to speak of around here.
But you know what the weirdest part is? It sounds like the inter-city ghetto, but it isn't.

You are not alone *raises paw* And there is nothing wrong about it.

Never said there was~

As a partner to someone who is asexual, dont be ashamed of who you are, there are people out there who will respect that. I love my partner no matter what and from my point of view you are who you are and never change for anyone

I've known that I'm Bisexual since I was a mid-teen, so Asexuality isn't really anything that's causing any shame. If anything it's making me feel a lot more comfortable, like I've finally found the answer and no longer need to worry.

It's a good feeling~

and thats what really counts :3

I can't help, but I hope you find the answer.

I just need to discuss it with people who relate, but from what I've seen it seems it might just be the right answer

well now isn't this interesting...would explain a few things too :P

it's also funny to note that I was and still am asexual myself....imagine the crap I got for it during school as I've had this pretty much all the time

well...I can safely say you aren't alone with this....and if your comments are any indication.....you really aren't alone

At first I was like "What could possibly be made fun of about someone who just doesn't find sex appealing"...

...Then I remembered it's School :I

basically I'm saying...I know how you feel as I've been the same for years

*pets and rubs head* you'll be fine

I know :3

I don't believe I'm asexual- but as someone with a rather... almost missing libido, I can completely understand where you're coming from. I can still admire someone for looking nice, but typically it doesn't really influence my decisions or thoughts and whatnot.

If you ask me it ain't all bad. 'Tis good, in my opinion, to search for someone you just want to be with and enjoy rather than finding someone you just wanna stick it in. Clear minds and whatnot.

*Nods* Romantic relationships are definitely my thing. I've never been in a relationship where romance and affection wasn't the focus. It definitely does allow for a clear mind, as you say, and makes things a lot less frustrating in my opinion~

Many totes. I'm sure you'll meet someone out there someday who's got the right mindset...

I hope you get the answers you seek in this interesting subject. I thought I am asexual, but then realised I got it confused with the thought of never seeing myself committed in a relationship. The sexual desires are pretty much there for me though.


I'm a fupping horn dog.

If you find sexual attraction in a particular gender of physical person, then yeah, it's likely it's not Asexuality but something else that's on your mind~

Actually, I was quite the opposite. For a couple years at least I'd get frustrated that, for some reason I couldn't figure out, I just couldn't enjoy sex like everyone else I knew seemed to. I'd tried different things to help, like letting the libido build over time and even medication but none of it really seemed to work.

After considering the possibility of being Asexual though, it's gotten rid of that frustration and now I feel like there's nothing to worry about~

Hey, I support you no matter what

Hey, that's fine :o

Hey, ur a dragon :3

Asleep when this posted, I rarely send words your direction I guess but I just thought I'd say I'm in much the same boat, although I'm a virgin. I've never felt the slightest twinge of physical attraction to anyone and mostly just get those sort of kicks from the weirdo stuff I do or look at on the internets. I think this kind of ties in hand with the fact that I'm slightly misanthropic though, which doesn't seem like a you thing.

Looking at comments above you probably already have better people to look to but you can feel free to note me or something if you care to talk.

Hey, absolutely, I'd be happy to talk :3

I thought i had you on steam but it seems like maybe not, I guess tell me your preferred messenger or something and we can have some chats later on x3

Any of the ones on my Userpage are free reign :3

Sexual identity can be a confusing and mysterious sort of thing, and on top of that it can even change as well. Which makes it just that much harder to pin down. Especially if you think about how psychology can influence it, something that seems to be a major form of detachment could simply be a lack of romantic closeness, as though you haven't found someone special enough for you yet.

This is something that requires introspection, to find what would 'excite' you and how it correlates to your current state. It's normally quite a simple topic at least in common opinion, but people are complex, and reasons for who we are, are not always the same. But it isn't a bad thing either, I'm for instance, not just asexual, but I'm also oblivious as well, but only in real life. I won't go into the details, on that but, with that word Asexual, it for the most part means that one does not engage in physical pleasure with another, particularly, sex.

But that does not mean, that you cannot enjoy being close to another individual.

And I know people have likely said this in varying degrees, but just in case, it could be that the human figure is not attractive to you, but is it something else that produces the effect? Anthropomorphic creatures, or what have you.

Then again, sex shouldn't be essential to a true relationship and people should be able to understand that, but at the same time, you shouldn't be surprised if close ones engage with others instead as a product of that trait.

For some it's a need, others it's for recreation, and still more it's non-existent. It's an awkward topic, though and it can be very hard to guess the degrees and levels to it without understanding yourself, or having someone whom understands you.

Sorry for the ramble, hope it helps at least a little to the current dilemma.

I'd like to think its perfectly natural, it can be a number of things from preference or even chemical, but I can't claim t be an expert on the subject though. I just know that typically as an artist/writer/or something along those lines your imagination is a lot broader than most others that it can be vivid or "real". The fact that you're okay with the "fantasy" of the interactions as opposed to the real thing is typically because its controlled environment with you running the show. Your partner is your definition of "perfect" at the time for you, genders aren't set, and the destination or how is limitless. Only saying the how is limitless because I've been led to believe that furries will always find a way to make something sexy, fuckable, or find a new position to do the nasty.