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Paraphilias and Attractions: Thoughts?
12 years ago
Interview with the author of "Perv: The Sexual Deviant In All of Us." Check it out.
What he says about paraphilias seems to resonate with a lot of stuff I've read on FA: there's some sort of "imprinting" between roughly the ages of 4 and 9 that influences those things to which one is attracted, and in moments of sexual arousal people's sensations of disgust are dulled, opening them up to things they wouldn't have dreamed of doing otherwise.
One thing that I've been thinking about, to, is the interaction between different types of attraction. As an asexual, I've often been very confused by people who talk about sexual attraction. In contrast, I do experience romantic attraction (very rarely), sensual attraction (the desire for physical touch/sensation), and aesthetic attraction; my love of anthros definitely fits into the last two categories. It also seems to me that in many people these other attractions blend into and interact with sexual attraction, which could be a way for the furry paraphilia to develop. (For example, you're exposed to dragons as majestic, awesome creatures; you hit puberty, and suddenly dragons are something more.)
Taking furry as a paraphilia, then -a subset of sexuality- could influence the answer to my last question: can people get addicted to it? People can get addicted to sexual stimulation; does furry influence that for some people? Can people get addicted to sensual or aesthetic attractions as well as sexual ones? (For all I know, science hasn't treated any of these distinctions of attraction yet; those who created the categories, asexuals, are barely emerging as a subset of humanity.)
Anyway. just some thoughts. What are yours?
(Speaking of which: a friend posted this on Facebook today. I can't help but wonder...)
What he says about paraphilias seems to resonate with a lot of stuff I've read on FA: there's some sort of "imprinting" between roughly the ages of 4 and 9 that influences those things to which one is attracted, and in moments of sexual arousal people's sensations of disgust are dulled, opening them up to things they wouldn't have dreamed of doing otherwise.
One thing that I've been thinking about, to, is the interaction between different types of attraction. As an asexual, I've often been very confused by people who talk about sexual attraction. In contrast, I do experience romantic attraction (very rarely), sensual attraction (the desire for physical touch/sensation), and aesthetic attraction; my love of anthros definitely fits into the last two categories. It also seems to me that in many people these other attractions blend into and interact with sexual attraction, which could be a way for the furry paraphilia to develop. (For example, you're exposed to dragons as majestic, awesome creatures; you hit puberty, and suddenly dragons are something more.)
Taking furry as a paraphilia, then -a subset of sexuality- could influence the answer to my last question: can people get addicted to it? People can get addicted to sexual stimulation; does furry influence that for some people? Can people get addicted to sensual or aesthetic attractions as well as sexual ones? (For all I know, science hasn't treated any of these distinctions of attraction yet; those who created the categories, asexuals, are barely emerging as a subset of humanity.)
Anyway. just some thoughts. What are yours?
(Speaking of which: a friend posted this on Facebook today. I can't help but wonder...)
I feel anything I say here will start drama.
Without it Peacocks wouldn't have their beautiful feathers. Most peahens liked to stare at a lot of really weird eyes all around the body.
If you want an essay about paraphilia in nature I can give you a copy about Sexual selection. It is pretty interesting.
Especially how scientists confused female Zebrafishes with sticking on some longer lines than possible at the male fishes. The only females who were "immune" to this kind of mean manipulation (Yeah scientists are evil ) was the minority that was not interested in the male lines at all...like lesbian fishes.
Remind me a bit of an essay of Volkmar Sigusch in the year 1998 and his book "Neosexualities" from 2005,but a bit more "developed" with background knowledge of the cyberspace. (rule 34 and so on).
Side note: A perversion means in medical science a "replacement activity".
A perversion would be: "Your boss bullies you so you hit your wife or your neighbor or hurt yourself with a razor blade as "compensation". Or if someone is abused by his parents he abuses someone else in the park or he is eating living worms to compensate this trauma. (There was a case in Minnesota where a guy was eating living creatures always he remembered he was raped)
A popular one related with sex. If a mother forced his son to wear girls clothes when he was young,he may does it as a ritual to come over it even as an adult.
(A main reason why some homosexual behaviors were seen as"replacement activity"not as preference in the past)
And to the addiction topic:
That reminds me a bit of a talk about "Best emotional porn":
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSqJ-7tg0Eo
*chuckles*
One can be you never felt in your life any sexual pleasure (nor are you able to feel it in the future) - that means you don't have a clue what an orgasms is nor did you ever masturbate or feel "horny".
Sexual pleasure is simply not part of your existence and your "inner knowledge".
It is like you are told there is a new kind of emotion called "frxz". You don't have a clue what "frxz" means, how it feels and why a lot of people are always talking how "frxz" feels.
Like people who are not able to feel other kinds of emotions like angriness or mercy or whatever. It is not part of their inner world and they normally don't miss them.
(Maybe your brain architecture allows you to feel an equivalent to sexual orgasm, but not that has something to do with your genitals or sex.)
The second one can be that you are sexually excitable (so you can be "horny"), but other humans etc. are never part of your thoughts when you have sexual pleasure - you are not imprinted to humans etc.
You are not thinking about men or women when you are sexually excited etc.
Humans are more like "everyday objects" like a washing machine. (If you are not object-phile)
So you don't have a clue why other people should be attractive to you. They "are just there" to talk with, to work with them, but not to have any body contact. Body contact/Genital interaction wouldn't make any sense, nor does it feel right or feel good. It is simple irrelevant in your life.
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If you want a military or a religious career for example. (You can invest more energy and focus in the specific job with less distraction).
"Harm" is normally broken down to the level of individuality.
A society can't feel harm, because "Society" is just an idea in our head, not some "guy" or "girl" that has an address to visit and ask:
"Hello Society! How are you? Please tell me which guy hurts you? Oh! That "Club of the cricket players and friends g.g."! Horrible I must say! I will go down the road and talk with the "Club of the cricket players and friends g.g." itself instead with the individual members or the chairman..." *chuckles*.
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*hugs*
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Personally I'm partial to the idea that "harm" can be defined as physical or emotional pain, suffering or abuse done to others. As long as you're not harming others around you ("others" including animals and other living creatures) then you should be free to do what you feel you need to do in order to be a whole and healthy person.
I feel a lot of depression, frustration and personal grief in society is caused due to the stigmatizing and marginalization of people who develop any kind of "deviant" behavior outside the mainstream norm including paraphilias. Such emotional turmoil then often translates into self destructive behaviors in attempts to self medicate through drug abuse, alcoholism, and suicide even. But give people a safe outlet for their "deviant" behavior and a lot of that personal pain and suffering can be alleviated.
Which is why I feel the furry community is such a great resource for so many of us as it provides a safe space for people to be themselves and be accepted.
So further to the question of whether people can get addicted to furry, in some cases, yes it could potentially develop into an addiction with everything that entails, but I would suggest that for many people their obsessive involvement with the furry community (which may appear to be addictive in nature) is not so much an addiction as it is a life line to feeling sane and accepted by people who understand and accept you.