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12 years ago
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First world problems, ahoy!
So I can't take it anymore. My parents are just being pains in my ass, and yes, in some cases I deserve it, I'm lazy at times and there's a lot of shit I don't do it, because I'm just like that. Half the shit I do in my day is BECAUSE of them, because of these shitty dogs, because of this horrible job setup and all the stress my mother is under. She was pushing my buttons again this morning and I just can't take it anymore, I want out. I want out of this horrible, empty state. I want away from these animals I said NO to in the first place, I want some fucking privacy.
So yeah, I want to move, OUT OF STATE and everything. I have a lot of planning to do, but I just cannot take this anymore. I need a REAL job, I need privacy, I don't want to be helping people all the time because my parents know them or want to renovate this shitty old house. So yeah, I know i have a lot to do on the side before I can even go, like A. Figure out where the fuck I want to be!
I have a few things with my car I'd have to warn my insurance and bank about, switch banks from my main one cause it's not on the East Coast, which is where I'm thinking of maybe going. I have some other little things to tie up and many things to prep, like calling ahead once I know where I'm going for a good place to stay, and getting job interviews lined up before I even hit the road. It would be nice to have a job waiting for me when I get there, but yeah, a little too hopeful methinks.
It would be nice to live on my own, but I know times are tight, and with my car payments in addition, yeah, I may have to live with someone, which I'm willing to do so long as we both work steady jobs.
So far after rummaging through climate items and some other suggestions, I looked into possible West Virginia or Vermont for now. Both have a good amount of rain and I REALLY wanna live somewhere where it rains a lot. I know many people will list cities from that top 12 list or whatever, but MANY of those are Southern, and I won't go to the South. WV is close enough as is. I can't STAND warm climates as much, heat kills me, and humidity is a nightmare too. I'm from Montana, so I'm used to very dry and cold climate. I know those other two states are more humid and warm, but they still have good col spots and way more rain.
I also wanted to go east coast because many furs and people I know live more on that side. All the cons tend to happen over there too. Yeah, there's California and Washington over here, but both are a bit more pricey to live in, or so I think. California is too mixed up for me to survive in anyway, plus that gun law. I also need somewhere quiet, I still wanna live in a city, bigger than here, but I need quiet times so I can finally try to work on a Voice Acting portfolio and such. I could never work on it here because of all the noise, ESPECIALLY the dogs running around. Which is another thing, NO ANIMALS. I can't take it anymore. All these fucking MESSES, all the animal watching, having to drop everything to make sure a pooch doesn't choke on something. I'm so FUCKING TIRED OF IT. We've had dogs for most of our lives here in Montana, and cats on the side, among many other rodents and such. I just don't wanna deal with it anymore. They are HUGE money sinks, too.
So yeah, I just wanna get out there, socialize more, be closer to like minded people, get away from my family for a bit, get a decent job that might actually lead to something else, work on that voice acting to try and work it into a career, even though soon that may be a dead industry, who knows. I don't need a lot, I don't want to SPEND a lot either. I just want some privacy, some space, I wanna go meet people without the feeling I'm half my age because my parents are looming over my shoulder. I Appreciate they let me live with them for so long, I do! They took great care of me and let me stay 6 more years than most people would with their kids. I also owe them for this job I have right now but things have just gone SO downhill in the last 2 years. All this bullshit is piling up and I need a good change of scenery.
There are a few other things I could go into, but well, it's mostly personal things I need to go over before I plan a move. Not to mention, it's going into Winter time soon, which is a PAIN to move in from Montana, and I dunno how it is elsewhere, but moving in the cold is annoying and frustrating. I may have to tough this out for 3 more months, make it through Christmas and all that, and the maybe around February try to move my butt out of here or something. We'll see how long my patience lasts, but yeah, I'm open to suggestions for states, cities, all that. It'd be nice to try and keep up with hobbies, but all I have is Warhammer 40K, which is annoying me at this time, my video gaming, my car (which I shouldn't probly be racing if I need it day to day), and maybe a few other tiny things. I like to socialize so meeting other furs and such around me would be good too. A chance to make new friends and all that. since all my local ones moved away
So yeah, any advice on moving and such would be appreciated, and state or city locations would be very appreciated. Since I don't live near any of those states, I have no idea what the culture is like and such. I don't know what's dangerous, what's good, a lot fo real world things, really. XD So anything people can offer I'm happy to take. This state will drive you nuts, I swear.
So I can't take it anymore. My parents are just being pains in my ass, and yes, in some cases I deserve it, I'm lazy at times and there's a lot of shit I don't do it, because I'm just like that. Half the shit I do in my day is BECAUSE of them, because of these shitty dogs, because of this horrible job setup and all the stress my mother is under. She was pushing my buttons again this morning and I just can't take it anymore, I want out. I want out of this horrible, empty state. I want away from these animals I said NO to in the first place, I want some fucking privacy.
So yeah, I want to move, OUT OF STATE and everything. I have a lot of planning to do, but I just cannot take this anymore. I need a REAL job, I need privacy, I don't want to be helping people all the time because my parents know them or want to renovate this shitty old house. So yeah, I know i have a lot to do on the side before I can even go, like A. Figure out where the fuck I want to be!
I have a few things with my car I'd have to warn my insurance and bank about, switch banks from my main one cause it's not on the East Coast, which is where I'm thinking of maybe going. I have some other little things to tie up and many things to prep, like calling ahead once I know where I'm going for a good place to stay, and getting job interviews lined up before I even hit the road. It would be nice to have a job waiting for me when I get there, but yeah, a little too hopeful methinks.
It would be nice to live on my own, but I know times are tight, and with my car payments in addition, yeah, I may have to live with someone, which I'm willing to do so long as we both work steady jobs.
So far after rummaging through climate items and some other suggestions, I looked into possible West Virginia or Vermont for now. Both have a good amount of rain and I REALLY wanna live somewhere where it rains a lot. I know many people will list cities from that top 12 list or whatever, but MANY of those are Southern, and I won't go to the South. WV is close enough as is. I can't STAND warm climates as much, heat kills me, and humidity is a nightmare too. I'm from Montana, so I'm used to very dry and cold climate. I know those other two states are more humid and warm, but they still have good col spots and way more rain.
I also wanted to go east coast because many furs and people I know live more on that side. All the cons tend to happen over there too. Yeah, there's California and Washington over here, but both are a bit more pricey to live in, or so I think. California is too mixed up for me to survive in anyway, plus that gun law. I also need somewhere quiet, I still wanna live in a city, bigger than here, but I need quiet times so I can finally try to work on a Voice Acting portfolio and such. I could never work on it here because of all the noise, ESPECIALLY the dogs running around. Which is another thing, NO ANIMALS. I can't take it anymore. All these fucking MESSES, all the animal watching, having to drop everything to make sure a pooch doesn't choke on something. I'm so FUCKING TIRED OF IT. We've had dogs for most of our lives here in Montana, and cats on the side, among many other rodents and such. I just don't wanna deal with it anymore. They are HUGE money sinks, too.
So yeah, I just wanna get out there, socialize more, be closer to like minded people, get away from my family for a bit, get a decent job that might actually lead to something else, work on that voice acting to try and work it into a career, even though soon that may be a dead industry, who knows. I don't need a lot, I don't want to SPEND a lot either. I just want some privacy, some space, I wanna go meet people without the feeling I'm half my age because my parents are looming over my shoulder. I Appreciate they let me live with them for so long, I do! They took great care of me and let me stay 6 more years than most people would with their kids. I also owe them for this job I have right now but things have just gone SO downhill in the last 2 years. All this bullshit is piling up and I need a good change of scenery.
There are a few other things I could go into, but well, it's mostly personal things I need to go over before I plan a move. Not to mention, it's going into Winter time soon, which is a PAIN to move in from Montana, and I dunno how it is elsewhere, but moving in the cold is annoying and frustrating. I may have to tough this out for 3 more months, make it through Christmas and all that, and the maybe around February try to move my butt out of here or something. We'll see how long my patience lasts, but yeah, I'm open to suggestions for states, cities, all that. It'd be nice to try and keep up with hobbies, but all I have is Warhammer 40K, which is annoying me at this time, my video gaming, my car (which I shouldn't probly be racing if I need it day to day), and maybe a few other tiny things. I like to socialize so meeting other furs and such around me would be good too. A chance to make new friends and all that. since all my local ones moved away
So yeah, any advice on moving and such would be appreciated, and state or city locations would be very appreciated. Since I don't live near any of those states, I have no idea what the culture is like and such. I don't know what's dangerous, what's good, a lot fo real world things, really. XD So anything people can offer I'm happy to take. This state will drive you nuts, I swear.
Commissions:
Zinnthos - Many things, large sum
pandadox - Kuzco thing, paid
jonrom - Editing?, paid
girr-gasim - Meowth, paid
j-a-m-z Duez/Blaze/Wave, paid
chetchaka Idea change, paid 15
marcleonhardt - 3 Colored images, paid, waiting to receive.
is - Duez/Wave pic, paid (refunded?)
- 3 images, paid
- Paid for a $10 Icon, waiting on details
Zinnthos - Many things, large sum
pandadox - Kuzco thing, paid
jonrom - Editing?, paid
girr-gasim - Meowth, paid
j-a-m-z Duez/Blaze/Wave, paid
chetchaka Idea change, paid 15
marcleonhardt - 3 Colored images, paid, waiting to receive.
is - Duez/Wave pic, paid (refunded?)
- 3 images, paid
- Paid for a $10 Icon, waiting on details 
use every available inch of space, it'll be necessary.
when in transit, drive during the day, but soon as its dark, its safest to stop and rest, don't want to end up in a ditch at midnight on a random country road.
as far as moving in, go at your own pace. do a little every day but don't kill yourself over it. the stuff isn't going anywhere.
there's like no furs down here though :/
as fara s jobs go, there's lots. i live in a college town so there's always jobs to be had, especially during off-times when the University is out for the summer or winter or whatever
Sadly, just knowing the lack of furs is a down already, and almost ALL the rest of my family lives in Chicago! o: I kinda wanna get AWAY from everyone, I'm VERY detached from my family since we've lived away from them for over 15 years, and only visited a few times. So if I was in Illinois, they would know and nag me to come visit all the time. So I'm gonna have to say no to Illinois. XD Somewhat similar for Ohio or Michigan and such. If I'm too close to family, yes I have way to bail out, sort of, but then what was the point if all my family are going to pester me? I don't want family randomly dropping in if a drive is short enough. XD Also not sure how I feel about a college town. Having been living in one myself, many of the students don't click with me and it tends to be a bother with drinking. XD
as for drinking, this place does have a history of drinking, but the people are pretty cool about not bugging you about it.
at any rate, its a suggestion like everything, take it as you will :)
If you're looking to start fresh, and if you're a people person, then definitely check out the local shopping malls and outlets. They're almost always hiring for part time and temp workers. I got my current job 10 days after arriving here. I was hired as a part-time temp associate, but was kept permanently after the holidays. In less than a year of having it, I'm now the Sales Leader. I'm pretty much in charge of the sales associates. :D
It's crazy how moving away from your home town/state can positively, or negatively, affect you. My reason for moving is completely different from yours. Sure, my family was getting on my nerves as well, but I was forced to move after not being able to find a job for two and a half years and was literally out of everything. 10 days after I moved out, I landed an awesome job with awesome people. I couldn't be happier!
I should also note that I did move in with a furry who owns his own house (outright, no loans), so my rent is SUPER low. I also moved with zero help from my family. I had to rely solely on myself.
That's my experience on moving to out, and to a whole new state, albeit from California to Oregon.
What you NEED to do is figure living expenses plus your current bills. Rent + Electricity + Gas (house) + Water + Garbage + Sewer (if living in town) + Health Insurance (as of January 1st) + Gas (car) + Food + Supplies + Car payment + Cell Phone. It's definitely not cheap. Once you figure out all of those, you can then start to figure what kind of pay you'll be needing, and what jobs will provide that. Personally, I'm going to be looking for a second job to pick up an extra 10 hours that I'm going to be losing soon. Once you move, DEFINITELY check out local and state programs. Food Stamps, State-ran health insurance, etc. Everything helps when you're scraping by with minimum wage.
Good luck Duez! I don't want to get you down with this! It's just reality, and, with the right attitude, you can definitely do it! In the end, everything will be worth it.
Anyway, yeah, I see what you're saying. Knowing my luck it won't be simple, but I'm sure if I prep ahead enough and maybe today I'll run through my finds and see what I could accomplish. Still just mostly trying to find a location. A lot of things are pointing to West Virginia at this point, but at the same time, there's still a lot I don't know and I know zero furs and other people there, I'd be a few HOURS away from others, but yeah, otherwise I'm on my own. It would be fine if I could move in with someone, help cut costs, I just dunno who could live with me and vice versa. XD
So yeah, just got a LOT of research and planning ahead of me. Appreciate your information. :3