WARNING THIS IS A VENT

Seems like a lot has been happening over this past year, some good and others... not so good. to wrap the year up in a decent size nutshell I got kicked out of my dream college, went to a friends and tried a few community college classes.. failed those; During which i had bad depression and gain 30~40 ish pounds (fat kitty no fun) i decided to leave all of that and went to live with  ihazelis <3~. I picked up a job here (dead body driver) and well worked, met some furries here and what not and everything was riding along smoothly. Come December and it starts great, get a new job (ice cream place) and see friends almost every week at least. Now for Christmas i wanted to take  ihazelis to California to show her where i grew up, my friends, go to Disneyland, beach and all that stuff.

And this is kinda where we take a turn for the worse. A little background on my Mom, she was one of the extremest helicopter parents that, to put it nicely, isn't the best at parenting. She used to be ok with everything untill my Father passed away during my freshman year of high school. She has a sense to "ramp everything up" taking a small thing and turning it into a big thing, or me telling her i did something wrong or did poorly on a test, it would start of as "it's ok you'll do better" to " WHY THE HELL ARE YOU DOING SO BAD, IS IT BECAUSE OF [INSERT REASON HERE]" in a matter of minutes. So when it came to college I found my dream school and got away as soon as i could (then all that other stuff happened that i said earlier).

So back to the trip at xmas time, my mom tells me to move back in with her and take classes in cali, to which i say no to. End of conversation? no... throughout the trip we talk about nothing else but college, every friend i talk to her about, "oh how are they doing in college? What college are they in again?" and this goes on throughout the trip. Constantly comparing me to my friends and belittling me in front of Sophi, my friends, her boyfriend (who i look to as a father figure even though i know they wont be together for the long hawl) and well pretty much everyone I'm around with my Mom. Come Christmas day, which is also me and Soph's first Christmas together, she decides to tell me how disappointed she is with my choices in life and that how her and my father didn't raise me this way. Great thing to say on Christmas right? So this happens throughout the trip, pretty much ruining every experience i had when at home.

So now it comes to this week, back from the trip, relaxing, can have a little mmj to de-stress myself. Today my mom thought it would be a great idea to tell me a few thing, not when I was there, nope when i get back and thought i can relax again. Apperently, i need to show her attorney's that i am taking classes for some stupid thing about my dad's trust and how i will have to spend several months in cali for it. How and how it now magically pays 100% for schools in California, and for some reason has to throw in the mistakes i have made over the year, while trying to tell me it would be so fucking awesome if I moved back. She then gets on a tangent and starts describing more things about how much cali would be for me and i ask her "What does this have to do with the trust" and well her response was " Sorry, i get it. You studying in AZ has nothing to do with dad's trust, but come on" and goes back to how my dad and grandpa went to the same college and so on. Then she likes to add that my choices do not sound like the son of my Dad and how i do not sound like her son.

SO ya, that is what has been going on currently


So questions i have if people would like to help.

Do attorney's really go to $710 an hour? Making it "useless" if i call them to see if what my mom is saying is correct

Am I over reacting to this and is it bad to not want to be with your mother?

_{guess i should just sleep now}