At times, one has to look in the mirror.
12 years ago
General
Sometimes, one has to do whats best for others.
Being sick often has helped me realize something... I do not make a good mate, and it really is not what I should be doing.
Most my age want to go places, have fun, and work towards goals.
Myself, well, I'm very different.
Every day is a struggle. It is normal, but, it is still a struggle.
The years of illnesses and diabetes problems are taking their toll.
Some things are more difficult for me to do now.
My mom and dad also struggle with medical problems, and we have few relatives and friends that would help.
It would be wrong for me to leave them with no one to help, so, its now my job.
In Japan and Russia, I have seen where it is common for the younger family members to take care of the old.
So, I will stay with mom and dad until I cannot anymore, as I feel I at least am doing what I supposed to do, and what is right.
I see too.. where many want a bunch of expensive things in their life and to go a bunch of places.
I cannot afford to do this in my life, and do not see myself ever having much money.
This is ok with me, as I have little goals, and hope to just get by.
I have realistically given up on many things in the past 2 years, and have been restructuring what I want to more basic things.
My life is not very fun, and its something I don't think others should have to suffer with.
Based on what I have seen, my life is about halfway over with anyway.
So, I will just keep doing what I'm doing here, unless I find myself in a position where I need a room mate to help pay rent or something.
I'm sorry to anyone who was interested, but, you are better off looking for someone else.
Being sick often has helped me realize something... I do not make a good mate, and it really is not what I should be doing.
Most my age want to go places, have fun, and work towards goals.
Myself, well, I'm very different.
Every day is a struggle. It is normal, but, it is still a struggle.
The years of illnesses and diabetes problems are taking their toll.
Some things are more difficult for me to do now.
My mom and dad also struggle with medical problems, and we have few relatives and friends that would help.
It would be wrong for me to leave them with no one to help, so, its now my job.
In Japan and Russia, I have seen where it is common for the younger family members to take care of the old.
So, I will stay with mom and dad until I cannot anymore, as I feel I at least am doing what I supposed to do, and what is right.
I see too.. where many want a bunch of expensive things in their life and to go a bunch of places.
I cannot afford to do this in my life, and do not see myself ever having much money.
This is ok with me, as I have little goals, and hope to just get by.
I have realistically given up on many things in the past 2 years, and have been restructuring what I want to more basic things.
My life is not very fun, and its something I don't think others should have to suffer with.
Based on what I have seen, my life is about halfway over with anyway.
So, I will just keep doing what I'm doing here, unless I find myself in a position where I need a room mate to help pay rent or something.
I'm sorry to anyone who was interested, but, you are better off looking for someone else.
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Thank you for wanting to help though. I appreciate it.
Then life will show what to do
I feel the same way.
Nonetheless, even if I was well off, I'd still want to live modestly, happiness in life is about who you know, who you care for, and who cares for you! One who lives modest can have a better taste of freedom without overhead. And after all, a true soul mate should seek you for who you are, not what you have or what things you can do with them! But I can understand some situations could be less than ideal for being able to have one at all due to living conditions, but who knows, one may be able to truly help you! Just have a neutral view about it and never say something is impossible. I won't deny though, in my position living with my parents, yeah I could never feel comfortable getting involved seriously in a relationship unless I was away from them and on my own, which it appears you cannot do at this time, unless somehow fate gives you and your parents a break with some help!
Continue to do that which seems honorable, you can never go wrong with that! But always keep positive thinking! It tends to lead to positive results, just not always as quickly as we'd like, but it can happen =^.^=
*nods* Yep, that's about it. I do not really feel free, but I do at least have a sense of freedom. :)
I like my family and friends very much, as they always tell me that they care.
The problem seems to be a bit of me... even those who have sought me for who I am, they get tired of me or upset with me in a hurry. So, I always feel like its time for it to end soon. Longest relationship I ever had was about 6 months, and oddly enough, I knew that things would never work.
Its odd, but, it feels ok. There is only so much I can do, only so much I am willing to put up with, and sometimes things just don't fit well... so, it makes others leave or me want to leave others.
I just am tired of it, so, I'm going to do what I am already good at.
So, I will always try to do whats honorable, its the right thing to do.
We can't be quick to accept someone as a soul mate, it really has to take a long time and know each other inside and out. When the day comes I may potentially have found mine, or I am found, I'm not going to make it easy, The values and virtues of the one I will love must be identical to mine in every way, and will have to expose all aspects of ourselves to each other, including our dark sides, nothing no matter how seemingly major nor insignificant will be a secret!
But indeed, you need not worry about it now if you do not feel ready for it at this time in life. Just focus on the things at hand and take care of them! If there is someone for you (I'm certain there is! It's impossible there isn't in all this world!), and you reserve extra caution in any potential future relationship, fate will guide that one to you! At this time, I imagine the love of family and friends is more than enough to pull one like you through life if it comes to it! Like me, having friends and my family right now is more than enough to keep me going into the future, but if I lost my parents who are starting to age now, I know I'd very much need someone close to my heart, especially a true soul mate to comfort me, we were never meant to face life alone! I hope you never have to face such a day ahead of time, but if it does, I can promise there is someone right for you somewhere out there!
So, keep yourself physically in one piece, keep up the honorable work, and I'm sure everything can all work out for the better! Like our friend Hikari would say, a mans worth is gauged by his honor! Then I'd say you have more worth than you realize! =^.^=
Much of what you say here is very good, and I will keep it in mind.
However, I will tell you, even if there is someone out there for me, I would rather just have a room mate or a close friend that comes over, if things get to that point.
Truth of the matter is, I can't handle being mated.
Every time I was mated in the past, I was stressed out, didn't get enough sleep, and just felt uncomfortable overall.
So, even if there is someone out there for me, my health and well being is more important to me now, and both are better when I am single.
*nods* I will do my best here, my friend. You and Hikari are right on that! =^.^=
What's the news?
Things have been busy here.
Been having to help out mom quite a bit.
The weather has been interesting as well.
Today, we had a blizzard here until 9:00pm.
Lots of accidents out in the county, 10-25 vehicles involved in some cases.
County snow plow trucks quit early due to very low visibility.
Have been feeling better lately, but am unable to make the cough leave.