okay so everyone find people who don't help others to be self absorbed and inconsiderate
well have you ever considered that 60%+ of the people that ask for help need help because they
are using others or don't feel like doing it themselves
even if they honestly need the help it doesn't mean that it will end well for you
if something happens while or after you help they may blame you and try to do
go after you

the point of this journal is because a close friends family is having issues with something that
I know how to work on although the particular job I know how to do but have only done it
once or twice
and in the past when another person tried helping and ended up being unsuccessful the
results were beyond horrible to the point where I am torn between trying to help someone
who really needs it and the fact that if something happens I may never be allowed near
my friend and if they found out we still hung out it would be horrible for them also

I've been over enough to see that even something minor that goes wrong is made major

when someone can't afford to have something done professionally and you have knowledge
to help them normally I'd jump to help without hesitation
but if I try and fail it would end up very badly for me
even if I succeed and something else unrelated happened I may be blamed

no matter how much I want to help the consequences for any mistake is way too great
it would be one thing if I was working and something happened on the job
I could deal with getting fired but having a personal vendetta against me for merely offering help
makes the risk outweigh the action

they may not even need assistance
i don't know if they do
i want to help since it's a friend
i don't even know if the new part will have the piece that is the main issue attached or if they are sold separate


i may be overthinking things

but it still bothers me
i got knowledge to help others but when someone close needs help and i know how
but am unable to assist due to the possible ramifications is drives me crazy

i went to school for it and when i get the chance to try it in a real world situation i am unable to do so

i just can't stand sitting around doing nothing it bugs me....
but never seeing that friend again is a worse thought...
as i said they may not need help but instinctually i am inclined to help others
i try to put others before myself but the dilemma is that there is more than one person involved
so if i put the wrong one first and lose the other then there was no point in helping
but if i put the other one first it means doing nothing at all



and the person who is involved if you read this don't point yourself out keep it vague
i don't want everyone to know who i was talking about or even why
if you do comment just make it something that you would say if it were happening to someone else