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11 years ago
Just thoughts about friends. Don;t even know if I make any sence.
*intro*
In 2000 I came into a group of friends who all are fans (with lack of a better word) of the Dutch themepark Efteling. There were years when I visited the park over 20 times in a year with them.
Though some people left and others joined, the core of the group stayed the same.
*the deal*
Last year I felt I was losing connection with some people in the group. This guy, who I would call best friend for years, I can hardly call a friend anymore.
In the last two visits to the Efteling we had hardly a thing to talk about and if we did it was about times we went to Japan or America together. We could not talk about daily life anymore and I felt he had lost any interest in my life.
I even left early on two visits so he could not ask me to bring him to the trainstation. I really felt that these days he hardly said a thing to me until he needed that ride again.
I once left with someone without saying a thing to the rest. There wasn't even a reaction after that to ask where I've gone too. Like they didn't even noticed I was gone. I also left the groupchat on twitter one evening and not a single reaction from the rest.
Thinking back, I was losing interest in the park itself for a while now but kept it to myself and since I am not that vocal in groups I am sure they did not notice. But spending a day with people who can talk about a little new sign for over an hour or go on a single ride three times in a row becasue there was a new bottle in one scene didn't help much either. Driving home after such a day made me feel more empty.
To make things clear, I am not doing these things to get attention but I kinda see it as a test to how much I really am part of the group these days. I did not scream "I'm leaving the fandom!!!!". I told a person 2 months later when he asked when I was planning to go to the Efteling again.
In october there was an event for passholders and I learned from a photo on facebook that the rest of the group went to it. I wasn't asked.
In all fairness, I was invited by one to go to the Efteling in december with a movie after which I declined due to work.
So since September I chatted with 2 people from that group on skype, not a word from the other 6people.
I found new friends in the furrie world and I am not lonely or depressed in any way. It's just a realisation that I've grown apart from people I've known for 14 years.
*intro*
In 2000 I came into a group of friends who all are fans (with lack of a better word) of the Dutch themepark Efteling. There were years when I visited the park over 20 times in a year with them.
Though some people left and others joined, the core of the group stayed the same.
*the deal*
Last year I felt I was losing connection with some people in the group. This guy, who I would call best friend for years, I can hardly call a friend anymore.
In the last two visits to the Efteling we had hardly a thing to talk about and if we did it was about times we went to Japan or America together. We could not talk about daily life anymore and I felt he had lost any interest in my life.
I even left early on two visits so he could not ask me to bring him to the trainstation. I really felt that these days he hardly said a thing to me until he needed that ride again.
I once left with someone without saying a thing to the rest. There wasn't even a reaction after that to ask where I've gone too. Like they didn't even noticed I was gone. I also left the groupchat on twitter one evening and not a single reaction from the rest.
Thinking back, I was losing interest in the park itself for a while now but kept it to myself and since I am not that vocal in groups I am sure they did not notice. But spending a day with people who can talk about a little new sign for over an hour or go on a single ride three times in a row becasue there was a new bottle in one scene didn't help much either. Driving home after such a day made me feel more empty.
To make things clear, I am not doing these things to get attention but I kinda see it as a test to how much I really am part of the group these days. I did not scream "I'm leaving the fandom!!!!". I told a person 2 months later when he asked when I was planning to go to the Efteling again.
In october there was an event for passholders and I learned from a photo on facebook that the rest of the group went to it. I wasn't asked.
In all fairness, I was invited by one to go to the Efteling in december with a movie after which I declined due to work.
So since September I chatted with 2 people from that group on skype, not a word from the other 6people.
I found new friends in the furrie world and I am not lonely or depressed in any way. It's just a realisation that I've grown apart from people I've known for 14 years.
But, here's to NEW friends!
*HUGGGGS*
CEF
I guess people just grow apart and friendship is not forever.
*hugs*