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Death in the family
11 years ago
We lost my mother yesterday.
It was completely unexpected. She had gone to the hospital about 3 weeks ago with pneumonia, and seemed to be doing better. She was still a little congested but otherwise wasn't bad. But because there was no foul play suspected they won't be doing an autopsy. My mother had a lot of health issues, mostly heart related, so they're ruling it as natural causes, I guess.
But now my family is faced with the fact she had no life insurance. She did not want to be cremated, but due to the suddenty of her death, we simply cannot afford a viewing and funeral; casket and plot, etc. just ... aren't possible. So my father and I decided we have to do a cremation after all, and the funeral home my best friend was able to find is amazing. They'll handle notification of death to various parties and whatnot, and including the cremation the total is a little over $1300.
The part that hurts the most is that I'm still pregnant; she kept saying over and over she wasn't going to live to see her first grandchild be born. We all thought she was just being paranoid. I have an appointment Monday to schedule to be induced ... she had less than a week to go. It hurts so bad, but I have to fight it and stay calm because I do have high blood pressure right now and am on medication to keep it in check.
Just ... feeling a bit lost right now. We didn't get a long very well, we fought like cats and dogs, but she was my mom.
It was completely unexpected. She had gone to the hospital about 3 weeks ago with pneumonia, and seemed to be doing better. She was still a little congested but otherwise wasn't bad. But because there was no foul play suspected they won't be doing an autopsy. My mother had a lot of health issues, mostly heart related, so they're ruling it as natural causes, I guess.
But now my family is faced with the fact she had no life insurance. She did not want to be cremated, but due to the suddenty of her death, we simply cannot afford a viewing and funeral; casket and plot, etc. just ... aren't possible. So my father and I decided we have to do a cremation after all, and the funeral home my best friend was able to find is amazing. They'll handle notification of death to various parties and whatnot, and including the cremation the total is a little over $1300.
The part that hurts the most is that I'm still pregnant; she kept saying over and over she wasn't going to live to see her first grandchild be born. We all thought she was just being paranoid. I have an appointment Monday to schedule to be induced ... she had less than a week to go. It hurts so bad, but I have to fight it and stay calm because I do have high blood pressure right now and am on medication to keep it in check.
Just ... feeling a bit lost right now. We didn't get a long very well, we fought like cats and dogs, but she was my mom.
There's really never any words that can comfort a true loss; not because words don't count or because any loss is too great, but simply because loss is about time. We all know in the back of our minds what's coming, and we try to prepare for it beneath the surface, but it's hard, if not nearly impossible, to be ready.. And you have a tougher challenge than most ahead of you - you've have to be careful to take extra good care of yourself, with the baby coming soon and all you can't let the stress or worry knock you off your seat too far, which makes grieving even more difficult.. Don't be afraid to be a little selfish if you have to be to keep yourself and the baby healthy in the aftermath of such a loss.
But above all else at least you can bring some life into this world to help rebalance some that was lost. I wish I could offer more than just my sincere condolences.