social planning stress stuff
11 years ago
I don't know what it is with me. I like to think that I'm an extremely outgoing, extroverted, easy-to-know and socially competent person who enjoys social situations and isn't awkward about talking to strangers or meeting new people.
And yet that all falls apart when I'm asked to be in charge of plans.
Something as simple as trying to find a day and time to do something, and to make sure that it's optimal for everyone involved, sends me into a borderline social panic. This has been the case for years, now, and I'm not sure why. Like, I've worked as a project manager and I do game mastering and I run panels at conventions and so it's not that I can't handle planning stuff. Far from it.
I guess this is also why I don't like to date people. Being even partially responsible for someone else's happiness or unhappiness just doesn't sit well with me, apparently.
And yet that all falls apart when I'm asked to be in charge of plans.
Something as simple as trying to find a day and time to do something, and to make sure that it's optimal for everyone involved, sends me into a borderline social panic. This has been the case for years, now, and I'm not sure why. Like, I've worked as a project manager and I do game mastering and I run panels at conventions and so it's not that I can't handle planning stuff. Far from it.
I guess this is also why I don't like to date people. Being even partially responsible for someone else's happiness or unhappiness just doesn't sit well with me, apparently.
FA+

As for dating, I just got incredibly lucky to find someone who was shy but sweet and not creepy; our dating was mostly via instant messenger for the first couple years. I'd probably still be single otherwise.
Does it matter to you how well you know the people for whom you are planning the event?