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Alright, let's get this thing straight.
11 years ago
Contact list cleanups. Please stop getting butthurt over them.
I apologize now if I say anything that may come off as offensive as I'm typing this when I'm already irritated about a lot of things going on right now. But these contact list cleanups; they're for pretty much any sort of messaging client I use, which right now is just Skype and F-list. If you're removed from either of those lists, let me clarify right now that it's NOT BECAUSE I DON'T LIKE YOU. As a matter of fact, I more than likely still want to be friends/acquaintances! Just not in skype/f-list. If that's ever the reason, believe me, you'll know; I will specifically tell you that I don't want to socialize with you anymore before removing you if that's the case. I've done it before and I don't see any reason to sugar coat my dislocating myself from people I don't want to be around.
Now that that's out of the way, let's talk reasoning behind the removal. Pretty much everyone always asks "why did you remove me?" And to be honest, there's never any one reason. There can't be, at least not with me.
*It's not because "we don't talk much." I remove contacts who I speak with several times in a week, and contrarily I don't remove contacts that I only get to talk to once in a blue moon.
*It's not because "we don't get along." I'm a very patient person; if you ever drive me to the point of removing you because we don't get along, then I dare say you went out of your way to upset me.
*It's not because "we don't rp." Let me be very clear in saying that I RARELY rp on skype. It's far too limiting of a chatting client; I'm a particular roleplayer in that character names, icons, and even something as trivial as status messages influence my mood to roleplay, hence me almost never roleplaying there. So for those of you who wonder why I always seem to be dodgy on skype about roleplays: there you go. I don't like roleplaying on skype. I like roleplaying on F-list; it's my preferred roleplaying locale, for those of you who are interested.
So why do I remove people from my contacts? Like I said, there's never any one reason. During my cleanups, I go through each of my contacts, and if I have to ask "why is he in my contacts list again?" then chances are you're going to be taken off. If you're looking for a specific or in depth reason, I can't really give you one. For more examples: there's one person I don't get to talk to often, but he always, always makes me smile; he's not getting removed. There's people who try to talk to me but can't say much more than "hello;" they MIGHT get removed. There are people I almost never talk to, but they're people I developed a close relationship with in the past; they're not getting removed. They're people who talk to me in engaging conversations almost daily, but they constantly make me " :/ ". They MIGHT get removed.
I can say, though, that I've noticed that in any contact list, I don't like having too many contacts because over time, I start to feel like I'm neglecting people because I almost never initiate conversations. But other than that...there you have it: a general idea towards my reasoning behind removing contacts. Perhaps one day I'll make a journal detailing how to go about talking to me...but I don't want people to feel like they have to follow rules when talking to someone, so we'll see.
Edit: Can you be readded? Well, yes. I've done it before. But if I've removed you from my contacts before once or twice, I'm going to be very hesitant to do it again. Just sayin'.
I apologize now if I say anything that may come off as offensive as I'm typing this when I'm already irritated about a lot of things going on right now. But these contact list cleanups; they're for pretty much any sort of messaging client I use, which right now is just Skype and F-list. If you're removed from either of those lists, let me clarify right now that it's NOT BECAUSE I DON'T LIKE YOU. As a matter of fact, I more than likely still want to be friends/acquaintances! Just not in skype/f-list. If that's ever the reason, believe me, you'll know; I will specifically tell you that I don't want to socialize with you anymore before removing you if that's the case. I've done it before and I don't see any reason to sugar coat my dislocating myself from people I don't want to be around.
Now that that's out of the way, let's talk reasoning behind the removal. Pretty much everyone always asks "why did you remove me?" And to be honest, there's never any one reason. There can't be, at least not with me.
*It's not because "we don't talk much." I remove contacts who I speak with several times in a week, and contrarily I don't remove contacts that I only get to talk to once in a blue moon.
*It's not because "we don't get along." I'm a very patient person; if you ever drive me to the point of removing you because we don't get along, then I dare say you went out of your way to upset me.
*It's not because "we don't rp." Let me be very clear in saying that I RARELY rp on skype. It's far too limiting of a chatting client; I'm a particular roleplayer in that character names, icons, and even something as trivial as status messages influence my mood to roleplay, hence me almost never roleplaying there. So for those of you who wonder why I always seem to be dodgy on skype about roleplays: there you go. I don't like roleplaying on skype. I like roleplaying on F-list; it's my preferred roleplaying locale, for those of you who are interested.
So why do I remove people from my contacts? Like I said, there's never any one reason. During my cleanups, I go through each of my contacts, and if I have to ask "why is he in my contacts list again?" then chances are you're going to be taken off. If you're looking for a specific or in depth reason, I can't really give you one. For more examples: there's one person I don't get to talk to often, but he always, always makes me smile; he's not getting removed. There's people who try to talk to me but can't say much more than "hello;" they MIGHT get removed. There are people I almost never talk to, but they're people I developed a close relationship with in the past; they're not getting removed. They're people who talk to me in engaging conversations almost daily, but they constantly make me " :/ ". They MIGHT get removed.
I can say, though, that I've noticed that in any contact list, I don't like having too many contacts because over time, I start to feel like I'm neglecting people because I almost never initiate conversations. But other than that...there you have it: a general idea towards my reasoning behind removing contacts. Perhaps one day I'll make a journal detailing how to go about talking to me...but I don't want people to feel like they have to follow rules when talking to someone, so we'll see.
Edit: Can you be readded? Well, yes. I've done it before. But if I've removed you from my contacts before once or twice, I'm going to be very hesitant to do it again. Just sayin'.
I tend to try keeping my friend lists exactly that, which sometimes means dropping people who rarely ever talk or don't seem to want to share much in a conversation. I've been dropped too, and sometimes it's bothersome, but I usually know better than to go chasing after a reason. (Usually. I have my faults sometimes. x-x)
I just feel like people take "Contact List" to be "Friends List." They're not one in the same, which in the case of f-list, it's why I don't like having "friends" there for the exact same reason. I don't know what it is about contact lists that make people feel like there's sudden some kind of obligation to be bff's; it's just another form of communication, and not every form is for everyone. :c
I sometimes get people on F-list who just want to talk a bit and then try to add me. They don't seem to understand that I reserve that friend list for those who actually engage in roleplay there, since if I wasn't seeking it, I wouldn't be there in the first place. x-x
I think this journal was more of a vent, though. Most of the time, removed contacts end up getting readded...and then removed again later [a certain number of times; after that, I don't re-add them anymore]. Oh well, though. x.x
Meep. Uh, thanks! x3"