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An ex..
16 years ago
The tigeress with little to say..
So a couple months back, an ex of mine who is in the military told me to go kill myself because I said i was willing to get into a fight with someone because of something I I know was the truth. (won't talk about what such thing was so don't ask).
He said I was weak and not stable and that I am a female and I dont know how to control my emotions...
Assuming the military brain washed him and he now looks down on woman and only pictures them as a piece of meat to have sex with whenever he wants.
He messaged me today asking for my forgiveness.
I want to forgive him.. but.. I don't take to well with being told I'm not strong enough to do something I am willing to fight for..
I need opinions..
He said I was weak and not stable and that I am a female and I dont know how to control my emotions...
Assuming the military brain washed him and he now looks down on woman and only pictures them as a piece of meat to have sex with whenever he wants.
He messaged me today asking for my forgiveness.
I want to forgive him.. but.. I don't take to well with being told I'm not strong enough to do something I am willing to fight for..
I need opinions..
btw i have no experience with relationships so i may not be the best for advice XD lol
-sighs-
I hate boys sometimes.
Wishing someone or telling them, is equivalently making yourself lower then an animal. :/
for the most part it's for a good reason
they have to know what it is they are fighting for
I come from a family with along line of military history in it
most of my family is full of crap
MY two coppers worth is explain to him EXACTLY how what he said made you feel, do it in a reasonable tone of voice
make him grovel... at least a bit
anything worth having is worth WORKING for
then, and only then, forgive him, cause of you give in too easily, it won't mean anything to him (at least at first)
If you get along fine without him, then there's really no need to bring him back into your life. When people say hustful things, most of the time they mean it. Of course people say things they don't mean to say in a heated argument, but if it was just random or unprovoked, yeah.
I'm someone who beleives in second chances, but things may never be the same when you get someone back. That depends on the kind of person you are and how bad the situation affected you.
Just be careful; if you get involved around him again, there's a possibility that that ( or something even worse ) may happen.
I wish you the best of luck and I send air luffins to you! :]
Thank you for reading and responding. it means a lot to me. ^_^
Again hard to pass judgment on something when I dont know the full story but the way I look at it is this. If the guy is an ex that means there was something about him you did not like to begin with. You guys got into this massive of a fight which is pretty intense and messed up so there must be some bad drama between you two. And on top of it what he said was really messed up. So in my opinion even if you can "forgive him" for his words I still say there is no reason to keep someone like that in your life. So I say to hell with him don't forgive him and use it as an excuse to never talk to him again.
LOL my advice is a tad straight forward but you have to admit it makes perfect sense and tends to end problems quickly.
-hugs-
Thanks ^^