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Gonna live alone for awhile...
11 years ago
tl;dr Roommates passive-aggressively and preemptively messed up a very special visit (not to mention a number of other things) and I'm counting straws and showing them the door before any 'last straws' are drawn.
So a friend is going to be visiting for the next weekend, and as this weekend comes to a close, my housemate's girlfriend was also invited over (she was the one who told me, not my housemate), several days after she heard that I had a friend coming over. That'd be 5 adults for one full bathroom, plus I tend to take a lot of showers before playing with toys (sage advice I learned from a certain Bigphin out there ^^).
So I let my friend know what's up, and since the trip for them is going to be very costly, I'll pick up the hotel room and have fun with friend(s), while conveniently away from the passive-aggressive drama brewing at home. When I wake up, I'm going to send an exit strategy email for my housemates... provided that the elements of that draft come together (otherwise I'll save the draft for later and send it in the evening).
While it won't change how I'm going to approach next weekend and a special visit, it will hopefully change a spiraling relationship with folks who used to be my friends before any fuses burn out. Before someone goes - ?..hey! You live alone in a n bedroom house! I have 167.3 million furry friends who really want to live with you!", I'm planning to live alone for awhile.
This does not mean live lonely for awhile! I would like the freedom to have guests over for a day or three at a time; those who keep my yard tamed will be definitely given preference. I would like to turn my housemate's room into a game room, what is currently an office with 3 desks into my office and practice room, etc. This will allow me to decompress. I'm unable to de-stress as well as I could otherwise; and I learned a lot by having the particular housemates who I have now. However, I would like the arrangement to end before stuff gets stupid.
I've spoken at length with a few people about how best to show my housemates the door, and I am thankful for all the constructive input, and coverage of some things I hadn't thought of. However, I am not taking input from my housemates because I already feel coerced by them and am tired of feeling like a doormat, even if I am somewhat more assertive than an actual doormat. :(
So a friend is going to be visiting for the next weekend, and as this weekend comes to a close, my housemate's girlfriend was also invited over (she was the one who told me, not my housemate), several days after she heard that I had a friend coming over. That'd be 5 adults for one full bathroom, plus I tend to take a lot of showers before playing with toys (sage advice I learned from a certain Bigphin out there ^^).
So I let my friend know what's up, and since the trip for them is going to be very costly, I'll pick up the hotel room and have fun with friend(s), while conveniently away from the passive-aggressive drama brewing at home. When I wake up, I'm going to send an exit strategy email for my housemates... provided that the elements of that draft come together (otherwise I'll save the draft for later and send it in the evening).
While it won't change how I'm going to approach next weekend and a special visit, it will hopefully change a spiraling relationship with folks who used to be my friends before any fuses burn out. Before someone goes - ?..hey! You live alone in a n bedroom house! I have 167.3 million furry friends who really want to live with you!", I'm planning to live alone for awhile.
This does not mean live lonely for awhile! I would like the freedom to have guests over for a day or three at a time; those who keep my yard tamed will be definitely given preference. I would like to turn my housemate's room into a game room, what is currently an office with 3 desks into my office and practice room, etc. This will allow me to decompress. I'm unable to de-stress as well as I could otherwise; and I learned a lot by having the particular housemates who I have now. However, I would like the arrangement to end before stuff gets stupid.
I've spoken at length with a few people about how best to show my housemates the door, and I am thankful for all the constructive input, and coverage of some things I hadn't thought of. However, I am not taking input from my housemates because I already feel coerced by them and am tired of feeling like a doormat, even if I am somewhat more assertive than an actual doormat. :(
I can't say I blame you for wishing for personal freedom. If your funds are such you are able to do it, I say why not. Without people around, you can go around naked after a shower if you want, stay up any hours you want, enjoy peace and quiet when you want, and invite whoever you like around without fear of anybody else possibly having issue of it. I hope things go well, man... it can get lonely, but the freedom is nice. Also, don't be surprised if all these "down and out" people flock to you desiring to rent out extra rooms; simply tell them it ain't gonna happen.. if they get pissy over it, oh well (also be aware of those who say "oh, it'll only be a month or 2"; I've heard the tales of 1 or 2 months lasting a year or 2 or 7).