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Update on Life
11 years ago
So, an update on life.
My dad's cancer is back. The counts are slowly, though steadily, rising. The last few weeks have been rough because I've been trying to talk him into getting his affairs in order so that when the time comes, hopefully later rather than sooner, we won't have all the rush and confusion we had with my mother. Not knowing where he'll go, how we're going to cover it, etc.
He has two policies, so we have the funds when the time comes thankfully. But we still need to find out where he'll be buried, who will host his services, and what will happen to his personal belongings. Sean and I are meeting with him and one of his policy holders tomorrow to go over some details, including how to write his will and what sort of things need to be included in it.
It's not fun stuff to think about, but it needs to be done. We had no plans at all for my mother, no insurance and no where for her to go and it resulted in her being cremated, which was something she absolutely did NOT want done ... but we had no other options. And her death was a lot more sudden, so I don't want to lose the chance, knowing it's coming, to get everything with my dad in order.
Throw two sick adults, a baby, truck repair bills plus other bills into the mix and life's been pretty stressful, but we're making it. Little by little, day by day. Though it's not easy. Dad seems to have given up, each week since Mom has been gone, his attitude has gotten worse and worse. He is sadder and sadder, and just not handling life well. He is stressed about his health, and rightly so of course. But every day seems to be a struggle for him.
We are planning to move back in with my dad, he needs me. We just don't know how soon, though. I want to continue helping out our roommate however we can when we do leave, as we moved in with her because of her father's death she needed the extra help to keep her home and other bills kept up. Though I feel badly that we haven't been able to do more because of bills and everything going on.
Trying to stay strong, but so much piling on, and time isn't exactly a friend of ours. But, we will pull through. We always do. Not looking for sympathy or anything like that. Just venting a little, really.
My dad's cancer is back. The counts are slowly, though steadily, rising. The last few weeks have been rough because I've been trying to talk him into getting his affairs in order so that when the time comes, hopefully later rather than sooner, we won't have all the rush and confusion we had with my mother. Not knowing where he'll go, how we're going to cover it, etc.
He has two policies, so we have the funds when the time comes thankfully. But we still need to find out where he'll be buried, who will host his services, and what will happen to his personal belongings. Sean and I are meeting with him and one of his policy holders tomorrow to go over some details, including how to write his will and what sort of things need to be included in it.
It's not fun stuff to think about, but it needs to be done. We had no plans at all for my mother, no insurance and no where for her to go and it resulted in her being cremated, which was something she absolutely did NOT want done ... but we had no other options. And her death was a lot more sudden, so I don't want to lose the chance, knowing it's coming, to get everything with my dad in order.
Throw two sick adults, a baby, truck repair bills plus other bills into the mix and life's been pretty stressful, but we're making it. Little by little, day by day. Though it's not easy. Dad seems to have given up, each week since Mom has been gone, his attitude has gotten worse and worse. He is sadder and sadder, and just not handling life well. He is stressed about his health, and rightly so of course. But every day seems to be a struggle for him.
We are planning to move back in with my dad, he needs me. We just don't know how soon, though. I want to continue helping out our roommate however we can when we do leave, as we moved in with her because of her father's death she needed the extra help to keep her home and other bills kept up. Though I feel badly that we haven't been able to do more because of bills and everything going on.
Trying to stay strong, but so much piling on, and time isn't exactly a friend of ours. But, we will pull through. We always do. Not looking for sympathy or anything like that. Just venting a little, really.
Losian
~losian
Be sure and give your dad a hug or a handshake for me - it was genuinely awesome meeting him and he seemed like a very friendly, upbeat and warm fellow, give him my absolute best, please!
Sontock
~sontock
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I'm going over to his place today, I'll be sure to do so from ya.
Losian
~losian
Thanks, I'd appreciate that! It really makes me sad to think of him just being so unhappy, he really was such a friendly and warm guy, I wish I could do more to help give him a lil' boost just 'cause he seemed like such a great, genuine fella.
