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Throwing my hat into the ring
11 years ago
Okay so lately I've seen a fuck ton, and I mean a fuck ton of drama surrounding certain topics. The two topics being Suicide and depression. I myself suffer from Major Severe Depressive disorder. (Yes I have paperwork with the diagnosis, no I don't care if you believe me.)
I have been affected by both depression and suicide throughout my lifetime. (My mother tried to commit suicide, my best friend tried twice. A girl I used to know from a doll collecting group actually hung herself.) Depression and suicide are not a joke. Nor should they ever be treated as such. People deal with depression and suicide in different ways. No one should be condemned for how they handle it.
People don't realize the power of their words or the power of their opinions. Telling someone to, "just go kill yourself," isn't funny. It isn't cute, and it isn't nice. In fact, if someone does commit suicide because you were the "last nail in the coffin," so to speak, then it's just as bad as if you pulled the trigger, kicked the chair out from under them, or did what ever it was that they did to kill themselves.
People with suicidal tendencies often don't talk about them. The reason being, no one will believe them or might even MOCK them. If someone does talk about it, they aren't looking for attention. They are looking for HELP. The subconscious mind will often do things that the conscious mind will not. If someone truly wants help, they will reach out in different ways. They might leave a suicide note, talk about it to a few friends, or even go so far as to say, "well maybe I should just kill myself." I'm not saying everyone will do these things, nor am I saying this is the norm.
To be honest, most who are going to carry it out, won't talk about it because often they've made peace with it. Wanting to commit suicide isn't selfish. No, it's far from it in the mind of those who think about it. They are thinking of the ONLY way they know how to end the pain and suffering they are in. I, for one will condemn anyone who considers this a selfish act. If someone is suffering so horridly that they see no other way but the release of death, then that is a very very heartbreaking thought to me.
Not everyone thinks alike. However if someone is discussing suicide or writing letters/notes that seem suicidal in nature...well that is a big cry for HELP. It's not a cry for pay attention to me!!! How dare anyone think that way at all. That's a disgusting thing to think.
Anyone who uses suicide or depression for attention also needs serious help in my mind. That means something is going on internally with them too.
In Middle school I was a cutter. I told some friends of mine, not to seem cool or for attention. I told them because my subconscious said, please help me, I am suffering. My friends found a teacher of mine and told them. That teacher then in turn called my mother who took me to my therapists office right away. I could have very easily hid this from people if I didn't want the help. The thing is, I DID.
To reiterate, Depression and suicide are not a joke. They are not something anyone should take lightly or joke about at all. If someone is talking about suicide or showing signs of being suicidal, they want help. They don't want you to condemn them or say they are asking for attention.
If you or someone you know is suffering from depression or suicidal thoughts please consider getting professional help or using the links below to help you.
National Suicide Prevention Hotline This hotline has trained professionals that are there to talk to you and help you through whatever is troubling you. They are there to help and this is a completely anonymous place to call.
List of Suicide Crisis hotlines This list is for those who do not live within the United States and require someone to talk to. I believe all of these are toll free and open 24/7. I might be mistaken but do consider looking.
7 Cups of Tea This website is a site that is completely free, completely anonymous and has people willing to talk to you. All conversations are deleted upon the exiting of the chat. There is no time limit and these people are extremely friendly. I have used this site to help me on days when I feel extremely depressed or have been faced with difficult situations I couldn't handle alone.
Hannah out.