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>>>>PLEASE READ: STUTTERING RANT<<<
11 years ago
My Furry Family
I'm putting my foot down. Making fun of people for a speech impediment is just flat out wrong in my book.
I STUTTER.
Its gotten better over the years, but I still have my bad days, and I still have to try really hard to get whole words and sentences out. I have to prepare and think about what I'm going to say before I say it, and even then sometimes it doesn't go as planned. Lately, I have been stuttering more. I think its time for a crash course in stuttering.
What is stuttering? Stuttering a speech disorder in which the flow of speech is disrupted by involuntary repetitions and prolongations of sounds, syllables, words or phrases as well as involuntary silent pauses or blocks in which the person who stutters is unable to produce sounds.
Can someone who stutters control it? NO! THEY CANT. There is speech therapy and certain techniques to help with trying to speak more fluidly, but a person who stutters will never just magically stop stuttering.
6 things that you should NEVER do:
1. Repeat syllables mockingly like you have a stutter. That's horrible. You think its funny, I think its a reason to loathe your presence. Dont be that asshole.
2. Finishing words for them, because its taking them too long to sat that particular word/phrase for you. That's RUDE AND YOU ALL DO IT! STOP IT!!!
3. Telling the person to slow down, relax, or take a deep breath usually does not help either... and very often is incredibly demeaning.
4. Telling them to "just be quiet" or "dont even try talking". I've gotten this a few times. Anyone that says these things deserves to be punched in the face with a bus.
5. Interrupting them. This is rude no matter who you are. Don't.
6. Making the "wrap it up" or "hurry" gesture. This is also incredibly rude. Doing this only makes me want to stop talking.... forever. Like, why even try to talk? I might as well, because apparently I'm wasting your time...
6 Things you SHOULD do:
1. Treat the person who stutters with the same level of dignity and respect as you treat other people. SHOCKER!
2. Resist the temptation to finish the person's sentences or fill in words because this usually does not help. People who stutter know what they want to say; they just need more time getting their message out.
3. Listen to the content of the message rather than to how the message is coming out.
4. BE PATIENT. Its simple, but one of the nicest things you can do.
5. Instead of telling the person to slow down, try using a slower, more relaxed speaking rate yourself. This may help relieve the feeling of time pressure and it will show them that you have time to talk.
6. Let your posture, your facial expressions, your manner, and your voice show that you are listening and are interested and that you are not embarrassed. YES, I said embarrassed! You know who you are... and this is why i probably dont talk to you anymore.
NOW YOU KNOW, and now if you read this, you have no excuse. I normally don't make angry posts, and Im sorry, but I am sick and tired of being made fun of, and being the punchline to someone's joke just because I stutter. I can take gay jokes, fat jokes, height jokes... you name it... but stuttering is the one thing I am REALLY sensitive about. Please be considerate to others that stutter, because its a good chance they are sensitive about it too.
Thank you for reading.
I STUTTER.
Its gotten better over the years, but I still have my bad days, and I still have to try really hard to get whole words and sentences out. I have to prepare and think about what I'm going to say before I say it, and even then sometimes it doesn't go as planned. Lately, I have been stuttering more. I think its time for a crash course in stuttering.
What is stuttering? Stuttering a speech disorder in which the flow of speech is disrupted by involuntary repetitions and prolongations of sounds, syllables, words or phrases as well as involuntary silent pauses or blocks in which the person who stutters is unable to produce sounds.
Can someone who stutters control it? NO! THEY CANT. There is speech therapy and certain techniques to help with trying to speak more fluidly, but a person who stutters will never just magically stop stuttering.
6 things that you should NEVER do:
1. Repeat syllables mockingly like you have a stutter. That's horrible. You think its funny, I think its a reason to loathe your presence. Dont be that asshole.
2. Finishing words for them, because its taking them too long to sat that particular word/phrase for you. That's RUDE AND YOU ALL DO IT! STOP IT!!!
3. Telling the person to slow down, relax, or take a deep breath usually does not help either... and very often is incredibly demeaning.
4. Telling them to "just be quiet" or "dont even try talking". I've gotten this a few times. Anyone that says these things deserves to be punched in the face with a bus.
5. Interrupting them. This is rude no matter who you are. Don't.
6. Making the "wrap it up" or "hurry" gesture. This is also incredibly rude. Doing this only makes me want to stop talking.... forever. Like, why even try to talk? I might as well, because apparently I'm wasting your time...
6 Things you SHOULD do:
1. Treat the person who stutters with the same level of dignity and respect as you treat other people. SHOCKER!
2. Resist the temptation to finish the person's sentences or fill in words because this usually does not help. People who stutter know what they want to say; they just need more time getting their message out.
3. Listen to the content of the message rather than to how the message is coming out.
4. BE PATIENT. Its simple, but one of the nicest things you can do.
5. Instead of telling the person to slow down, try using a slower, more relaxed speaking rate yourself. This may help relieve the feeling of time pressure and it will show them that you have time to talk.
6. Let your posture, your facial expressions, your manner, and your voice show that you are listening and are interested and that you are not embarrassed. YES, I said embarrassed! You know who you are... and this is why i probably dont talk to you anymore.
NOW YOU KNOW, and now if you read this, you have no excuse. I normally don't make angry posts, and Im sorry, but I am sick and tired of being made fun of, and being the punchline to someone's joke just because I stutter. I can take gay jokes, fat jokes, height jokes... you name it... but stuttering is the one thing I am REALLY sensitive about. Please be considerate to others that stutter, because its a good chance they are sensitive about it too.
Thank you for reading.
Thank you so much again. :)
I brung attention to any other issues,in a journal,because people complaining to me about things
you are a really nice and very strong person
Thats good.
Thank you so so very much.
I don't get those types of people. It feels like a double-standard sometimes, doesn't it? If someone makes fun of you for stuttering, and then you point out their huge nose, they'd be hurt and self-conscious, but "I was just teasing" all hurt and upset would be their response, as if you were the bad guy when they did it first.
I dunno, I've dealt with those people too much!
Anyways, I'm here for ya, don't let 'em get ya down. You're wonderful and amazing. ~<3
Double standards are so hard sometimes. Its hard enough for me to speak, teasing anyone about it is pointless.
Thank you honey. You are so special to me. <3