I'm noticing a trend, here.
11 years ago
General
White friend: *says something along the line of “it’s okay to be racist,” “I love racism, it’s so funny” “but if only people of color would just __,” “I’m not racist, BUT,” a racist joke, something about how they can say whatever racist shit they want to because “muh freedom of speech," or something actually fairly offensive to someone who isn't white*
Me: *narrows eyes*
White friend: OH BUT MUR I WOULD NEVER SAY ANYTHING LIKE THAT TO YOU YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU
...
This sums up my life for the last couple of months.
Me: *narrows eyes*
White friend: OH BUT MUR I WOULD NEVER SAY ANYTHING LIKE THAT TO YOU YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU
...
This sums up my life for the last couple of months.
FA+

...and all the multitude of ways the above can be expressed. It never leads anywhere good.
My question always is, "yeah, I get that you can say whatever you want. Let's put that one to bed for the moment. The real curiosity is why this particular bit of expression is the one thing you just have to say, at this particular moment?"
At any rate, sorry you've had to endure all this. The best that can be hoped is that more of you rubs off on them than the other way around.
I always hope that my overall genial behavior rubs off on someone...but that never works. I just have to stop hanging around/talking to assholes. I rarely talk to anyone in general, so the asshole ratio has narrowed a bit.
And while there is freedom of speech.
They forget there is consequences to said freedom of speech.
That's the one that gets me.