I really wish it would stop to because to me it doesn't even make sense. I've had my own character an Iksar labeled a transgender and 'cuntboy' simply not for having breasts... because she is a reptile and they don't have breasts in their own lore! I don't attach a damn bit of perceived culture standards to male,female, and hermaphrodite. Your body either makes eggs, makes sperm, or makes them both. Outside of that you can be the manliest female more manlier then the Duke Nukem or the softest and gentle male. Before those are personalities, traits, and behavior.

I guess I just don't believe in the concept of gender and see gender as nothing more then a character's sex and my simplistic view seems to piss people off because they want to be gender identified when it in truth does nothing but support their desire not to be trait identified simply because they have a socket or plug.

See, I very much believe in the concept of gender identity.

The thing is, it's not the same as biological sex in the slightest, but the use of "transgender" and "cisgender" keep tying it back to biological sex, which is ridiculous.

Exactly. A male sex can be identified as a 'feminine' and a female sex can be identified as 'masculine' in genders and there is nothing wrong with this if gender identity is important. But why do we make up these terms to segregate them away. And then on top of that the people that apply them to others based on THEIR views such as oh she doesn't have breasts so she must be a trans. And labeling another cis because he isn't sporting broad shoulders and a massive tackle but still identifies as male gender as if that is wrong for him to do so.

Transgender and cisgender have their use psychology study but outside of that to me just seem as a way to segregate people like other more infamous labels of various segregation acts in the past. I have met a fairly decent amount of people who gender identify opposite their sex. And while I may have assumed their gender wrong because of our stupid gender pronouns having no neutral and are sex/gender based once they've informed me what they identify as I have no issue with it. It's no more insulting really then a guy with long hair being hailed as ma'am from behind, hell it is more embarrassing to the person addressing them because our language forces them to make a gender choice since we cannot say "Hello (fill in the blank)" or "(fill in the blank) you dropped something".

Perhaps that is one of the big parts to the problem. That our language has their ideological requirement that sex and gender must be linked when addressing each other.

Humanity likes their categories. We've been bunching up like things into their own groups since the first Homo Sapien differentiated between day and night; it's practically ingrained into our collective conscious.

I'm not arguing against your point, just stating my opinion on why it's so difficult for people to handle. Frankly, I'm in total agreement. I have friends who were born a gender, and even dress/act in ways that many would associate with that gender, but prefer the use of adjectives associated with another. One of the major stumbling blocks of all this is that unless you knew a person already, your mind will already switcdh to a set list of words for using regarding them. Just like many great conflicts of the modern age, both sides have to be understanding.

Thank you for pointing out why it's okay to hate the word "cisgendered"; of course the converse would be true as well, when I think about it.

I always thought it was hilarious that we use the same terminology to describe gender roles that we use to describe hydrocarbons

I'm cis-gendered. Why? Because I have a linear tetrahedral molecular geometry motherfucker

also I'm saturated with hydrogen - oh yeah, so wet

I've.... never actually thought of it this way before.
Fair enough.
Of course nowadays I tend to use the term "genderqueer" for myself, or even more commonly "queer". For me there's just no better way to describe it.

I've heard more and more people using "genderqueer", which is totally awesome. It's my preferred description of choice for myself, as well. =)