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Hey so Ive been wondering
11 years ago
How do you tell if a friend is a friend or they are just using you. I feel like a lot of people in my life arent really my friends when they say they are, and I feel like if I somehow remove them for my life and will be better off and I can actually start rebuilding. But I dont want to hurt anyone, and I cant just tell them to fuck off so I guess I will suffer. I am asking this because before I left for AIT I played Destiny if you dont know what it is look it up, I even played the beta, but when I got back all my "friends" had already done everything they could in the game with me, so I was force to play by myself, but the thing is you have to play with other people or you cant beat a part of the game that cant give you stuff to make it harder. Well every single time I reach the lvl they said I could do it on they increased the number, but when someone else needed to do it they let him do it when he was lower then me. And I was yelled for doing something wrong but when other people did it then they werent really yelled at, and I didnt have a mic because I bought a $300 one and it echos when I plug it into chat, but they were complaining that I wasnt talking. And I just feeling like for the mostly of my life most of my so call friends just use me. For money, because I have video games, and other reason, and all I want to do is make people happy, but how can I do that when I am always sad? I would trying to push them out of my life but they are also friend with my twin brother, and when I dont answer them for awhile about them coming over or I come over there house they come over anyway.
BabyDroid
~babydroid
Hon, this is a real struggle for a lot of people, myself included. Your best bet is to just wait until you're down and out and need help or someone you can rely on. It's the ones who will stop what they're doing to talk to you, or come to you when they notice something is a bit off. Those are your true friends. It's the ones who push you away with little hesitation and little effort in a mean to avoid you when you're vulnerable. The ones who only have time for themselves. Those are the ones who aren't your friends. Those are the ones adding stress and discomfort to your life.
TurntechGodh3ad
~turntechgodh3ad
OP
What about people who start the problem?
BabyDroid
~babydroid
How so?
TurntechGodh3ad
~turntechgodh3ad
OP
I cant explain it but he started a fight between me and my brother
BabyDroid
~babydroid
Was it intentional? Did he know that your brother in you fighting was going to be the outcome? If he purposely staged an elaborate rouse to get you two to fight for his personal entertainment, than I would ditch him.
TurntechGodh3ad
~turntechgodh3ad
OP
Well he said that he was just trying to help but they were in my room. I kept telling them to get out so I could go to sleep, my brother's excuse was that I keep him up every time he needs to sleep problem is we used to share a room, but then he moved out because the bed were suposively shitty things is he moved into our room we made into a public game room. He said he tried giving me the room because there was tofon in there and since I didnt take it he did, but I was trying not to be a ass. Then he moves into to it complaining that kept him up at night, and then they both came into my room while I was trying to sleep and was telling my brother to do shit, and I yell at them to get out and it started a fight, but I guess that was my fault, like everything else.
Damien_Firetail
~damienfiretail
that wasn't ur fault dude unfortunately it is a touchy issue that until you are both ready to be mature adults and put the past in the past and start to respect each others space while you are trying to sleep it will just continue. as far as the original question goes; my roommate has destiny and i have many other games and honestly if you ONLY know the person online through a game i definitely would NOT consider them a friend if you know them in person then from the sounds of it i still would only call them an acquaintance not a friend cause from the sounds of it they don't consider you one. I don't say this to sound like an ass i say it cause in my experience its the truth and i feel its my responsibility to TRY to help people going through things i have been through.
