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Am I a jerk?
10 years ago
I wasn't going to post about this. I was just going to let it go, like I always do, but this has genuinely gotten to me and I don't understand it.
I sent a mass message about a skype cleanup, because my list is full of people I don't talk to anymore. One in particular sent me a very passive, 'whatever dude' emoticon. I immediately took that as a sign they didn't care, and being honest my previous chats with them weren't that positive, so really I figured they wouldn't care if I removed them.
Suddenly everything blew up in my face, I guess they didn't take it well, and told me I was a jerk for removing them. I can see their side, I guess, I removed them after an emoticon that I apparently misread. From their side, i can see that being a little douchey.
My issue is that rather than having even an ounce of patience they immediately called me out for being a jerk while i was away cooking and I spent about a half hour apologizing profusely and explaining my situation. They didn't care, they told me I was a jerk and that I "don't get to choose what I am".
The bottom line is the only contact I've EVER had with this person is a half a yiff RP that fell flat and that wasn't exactly a positive experience either.
I don't get it. At all. Am I the bad guy here? I mean for christ sakes they came and left a shout telling me to go to hell and called me a jerk again and blocked me on FA....
I could be mad, but in all honesty I'm just confused. I never did anything, I don't think. I've literally never, ever, ever been called a jerk; in real life or online or anything. I make it my life's goal to be the opposite of that, but they just wouldn't listen to me.
What the hell? I break my back 5 nights a week in a clothing plant, come home looking for a little positivity, and to make a change to reduce some sources of my recent increasing depression and I get this?
I just don't understand it.
I sent a mass message about a skype cleanup, because my list is full of people I don't talk to anymore. One in particular sent me a very passive, 'whatever dude' emoticon. I immediately took that as a sign they didn't care, and being honest my previous chats with them weren't that positive, so really I figured they wouldn't care if I removed them.
Suddenly everything blew up in my face, I guess they didn't take it well, and told me I was a jerk for removing them. I can see their side, I guess, I removed them after an emoticon that I apparently misread. From their side, i can see that being a little douchey.
My issue is that rather than having even an ounce of patience they immediately called me out for being a jerk while i was away cooking and I spent about a half hour apologizing profusely and explaining my situation. They didn't care, they told me I was a jerk and that I "don't get to choose what I am".
The bottom line is the only contact I've EVER had with this person is a half a yiff RP that fell flat and that wasn't exactly a positive experience either.
I don't get it. At all. Am I the bad guy here? I mean for christ sakes they came and left a shout telling me to go to hell and called me a jerk again and blocked me on FA....
I could be mad, but in all honesty I'm just confused. I never did anything, I don't think. I've literally never, ever, ever been called a jerk; in real life or online or anything. I make it my life's goal to be the opposite of that, but they just wouldn't listen to me.
What the hell? I break my back 5 nights a week in a clothing plant, come home looking for a little positivity, and to make a change to reduce some sources of my recent increasing depression and I get this?
I just don't understand it.
I never meant to cause you any grief, and I'll apologize till i can't type it anymore. I misinterpreted your emoticon, and that was my fault I admit and own that. I made a bad move while I was in an emotional fit.
I don't want this to blow up into any drama. You've never done me wrong so I'm sorry.