Well, that's very nice/sweet of you.

I admit that I am not much of a "people person." There was a time when I felt so completely alone and hated myself for all of the problems I had. But one day I realized that no one truly mattered but me. I cannot live to please others or to meet their expectations. I will not allow others' opinions and judgements define who I am. Only I can determine what kind of person I am. My words and actions will define me.

I believe in the power of self. To realize you are your own whole being - to know that you don't need someone else to "complete you" is liberating. We are not alone, but wallowing in self-hate will only bring isolation. Stand up, so that you can stand together with others. We are not alone.

I have to disagree with you just a bit. What you say may apply to some, but I very much rely on the love from others. I DO need Kai to complete me as much as possible and then sometimes there is still more room to spare because of the love I lack for myself.

I've struggled with it for years and years and it's not something anyone else can just come along and 'fix', but I at least am able recognize it and I'm able to accept myself for who and what I am nowadays, even if I can't fully love myself.

I agree, what I say does not apply to everyone. But those of us who can stand on our own should look to help others stand up too. Even if it's just through love, as Kai obviously does for you.

We can't save everyone (just as I can't save all of the cute little homeless kitties), but if we can all help at least one person in our lifetimes, it is something to be proud of.

I think it's not entirely correct to approach it as "fixing" a person. I cannot make someone change who they are. A person has to want to change; they have to put in the effort. Dive deep within; meditate and figure out what truly matters to you. Introspection is a fundamental tool of self-determination.

I'm not claiming to "know" anything... This is all based on my own experiences, research, and introspection. Life is complicated and often difficult. Sometimes a person just needs to hear or read the righ words for things to "click" and begin to make sense for them. Sometimes we all need a helping hand.

Ha, ok, I'm starting to sound a little pretentious now...

Man, or woman, is so curious, I do the same, I like cheer up the people and yes, you bring these ''service'' and if you want talk too, You can tal kwith me if you want^^

I appreciate it.

I've learned through my own personal experiences that we should all strive to stand on our own. There will always be those that need help, but I believe in helping others stand on their own. Those who want to change and improve, and are willing to put in the effort, can and will.

Sometimes all it takes is a conversation with the right person. It doesn't have to be the "right time" - some day it will make sense.

You have reason. I like it because, I'm the people who has a lot (REALLY, A LOT) of empathy and I know for first hand what is feel alone and like a shit, for these i like do it, I don't mind How are the people, I want say it good words and make it live

Sometimes, the people only need a hug and sometimes whoe hears it, and I have a lot of time, But i don't matter if I spend 3-4 hours with one people for nothing,


I'm the people who spent 250 USD at friends and I don't have in my b-day more than a simple ''happy birthday'', I mean, sometimes a people who don't know is a best friend than a who knos for 5-8 years

But the most important thing: Be happy

Exactly. Be yourself, and be happy with who you are. Don't do nice things because you want praise, recognition, or reward: do it because that is who you are. Acknowledgement feels great, but the kind deed is not about be ling acknowledged.

Whether it is a hug, a few kind words, advice, or just to listen while someone vents their frustration - sometimes what may seem trivial to one could mean the world to another.

Exactly!

Also i'm a punching ball if anyone needs it, but these is only for friends,

A literal punching bag?

I once read about someone who let others punch him, thinking it would somehow help him or make others like him more. That is a very negative and self-destructive approach. One must have the self respect to not allow others to harm them. Physical abuse is not friendship, nor will it truly help anyone.

Not literaly punch, only words

I don't have in my island a friend who do this, I'm alone of furrys, and I don't see anyone out of the net

Ah, ok. Don't sacrifice your own self respect just to make friends. :)

I have never actually met any furs outside of the internet. I've never been to a convention... Maybe one of these days I'll go to that one in San Jose...

You ahve luck, I'm going to be in one these August, and i feel all feels in my body, (When i go to my first live of a music group y have 39 of fever only for nervous) I think I will be ill these days T.T

Do you have anxiety problems? Feeling sick when you are excited about something sucks. :(

I have some travel anxiety, but it's not that bad.

It isn't a problem, only, for especial things i have fear or i'm sick

Also when i play game like counter strike and i'm alone aganist the other team, i be so nervous

Ah, I know what you mean. I've dealt with that too... You just have to shrug it off and say "hey, I'm just here to have fun." Act natural (like a civilized person) and you will be okay. Be respectful and those worth talking to will show the same respect.

Bufff, imposible, At the minimum whan somebody trust on my acts make me be nervous

iloveyourface

It's a squishy face. I shaved this morning, so it doesn't have the texture of sandpaper yet. xP

to care about others is wonderful gift in this day and age. Am always here if you need someone too.

I appreciate it, my friend!

Anytime man!