Shadow and I developed mostly in real-life. We got to know each other and spent more time together in person. Eventually, we just realized what it was and it went from there.

My mate and I meet on here little after I got officially in the fandom. At first it was more here and there, then we got each other on Twitter and talked a little more and more. Between sex talk, rps, and regular talk, we became master/slave then after a couple months I made the move and asking to be his BF too. Which he wanted to and felt the same way.

We've only known each other almost a year and a half, been master/slave since March and been BFs since late June.

We are in the early stage of everything and havent even meet yet, but soon.

Would I would say is don't push hard, let it happen. Be friends with people and work your way up. You dont always need to date someone before you be there BF you can just be friends and get closer and closer.

But, everyone is different. So it hard to really say what someone should do.

Honestly, the best way to go about it is just get to know people, and just being oneself. It'll happen eventually, even though it might take time.
Desperately trying to find a partner does get expressed outwards as well (especially if that person is vocal about it with statements such as "omg i'm so unloved, i'll never find a partner ever!" or the likes), and it can be very off-putting.

I'm not sure diving into the "gay scene" (even if where your friend lives isn't a big gay community) is a good way, either, I'll be honest... a lot of people there only identify themselves through their sexuality and also are really shallow. It's usually better to find somebody who shares other interests (and not just the orientation) - video games, movies, art, whatever. Even furry on its own is better than just sexuality.

This!!

I have nothing else to add, you summed it up...

Perfectly.

Seconded. :)

Would it be fact or opinion that Paris, is considered the No1 capitol romantic city in the world?

This times a million!!!!!!!!!! It has to happen naturally over time. Even though its the cliche answer, it`ll happen when it happens. The more you force, rush, beg or plead th harder on you itll be.

"He doesn't live close to any furries or many gays that he knows of"
Well where is he

Somewhere in New Mexico

Lots of furs and gay men in New Mexico! He should go to a gay bar or even use pounced.

I met my boyfriend on here by literally commenting on a picture of him saying he was kinda cute. We just talked for a while and I think it worked out because we didn't get really close really fast, unlike my other relationships where things happened really fast, and ended hard.

I only read the title but all I can say is.

Be out going, friendly, charming (optional) and try different social groups

P.a most males/females usually have a weakness for a in shape body...... Just saying

Here are some tips:

low standards on the looks, being healthy and clean is all needed if your main goal is a long term relationship on a very emotional level.
having common interests to spend time together.
mutual aid, help each-other, either practically, emotionally or financially. I always go by with 50/50
mental stability from both parties, as long both partners know how to handle conflicts, then all should be fine
having emotional maturity, this can be very good to prevent unnecessary drama
and of course: loyalty, devotion, unconditional love, empathy, patience, fortitude

Don't go looking for sex alone. Sex with nothing else backing it is empty and meaningless. Try looking for a friend first. A companion with whom you can share yourself. Be yourself. Be friendly. Don't even bother trying to look for a boyfriend. If a friendship blossoms into something more, then it will. Don't try to force it at all.

Hmmm, well i found my mate under interesting circumstances, so there isnt much i can offer in terms of looking actively. But if i can suggest something, is that you should keep yourself open and available. Me and Nex nearly weren't together because we didnt want to admit our feelings to eachother out of fear of rejection and ruining our friendship.

With me it's the age thing. . . . most of the people that I know of are youngish and don't want an older tiggy like myself. That being said, I found partners back when Yahoo personals were free and newish. Or, when I use to go to mIRC channels like #maleyiff. I may live where there are lots of furries, but the means to try to get to know some of them here in ATL, is limited. Oh, and I'm single and looking. LOL

Are we talking about a mutual friend? And you know how I met Carl. Through FA we chatted a bit and got to know one another and are already planning a visit for a week in Vegas :3

He should do what makes him happy. If he finds someone online with whom he can feel a certain bond building, he should go for it. And that doesn't mean just furries. In greece for example, there's an online chat room in gayathens.gr in which gay guys can chat freely and communicate/get to know each other. The sad truth is tho, that sometimes people are just desperate, so he should make careful decisions without holding himself back.

I never had a boyfriend personally, so that might be making me completely invalid in this, but the most important things I've found so far to realize if someone's boyfriend material is 1) Makes me feel a bit special and 2) Makes me want to be a better person. Because of how deprived people can get online, they lose track on that and it sadly shows most times.

I sometimes see gay furries being a bit too comfortable with touching and that puts me in a really really awkward position. They start with a hug, then maybe a rub on the back or a scratching somewhere and it ends up being them hugging you and pressing their boners against your back. This would have been fine in a relationship for me, but definately not something I enjoy when I just met someone 1 hour ago. But that's just me. He should let himself go and do whatever satisfies him.

And above all, positivity and confidence. Like, I had quite alot of flirts in my life. When I was 75 kilos (and sexy) and when I am 95 (and fat) all because of my attitude and my personality and that's something that amuses me :3

Even though it's been a short time, I've known mine for years. Be yourself and get to know people. Jumping right into one can lead to a messy break up a few months later. Just be social, you'll click with someone eventually. Common interests are great but having the exact same likes and dislikes tends to not turn out the best.

and I have been together for fifteen years now.

We met via his "Red XIII Shrine", back when everyone had a site on Geocities and "shrines" to characters were still a thing. I read one of his stories which starred an OC of his, "Sita", which was a female of Nanaki's race, (Nanaki being Red XIII's real name), and I liked it, and emailed him about using Sita for a story.

He seemed happy and said instead we should work together on the story, so we met up one day utilizing Dephi Forums. At the time I was friends with people from a Monster Rancher board on LUSENET (I think that was the name of it), which eventually would become "Monster Rancher Metroppolis", but that's another story.

So we met, talked, got along well, and over time got into online roleplay. I dragged Zeis in with me. Over time we RPed together with our characters, became closer friends. Eventually I realized I was "bi" (which in reality I was gay, never once was attracted to women I think..) and got a boyfriend. That lasted a year or so.

Eventually I realized I was in love with Zeis, and broke up with my bf to go to him; however, I was shy, and said I was in love with someone else and how to approach them, made up a fake name..and eventually told Zeis it was him I wanted.

I'd like to point out the whole time I was with my ex-bf, Zeis was obviously jealous of us, and he admitted later he always thought "why not me?.." when it came to me and him. So cute. Poor thing was pining for me.. <3

Overall, our relationship just happened naturally, and I think that's the best way. People who get too desperate and try to force it to happen, try to just hunt one out..it's harder that way IMO. I think eventually it will happen to people, given the right circumstances.

There's a Hawaiian proverb:

"He Manu Ke Aloha, ‘A ‘Ohe Lala Kau ‘Ole" - "Love is like a bird, there is no branch it does not land upon."

Leave yourself open to it, just don't try to force it to happen. Be yourself, don't be fake, be confident. Get to know people. Find people with similar interests, always helps.

And I also echo the thing about furries and sex being way too freaking 'familiar' at times. Sex isn't everything.

The key is actually taking the time to talk to people and get to know them.

Too many seem to think involved relationships just happen if you wait for someone to show up and interact with you, doesn't seem to happen in my experience.

I dunno. I haqve never had a boyfriend that was worth a damn.

The best way to get a boyfriend is not to look for one. Seriously, just go out, have fun, meet new folks, be yourself, and eventually you'll know that you've found the one when the sparks fly. Trying to make it happen or overthinking it will ruin it. Love is an emotional thing, not a logical problem that can be solved or forced.

I think the reason some people weather straight, gay, lesbian etc, demand mates like online and probably off, is because their going through real life situations, + some gets picky Online dating is primary finding people who lives in a far distance.

PS: U may think psycologist helps, but mostly don't

The best way to meet someone, gay or otherwise, is to let your friends know that you're looking so that they can set you up.

Find a boyfriend is really, REALLY easy. Most guys are logical, horny, and upfront about what they want. I'm bi and even though I spend most of my effort finding females for a relationship, I keep ending up with interested males even when I'm not trying. You can also talk to people in relationships and ask how they met. Don't just ask one couple either, talk to a lot of them until you get a good idea for how the average relationship works today. Things change with the times.

The first thing you should do is talk to people. It doesn't matter how shy you are, the more you practice the better you'll get. Don't just use IMs and talk about how "maybe" or "someday" you'll meet up at a fur con. Get Skype and use your voice. Get used to talking about sexual topics and see what you have in common. If you make friends this way, the subject of sex together always comes up eventually. Just talk about the things you like or the things you think you might like if you got the chance.

I assume 99% of you only want a furry boyfriend, but remember there are a lot of ways to find guys a hell of a lot closer that you might have more in common with. You might have the impression that apps like grindr/growlr etc. and sites like craigslist are just for meeting sketchy people, but you can actually find some decent people if you are selective and put some time in to talking with people first. The fandom is wonderful but don't forget to branch outside of it. It is always possible the guy you meet might end up liking the furry fandom too, don't be afraid to show him your porn collection. Have you met a guy that doesn't like porn?

Remember to also work on yourself. Starting a relationship with guys is easy compared to women but it can be a little harder to maintain sometimes. I'm not going to give you the typical "hit the gym" bullshit that everyone has said a million times, but just do little things to better yourself. Are you creative? Make sure you are always chasing a project you dream about. If you're smart go to college, work hard at your job, just take whatever it is that makes you unique and capitalize on all of the good parts. Make sure when someone falls in love with you that they get the best version of you. Things don't always work out but you'll feel a lot better about failed relationships if you know that you did everything possible on your end. You can also bring out the best in others this way too.

The last tip I'd give is to close the distance ASAP. Many of you will only date other furries, so don't end up one of those couples that have been "together" but never actually met in the four years they've known each other. I have actually seen couples buy hundreds of dollars worth of commissions but never a plane ticket to go see each other. Make it a priority, your love is important, your life is important. Don't waste too many moments apart from each other. I'd say six months is a good estimate to how long you should talk online before you meet, but it can happen sooner or later depending on many factors.

Say the deepest, most racist thing you can possibly say to a person and if they still like you after that you have a winner.

I...think this is absolutely true! At least in my relationship

What do you mean gay and traditional? Are you implying that gay men in majority aren't monogamous?

I really do believe in the classic saying. "You don't find when you look, you just find when you find."
And it's been true for me in all my cases.

He shouldnt be looking for someone, he should just be himself snd the right person will come eventually. Looking for bf is not making that hapen faster.

Horrible advice: He can pretend he allready has a boyfriend. Studies show that people find mated people more attractive than singles.

I found mine on Tinder, and we've been going out for a year and a half now

i ask myself about it DX i dislike charrooms and such because i dont wanna feel just like a piece of meat


maybe really just fa XD

Love yourself before you love other people.

I've gained the most pleasant relationship experience by finding someone. Yes, finding, not searching. It might be counterproductive to focus too much on the lack of a partner, because that can drag you down. People tend to let other people know when they're down and a "Meh, I want/need a partner so badly now..." might scare some potential partner off, because they get the impression that the other one would just take anyone out of desperation.

My advice: Stay optimistic, show that optimism, enjoy your single life and then good things will happen when you expect them the least. :)

Stop looking. Make friends instead. If one of the friends you make is giving you butterflies in your tummy, talk to them about it and see if they feel the same.

Experiment from there and see if there's a romantic connection.

Otherwise, just become better friends, maybe with benefits~, and just relax and enjoy what you have.

A lot of people, ESPECIALLY in the fandom, are all desperate for a "mate" and because of this desperation, it leads them to all the wrong people, all the wrong situations, and all the worst heartbreaks. Which is best to just, chillax, forget about finding a mate, and just make all the friends possible. One of them will like you and you'll like them back and eventually things "CLICK!"

Besides, who better to fall in love with than someone you already adore in the first place, hmm?

I guess it's different for everyone. Don't try so hard, and someone will eventually turn up *shrugs- dating advice isn't my forte XD but good luck to him. And good luck to you, dobie ^_^

All these long winded answers and tips. To be honest, how to find a boyfriend - don't look! Things happen naturally be it online or in person, you can not force something to happen whilst you be in a rocky relationship, simply let time and experience build on a friendship and if it becomes more, there you go.

Hey, I'm 22 [20 Feb 1993] and I've never dated anybody
#ForeverAlone

btw what's your age now? can you tell jason a happy birthday from me? he doesn't talk to me. :(

They should attend some furry cons. One can't find without looking, and one should look where the options tend to be.

Through Shining Force Central video game forums. He thought the dragon Bleu was hot and I thought the werewolf Zylo was sexy so we PMed each other and it was uuuh a weird way to meet someone but it has lasted for 11 years now lol.