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[angry journal] PSA: respect & social conduct.
10 years ago
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going to delete later, but i need to make a PSA if you want to be friends or something.
if you don't care really to talk to me, or just are here for the art, please ignore this!! enjoy the art and thank you for watching!
i have been having a hard time with this, i never ever want to be mean to people or make anyone upset but this is something i find incredibly frustrating/upseting and i've been trying to ignore it but apparently if i don't say anything it seems that sounds like a go ahead to talk to me however you want. i am very, very hard to upset or make angry, but i'm done having people talk to me however they think is fine.
gender, i ask for they/them pronouns. i don't know what is so difficult about that, but if you really can't find it in your heart to make the effort to call me by my preferred pronouns, then why make the effort to even talk to me? it's upsetting, and i don't need the notes cluttering my inbox asking "are you a boy or girl?"why does my genitalia matter to you? cause i can promise the chances of me fucking you go down to 0.00% as soon as i realize you are more concerned about my body than knowing me as a person. it makes me uncomfortable, and i don't like it, so please do not clutter my inbox, i'm sick of it. just because my gender pronouns are neutral, doesn't mean i feel neutrally about what you call me.
submissive talk, nothing is more infuriating than being spoken down to by a stranger. people assume that i'm some cutesy femboy who likes that, but you don't know me or anything about me so i find it extremely rude, but it makes me very very angry when anyone assumes that because of the way i dress or look means that i want to be dominated? i don't even know how i give off that vibe? i am nice to everyone, and i would never go out of my way to hurt someone's feelings, but there is a serious difference between me flirting and being nice. i never flirt with people, so assume i'm being nice. fun fact i'm not a sub, i'm a dom, and i'm more interested in woman. so ??? so idk what you want?
sexual talk i'm sorry, but is it normal to meet someone and immediatly start talking sexually to them? if you met me in person would you start talking sexually to me too? i don't think it's cute, or funny, it's creepy and gross. i don't need notes in my inbox like that. do you know how much i care about your penis??? not at all.
anyway, like i've said, i really don't want to upset anyone or hurt their feelings but it's just wearing on me when i get these kinds of messages and junk, it's not funny, and it's hard to ignore when it's often.
like i've said, i really really, don't want to sound mean, but this is important to me. if you really do want to be friends, i'm sure you won't do anything like this, or haven't, but yeah. thank you for understanding, i hope everyone is doing well and has a good rest of their day.
It makes me feel bad about myself when people talk like that too me. like, "wow? only my parts are important? not my art or personality, but i only matter to satisfy someone's kink? ok thanks"
it's not a fact of just even not being able to handle the the sexual talk, it's a matter of respect. it's so disrespectful.
like, even if someone is interested in me sexually, why the fuck do they go about it that way? smoothness factor = 0%.
I can't say that I understand it because I never got those kinds of messages but I can tell it's pretty frustrating and creepy... I get a shiver down my spine of fear when I think about this ;;;
There's a system here on FA that you can block/blacklist those people! Maybe it can help out to not being harrassed anymore like that
'Hope that my little words can help you! I'll kick their asses with my Diablo Jumbe >:C
Also you may be a dom but doeSN'T CHANGE THE FACT THAT UR AN ADORABLE SWEETHEART WHO DESERVES FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE <3 AAA
i wish i knew you better you seem awesome ;u; eee
yOURE SO KIND AND SWEET AAAAAAAAAAAA
you should chat with me!!! do you have me on Skype? :3
I'm so, so sorry to hear that you're getting such creepy notes. I can't believe that people take your kind nature for flirting? I mean, what the hell even? You can't just be friendly and civil to a person anymore or else you're leading them on? My god, that's a disturbing mindset that some people in our fandom sadly have.
I can't believe people are noting you about your gender either like? Damn that's sick. That's disgusting and should be NOBODY's business other than your own and the people you decide to share it with. It's disgusting that people are coming to you to ask that, and so bluntly too.
If you ever need to talk about this but don't want to make a journal or something, my inbox is always open for you! ;; I hope you don't let these people get to you too much. You deserve to be treated the way you treat others, and you've always been so kind and easy to work with and get along with.
again, thank you for your kind words, it's extremely good to hear.
In regards to gender, I don't think that it should matter. I think it's what you do and what you show that can make someone either be a friendly person or otherwise. It's a shame that people do this to you, also. Nothing really gets on my nerves more than when people want someone just for their body. ; v ;
In regards to whether I call someone a "he/she/they/them," I mostly just say their names over and over again unless I have a good understanding as to what pronouns to use. Like the Pronouns Song from School House Rock, I will call someone Rufus Xavier Sarsaparilla, really their usernames (Unless there's someone on FA with that for their username) until I find out what to properly use in terms with pronouns.
Overall, I hope things get better for yas. ; w ;
but thank you very much!
People are so socially freakin awkward and it's like "dude go outside and learn how to have a conversation instead of jerkin it to furry porn"
And the ignorance .. DAMN. I seriously hope this shit stops. Unreal that it has happened more than once for ya.
If people start harassing you, start taking names and giving them to admins ;)))
(Or I'll beat them the honk up, either way)
i hope it stops too, otherwise i have a bit of a blocklist to build up. it's really unfortunate, but it is what it is. i think people forget that i'm not irl furry fap material, i am a person with feelings...feelings that get hurt when people treat me unkindly.
i wish people would just stop this behavior, i don't wanna yell at people, if i didn't write this journal i probably would have popped off. OTL
It's not that I don't appreciate honesty, but if people come at me like a treain ready to steamroll me I'll just run the other way. Like NOPE LOL BYE!
So nah man, your feelings are completely valid! People should take into consideration that not everyone is fond of flirty times, or their curiosity about what's between someone's leg, or instant sex talk. I would even go out on a limb here and say that most people aren't.
but when you have your preference clearly stated on your profile it can get frustrating pretty quickly.
Hang in there, surround yourself with positive, healthy people. Always feel free to vent. uwu