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10 years ago
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Well, let's dust this place down and get started again!
So, not easy to see where to start, so, forgive me if this one gets a little rambling, but, I guess I'm still a little scrambled right now as I'm typing this up and all
First things first, we're okay
It certainly wasn't an easy week, as I think we went through so many stages of grief, from sitting in the room we'd built up for our hopeful addition, just staring at the paint on the walls, sitting around and just doing nothing and being alone with your thoughts makes for miserable company, and lead to what may have been the most charged arguments that me and Jeri have had since we got married
Yeah, it was a bit of of mess around here
As to the actual decision? It was apparently a number of factors they said why we were turned down over becoming adoptive parents, from what kind of environment we could provide children, to my capabilities as a caring adult with my constant injuries to concerns about both myself and Jeri on a wellbeing level
It was fairly disheartening as the guy took us through points one by one, culminating in the guy only finally when it was all over folding his paperwork, closing the file and speaking frankly like he wasn't a robot the whole time
He has made us aware that there are appeals available to us, but that he he recommended we wait and reapply or watch what we do next, considering we're now officially a blip on the radar and that we're going to have to be careful about what we do next since now the file is marked against us
The big bill being that if we even want to be considered again, that we need to go through a shrink
If
Big if
Since much of the argument me and Jeri had was over whether or not we should again, and the question whether or not having kids was something only I wanted that Jeri followed along with
I think for now we're going to just take a breather from all of this, we have holidays coming up, time to spend together and just kind of put all the stress and anguish behind us
In better news my cast came off, forgot to mention that last time, so, health wise all is well, and we're trying to get back to day by day, Jeri had to go back to work and we couldn't get more time off to really take any further time to ourselves, so like it or not, it's time to get back up and get back on the horse
I'll start phasing back in more and more and you'll see more of me again, especially now that I don't have to worry about any more meetings or interviews or such
There you have it guys, that's pretty much everything in a nutshell, so, we'll speak to you all soon and see if we can get back to a shade of routine
We're still together, we still have each other and we still have our health, sort of, so, for that we'll be thankful
So, not easy to see where to start, so, forgive me if this one gets a little rambling, but, I guess I'm still a little scrambled right now as I'm typing this up and all
First things first, we're okay
It certainly wasn't an easy week, as I think we went through so many stages of grief, from sitting in the room we'd built up for our hopeful addition, just staring at the paint on the walls, sitting around and just doing nothing and being alone with your thoughts makes for miserable company, and lead to what may have been the most charged arguments that me and Jeri have had since we got married
Yeah, it was a bit of of mess around here
As to the actual decision? It was apparently a number of factors they said why we were turned down over becoming adoptive parents, from what kind of environment we could provide children, to my capabilities as a caring adult with my constant injuries to concerns about both myself and Jeri on a wellbeing level
It was fairly disheartening as the guy took us through points one by one, culminating in the guy only finally when it was all over folding his paperwork, closing the file and speaking frankly like he wasn't a robot the whole time
He has made us aware that there are appeals available to us, but that he he recommended we wait and reapply or watch what we do next, considering we're now officially a blip on the radar and that we're going to have to be careful about what we do next since now the file is marked against us
The big bill being that if we even want to be considered again, that we need to go through a shrink
If
Big if
Since much of the argument me and Jeri had was over whether or not we should again, and the question whether or not having kids was something only I wanted that Jeri followed along with
I think for now we're going to just take a breather from all of this, we have holidays coming up, time to spend together and just kind of put all the stress and anguish behind us
In better news my cast came off, forgot to mention that last time, so, health wise all is well, and we're trying to get back to day by day, Jeri had to go back to work and we couldn't get more time off to really take any further time to ourselves, so like it or not, it's time to get back up and get back on the horse
I'll start phasing back in more and more and you'll see more of me again, especially now that I don't have to worry about any more meetings or interviews or such
There you have it guys, that's pretty much everything in a nutshell, so, we'll speak to you all soon and see if we can get back to a shade of routine
We're still together, we still have each other and we still have our health, sort of, so, for that we'll be thankful
And I think you're wise to sit back and recalculate things a bit before you jump back in swinging, too. I'm sorry.
You know you have your supporters should you need them, and that includes me.
Lol, I think you're reminding me to maybe read some MTMTE here, Little Victories, I'll fill you in on that one later tonight when I'm home
But yeah, the way it looks right now, we'll need to seriously look at things and see where to go from this one, so, stay tuned I guess?
Still, thanks for the thoughts and well wishes, it's appreciated
Next step? Not so sure, but we're going to try and waltz on
Taking things easy for a while is a good plan I think. There's probably something you can do to the planned room in the meantime, maybe something the two of you could share. Of course, stepping away from that for a little bit is understandable as well.
Good luck to the both of ya
Although I don't want to touch the room, I'm still not wanting to rule out applying again, and I feel like if I used the room for anything else, we'd have to repaint it, redecorate, etc, basically tear it down and start over and I don't know if I could do that after the work and time we put in
Thanks for the perspective though =o I appreciate you talking here, especially since I know you don't come here as much, nice to have you to talk with again
That does seem like the simplest and best idea ^^
You and Jeri are fantastic people Jazz, and the best thing you two can do right now is to just relax, have fun together and be there for each other. And just remember, you've got friends that you can talk with if that'll help.