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10 years ago
So I kinda disappeared without saying what happened, but since I have computer access for the moment, I’ll explain.
TL;DR: Mom thinks I’m completely dependent and addicted to using my computer, and has confiscated it for the time being. Again.
It’s no secret to anyone who’s known me for a while that mom hates absolutely everything I like, and pretty much everything I enjoy is accessed via the internet. So she’s always used that as leverage against me, threatening to take it away if I fuck up. She says it’s like I’m a rubber band, stretched thin the moment I step out of my room, and the moment a chance arises, I snap back into my room onto my computer.
Saturday night, I had a long and miserable day at work. I got home, had some dinner, and went upstairs without cleaning the kitchen afterward. Mom lost her shit and had my brother take my computer and hide it somewhere, and I won’t get it back unless I get a perfect GPA and straight As this semester.
...yeah.
And before you ask: no, I don’t have enough money to move out, nor do I have another place to stay. I lost a whole lot of money paying for shit during the move, helping out with the bills, gas, groceries, as well as repairing my old car and getting my new one.
I guess for now, I just gotta grin and bear it, and try getting my comp back anyway. Unless somebody clicks that Donate button on my Tumblr page and throws me a million dollars or something, this is something I gotta work out myself.
So, yeah, I’m not gonna be around for a while. :c
TL;DR: Mom thinks I’m completely dependent and addicted to using my computer, and has confiscated it for the time being. Again.
It’s no secret to anyone who’s known me for a while that mom hates absolutely everything I like, and pretty much everything I enjoy is accessed via the internet. So she’s always used that as leverage against me, threatening to take it away if I fuck up. She says it’s like I’m a rubber band, stretched thin the moment I step out of my room, and the moment a chance arises, I snap back into my room onto my computer.
Saturday night, I had a long and miserable day at work. I got home, had some dinner, and went upstairs without cleaning the kitchen afterward. Mom lost her shit and had my brother take my computer and hide it somewhere, and I won’t get it back unless I get a perfect GPA and straight As this semester.
...yeah.
And before you ask: no, I don’t have enough money to move out, nor do I have another place to stay. I lost a whole lot of money paying for shit during the move, helping out with the bills, gas, groceries, as well as repairing my old car and getting my new one.
I guess for now, I just gotta grin and bear it, and try getting my comp back anyway. Unless somebody clicks that Donate button on my Tumblr page and throws me a million dollars or something, this is something I gotta work out myself.
So, yeah, I’m not gonna be around for a while. :c
Parents like this are a disease on the face of this planet. Although in this case it would mean you wouldn't have existed, I normally wish they were all born sterile so they wouldn't have the ability to ruin other lives. Being around them is a danger to at least your mental state, in some cases even more than that. Their existence is the reason some kids grow to become sociopaths or have other mental issues later on. I'm sorry to hear you had to grow in such a toxic environment, because no one in modern society should.
As for advice: First of all, call the police! What she did is theft, there is nothing she can say in her defense. And second, find a way to get out of there! This of course depends on whether you have another place to go to... you might want to ask around FA if any nearby furs are willing to help. Oh, and third thing if possible: Keep your room locked with a key that only you have access to, with a lock that she can't simply hammer off the door... also encrypt your hard drive, since the last thing on Earth you need her to know is that there's furry porn on your drive. Good luck and I hope things go well!
an NP, or narcissistic parent, is one of the worst, most depressing things to be inflicted on a child
(i know, i've got one myself, and i'm desperately trying to get away from them)
i bet she takes on the martyr role when you ask for something from her, or just ask for sympathy; giving you a spiel about everything she's done for you and why you should do more for her
or treats any accomplishments you've with indifference, or tries to take credit for them herself "it was only because i raised you right that you got where you are" etc. etc.
believe me, i deal with this kind of thing on a daily basis, its maddening, depressing, all of those negative emotions
Anyway, yeah... parents like this should NOT exist. If you aren't sure you can do your best to help your child have a decent life, in what's already a completely demented world, just don't. I'm never going to have kids in this life for multiple reasons... the amount of things that can go wrong is among them.
I hope things go well for you and you can at least get your computer back.