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16 years ago
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Today, I asked a co-worker for clarification on something she wrote. I hate abbreviations, and these were the abbreviations for something that didn't fit the context very well. But, she was more interested in calling me an idiot... several times.... loudly. I don't tolerate that at all. To me, being called an idiot is the biggest insult someone could call me. I know, I'm weird. Everybody has their own set of forbidden words. In Harry Potter, Professor Snape's touchy word is "coward".
The constant use of the word "idiot" and the lack of a sufficient answer pushed me over the edge. I couldn't control my hand any more, and I have a LOT of control over my temper. I think I stopped my hand enough that all she got was a scratch on her neck(my hand wanted to choke her, and my nails needed clipping). She kicked me and kept the barrage going. I just wanted an answer. One that was specific enough to not get this order wrong and anger a customer. I don't remember what my next hand movement was, it might have been a pointing gesture, I think it was going to be an angry poke. She batted my hand away. Then my boss answered the question, and I thanked him for giving just a simple answer.
Yes, this was in front of my boss and another co-worker. Even then, I had little control over my temper. I can normally hold myself back if someone calls me an idiot. But this was repeated, and she wasn't answering my question.
An hour of work passes, and I got called to the office and the door closed. I knew this was coming. He told me all that you'd expect him to say, and I agreed with him. I should not have raised my hand to a co-worker. What bugged me about his diatribe is that there was an emphasis on me raising my hand to a GIRL. He said that hitting a co-worker is unacceptable, but he considers any guy who raises his hand to a girl to be an idiot.
I have a problem with how women can hit us all they want, but we're not allowed to fight back. They've been fighting for equal treatment, and I'm willing to give it to them, as long as it's equal. I hold the door open for anybody following behind me, regardless of sex. I think the main reason women are given the no-harm rule is because men have an unfair advantage in a physical fight. Unfortunately for me, most women are stronger than me.
The co-worker pulled the first punch verbally. It hurt much more than the kick to the shin. I deserved the kick, no doubt. I also deserved a straight answer.
I appreciate that my boss was direct and concise when he told me that if I do that again, I'd be fired immediately.
In addition, for the past 2 months maybe, all of my female co-workers seem to be hating me. I don't know why. After this incident, I asked a male co-worker why they seem to like him but hate me. He was as confused as me, and said that he had asked one of them why she doesn't like me, or something like that. She had said that she hates me, and he told her that I haven't done anything to her to make her hate me. And, I haven't.
I need to get back on these women's good side. After some examining, I believe that only one of them hated me, and spread the hate to the rest of the female co-workers. I think the source was the newest girl(I've mentioned her as being the one that wears the crucifix necklace) who has never liked me. You know how women often share EVERYTHING with the closest friends. I'm confident they've gossiped about me to people whom it doesn't even concern. It may be possible to get on the good side of just ONE of them, and that might spread to the rest. However, hate spreads faster than love. No, I'm not planning on flirting with any of them. I really don't know how I'm going to get on their good side, but it needs to happen quickly. I don't want the hate to build up any more. I'd ask why they hate me so much, but I'm sure I don't want to hear the answer. It would definitely be, "because you're an idiot". No, I'm not. That's not a good reason.
I might apologize to the girl I argued with, however she's the one that started it, so I can't retract my aggression while she keeps hers. I might tell her, "I'm sorry for poking you ONLY IF you're sorry for calling me an idiot. Either way, I do forgive you for kicking me." That's the truth. I deserved the kick. I have no problem with the kick.
So, how could I get on the girls' good sides? They're generally in the ages of 16-24.
The constant use of the word "idiot" and the lack of a sufficient answer pushed me over the edge. I couldn't control my hand any more, and I have a LOT of control over my temper. I think I stopped my hand enough that all she got was a scratch on her neck(my hand wanted to choke her, and my nails needed clipping). She kicked me and kept the barrage going. I just wanted an answer. One that was specific enough to not get this order wrong and anger a customer. I don't remember what my next hand movement was, it might have been a pointing gesture, I think it was going to be an angry poke. She batted my hand away. Then my boss answered the question, and I thanked him for giving just a simple answer.
Yes, this was in front of my boss and another co-worker. Even then, I had little control over my temper. I can normally hold myself back if someone calls me an idiot. But this was repeated, and she wasn't answering my question.
An hour of work passes, and I got called to the office and the door closed. I knew this was coming. He told me all that you'd expect him to say, and I agreed with him. I should not have raised my hand to a co-worker. What bugged me about his diatribe is that there was an emphasis on me raising my hand to a GIRL. He said that hitting a co-worker is unacceptable, but he considers any guy who raises his hand to a girl to be an idiot.
I have a problem with how women can hit us all they want, but we're not allowed to fight back. They've been fighting for equal treatment, and I'm willing to give it to them, as long as it's equal. I hold the door open for anybody following behind me, regardless of sex. I think the main reason women are given the no-harm rule is because men have an unfair advantage in a physical fight. Unfortunately for me, most women are stronger than me.
The co-worker pulled the first punch verbally. It hurt much more than the kick to the shin. I deserved the kick, no doubt. I also deserved a straight answer.
I appreciate that my boss was direct and concise when he told me that if I do that again, I'd be fired immediately.
In addition, for the past 2 months maybe, all of my female co-workers seem to be hating me. I don't know why. After this incident, I asked a male co-worker why they seem to like him but hate me. He was as confused as me, and said that he had asked one of them why she doesn't like me, or something like that. She had said that she hates me, and he told her that I haven't done anything to her to make her hate me. And, I haven't.
I need to get back on these women's good side. After some examining, I believe that only one of them hated me, and spread the hate to the rest of the female co-workers. I think the source was the newest girl(I've mentioned her as being the one that wears the crucifix necklace) who has never liked me. You know how women often share EVERYTHING with the closest friends. I'm confident they've gossiped about me to people whom it doesn't even concern. It may be possible to get on the good side of just ONE of them, and that might spread to the rest. However, hate spreads faster than love. No, I'm not planning on flirting with any of them. I really don't know how I'm going to get on their good side, but it needs to happen quickly. I don't want the hate to build up any more. I'd ask why they hate me so much, but I'm sure I don't want to hear the answer. It would definitely be, "because you're an idiot". No, I'm not. That's not a good reason.
I might apologize to the girl I argued with, however she's the one that started it, so I can't retract my aggression while she keeps hers. I might tell her, "I'm sorry for poking you ONLY IF you're sorry for calling me an idiot. Either way, I do forgive you for kicking me." That's the truth. I deserved the kick. I have no problem with the kick.
So, how could I get on the girls' good sides? They're generally in the ages of 16-24.
I hope to repair friendships, but the job isn't really worth too much to me. I've definitely gotten too content with that job. Last time I left a steady job, the following job only lasted a few months, so of course I'm hesitant to leave this job security.
Thanks for reminding me of that option.