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Holiday Chaos/It keeps getting worse.
10 years ago
This holiday was the worst. Worst ever. Worst I have ever been part of, or experienced, in my life.
Due to the tension between my family, one of my family members decided she didn't want to be a part of the holiday that we do around here. So, during our usual gift giving time, it was just me and my mother. Then the cranky grinch decided to come in and toss around the gifts with a snarky attitude declaring, "This is yours", etc. I called her a grinch because of her attitude, and told her she didn't have to be one.
In response, she went after me physically. She ended up ripping a nail off of her own toe from kicking gifts around and then grabbed me. I had to defend myself so I held her off of my body as my mother intervened.
The cops were called. Sadly, I almost went to jail because I was the youngest involved and most able bodied, and the domestic dispute would have had me to appeal to a court of law for self defense. It didn't help that my assailant had her toe bleeding from ripping it off kicking shit around, and a bruise from where I had to pry her off my body in response to her violent charge at me. Even with my mother at witness, I was almost arrested.
The cops won't even help me from my abuse. After they left, my mother and I were told we were being kicked out on the street with nothing. I was also harassed for the police getting involved, which only made matters worse for me.
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Afterwards, while staving off my anxiety in my room and crying to myself, I decided to approach my assailant. I explained politely and calmly how I felt about the situation, and what went wrong. It all started because of how ousted I felt about the holiday being grinched about. I told her that I shouldn't have called her a grinch, but explained that the physical attack was completely wrong and that the police got involved for that reason; and that I HAD to defend myself. I didn't know what she was going to do. Hell, a few weeks ago she tried to strangle my mother during an argument! What the fuck!
She accepted the apology and there was a lot of crying; a reconciliation that's probably only temporary. We're going to try our holiday stuff again tomorrow, after I handle some things that need to be handled. My family life is getting worse though. I can't take much more. I'm already broken down and miserable, and I barely have even fumes left in me. And I know the peace won't last, because of how she is. She's abusive. It will never change.
If I could just start working at the job I have lined up for me, I could put money to moving out. But I have yet to be trained. I can't start until after the holidays. My poor boyfriend is freaking out about the whole thing too; he always worries so much about me but we can't get settled yet to get away from all of this.
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Sigh.
Due to the tension between my family, one of my family members decided she didn't want to be a part of the holiday that we do around here. So, during our usual gift giving time, it was just me and my mother. Then the cranky grinch decided to come in and toss around the gifts with a snarky attitude declaring, "This is yours", etc. I called her a grinch because of her attitude, and told her she didn't have to be one.
In response, she went after me physically. She ended up ripping a nail off of her own toe from kicking gifts around and then grabbed me. I had to defend myself so I held her off of my body as my mother intervened.
The cops were called. Sadly, I almost went to jail because I was the youngest involved and most able bodied, and the domestic dispute would have had me to appeal to a court of law for self defense. It didn't help that my assailant had her toe bleeding from ripping it off kicking shit around, and a bruise from where I had to pry her off my body in response to her violent charge at me. Even with my mother at witness, I was almost arrested.
The cops won't even help me from my abuse. After they left, my mother and I were told we were being kicked out on the street with nothing. I was also harassed for the police getting involved, which only made matters worse for me.
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Afterwards, while staving off my anxiety in my room and crying to myself, I decided to approach my assailant. I explained politely and calmly how I felt about the situation, and what went wrong. It all started because of how ousted I felt about the holiday being grinched about. I told her that I shouldn't have called her a grinch, but explained that the physical attack was completely wrong and that the police got involved for that reason; and that I HAD to defend myself. I didn't know what she was going to do. Hell, a few weeks ago she tried to strangle my mother during an argument! What the fuck!
She accepted the apology and there was a lot of crying; a reconciliation that's probably only temporary. We're going to try our holiday stuff again tomorrow, after I handle some things that need to be handled. My family life is getting worse though. I can't take much more. I'm already broken down and miserable, and I barely have even fumes left in me. And I know the peace won't last, because of how she is. She's abusive. It will never change.
If I could just start working at the job I have lined up for me, I could put money to moving out. But I have yet to be trained. I can't start until after the holidays. My poor boyfriend is freaking out about the whole thing too; he always worries so much about me but we can't get settled yet to get away from all of this.
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Sigh.
The most I can say is that I seriously hope when you get away from that hell, it's for good.