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What do i do? <:C
10 years ago
So I've been having this problem a lot lately where people are really pressuring me to go out/ date them. I don't really know why its so super prevalent right now, its so many close friends and I like all of them, there my beans. but I'm getting really uncomfortable and having to deal with so much emotions form them, i just don't know what to do! Like there some of my favorite people, but like i'm not interested in anyone like that, maybe its always been like this and now that I'm single they are letting it all out?
In total its about 4 close friends and I just don't want to loose them, I just have no idea how to deal with this, its really tearing at my heart, and most likely more so for them. I've already lost some good friends to not dating them.
Just any advice would be great, just don't wanna loose my friends is all. :C
In total its about 4 close friends and I just don't want to loose them, I just have no idea how to deal with this, its really tearing at my heart, and most likely more so for them. I've already lost some good friends to not dating them.
Just any advice would be great, just don't wanna loose my friends is all. :C
Have you tried letting them know that relationships usually end up ruining friendships? I mean, you can't settle down with all of them, so no matter what someone is going to be hurt.
I definitely wouldn't try to boyfriend any of them, and maybe let them know you aren't looking for a relationship like that. But how you let them down, I don't know what the right words would be.
Maybe tell them that you are holding out for Vel ;p
But seriously, I can't think of a single way to not step on any toes in this sort of situation. If you aren't looking for a very long term relationship, chances are the friendship will end, and that's not any good on the emotions :C
Hopefully they will get over it in time, it's easier to get it blunt than to be lead on, or left without an answer.
But being straight forward is best anything else could be taken as leading em on in their emotional mindset
Like no joke it's been a constant thing.
What you need to do is talk to them on the level and say you're appreciative of the affection, but that you're not committed to going out. They should understand! If you skirt the question they're gonna be going on false hopes and nobody desires to be lead on a string.
p.s. go out wiff me pls
Point is, I wasn't saying you need to change, just trying to shed light on -why- these kind of things might happen.
not very good advice XD but im pretty lonely so any advice id give would be terrible
everyone seems to want super skinny dudes, and im here all chubby like psshhh more food for me then
i hate people anyway. plus EVERYONE around here is a pill popper or a pot head
This is what I feel to be the best advice regarding friendships.
I had to turn down a few of my friends before during a breakup period and almost all of them were alright afterwards.