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Assholes and Oversharing
9 years ago
So I am pretty angry at myself, as I made a huge ass of myself and overshared (thankfully just on the internet). Somebody called out on my stupidity while being unnecessarily rude, and I am having trouble as is processing the whole ordeal because its been something that's been bothering me and its been on my mind a whole lot. I live in a digital island, so to speak, so I don't have many people to talk about certain things. This post may be digging myself deeper in a hole, I dunno, but it feels better as I type this.
So I would like your thoughts, if you could spare them for a second.
What qualifies as oversharing here on FA, or in the community in general? There is a huge range from what I can see, and I thought being straightforward and honest to the extent I have (by my posts, comments, streams) was a way to try and not be aloof. Everyone has their own kinks and stuff and in a public forum like this one I would think that not acting "holier-than-thou" and admitting your own weaknesses would be considered a friendly gesture of honesty. - Granted, I'm not talking about shitposting fetishstuffs in areas that aren't asking for them, but where its pre-established as the place to do such a thing. Hard to judge perhaps? Or just me?
Dear gosh, if I have crossed the line someone please note me and be honest.
If you don't know me so well, then you could let me know if there was an occasion for you somewhere sometime where it went from OK to NOPE. I would be interested in the perspective.
Heck, if you've been in a similar boat as me, misery loves company, let me know I'm not alone in being blindsided.
I would like to be a friendly sort, as cynical as I can be at times, but I also have a hard time processing unwarranted toxic vitriol on the internet. Its alien to me. Why would anyone bother to write hateful things (being in no position to comment themselves) just to make someone feel like shit? I personally can judge in silence, thank you very much. Wouldn't be nicer to take a second, and think of a more polite way of telling someone to take it down a notch? Like in a private note/whisper: "Hey so-and-so, that's a bit much. I get where you are coming from but that's inappropriate/too self-serving/rude for what we're doing here."
On the internet, very little is at stake. You don't need to attack someone because they made a fool of themselves, ignore them and move on. Kinda like how I hate watching those 'cringe' videos. Those poor people made a mistake, let them live it down, don't enshrine a moment in foolishness forever, geez. (thank you, thank you, thank you god, that youtube blew up after I left high school)
Well, so it goes. It figures that I like dragons and dinos of sorts because they aren't bothered by this kind of petty crap.
Thanks for reading
So I would like your thoughts, if you could spare them for a second.
What qualifies as oversharing here on FA, or in the community in general? There is a huge range from what I can see, and I thought being straightforward and honest to the extent I have (by my posts, comments, streams) was a way to try and not be aloof. Everyone has their own kinks and stuff and in a public forum like this one I would think that not acting "holier-than-thou" and admitting your own weaknesses would be considered a friendly gesture of honesty. - Granted, I'm not talking about shitposting fetishstuffs in areas that aren't asking for them, but where its pre-established as the place to do such a thing. Hard to judge perhaps? Or just me?
Dear gosh, if I have crossed the line someone please note me and be honest.
If you don't know me so well, then you could let me know if there was an occasion for you somewhere sometime where it went from OK to NOPE. I would be interested in the perspective.
Heck, if you've been in a similar boat as me, misery loves company, let me know I'm not alone in being blindsided.
I would like to be a friendly sort, as cynical as I can be at times, but I also have a hard time processing unwarranted toxic vitriol on the internet. Its alien to me. Why would anyone bother to write hateful things (being in no position to comment themselves) just to make someone feel like shit? I personally can judge in silence, thank you very much. Wouldn't be nicer to take a second, and think of a more polite way of telling someone to take it down a notch? Like in a private note/whisper: "Hey so-and-so, that's a bit much. I get where you are coming from but that's inappropriate/too self-serving/rude for what we're doing here."
On the internet, very little is at stake. You don't need to attack someone because they made a fool of themselves, ignore them and move on. Kinda like how I hate watching those 'cringe' videos. Those poor people made a mistake, let them live it down, don't enshrine a moment in foolishness forever, geez. (thank you, thank you, thank you god, that youtube blew up after I left high school)
Well, so it goes. It figures that I like dragons and dinos of sorts because they aren't bothered by this kind of petty crap.
Thanks for reading
"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
As for people being assholes for no reason, you really shouldn't be surprised. (Im not anyway) People will do anything if they can do it for little to 0 reasons. I mean, it's easy to call someone a dipshit behind a monitor or across the internet because chances are you wont see each other in person to do something about it.
For shit like that, I just let KARMA do what it does best.
I am always surprised at public shittyness and assholery, be it me as a target or someone else. Its just not something Midwestern Americans deal with very often (usually its dry wit, sarcasm and polite avoidance). Back (a decade ago) when I was first getting my toes wet with the internet i got depressed reading Yahoo! News commentary, and that stuff was pure evil and not even directed at me.
By no means am I a plucky, happy-go-lucky person, I have very mean thoughts as well. But I guess some people would rather there be a net loss of decency than contain the impulse to say something thoughtless and rude.
As a final note, all you can really do with idiots on the internet is block 'em and move on. ^^() People need less stress in their lives, after all.
Yeah I text chat all the time on skype. We can talk there whenever.
Words can sting for a while, but bans/blocks can last forever!
I was operating under the assumption that most people here get along because no one here is pure or perfect. We're all furry weirdos. So I can't come down on you for what you like and vice versa without being a hypocrite.
Unless you interjected into someone else's discussion about their life, and made it all about you and we're a jerk about it, I can't really imagine this concept of "oversharing" being an issue here for others.
Are you talking about the forums? Maybe the situation is different there?
I don't want to get into much detail, but it was more of a forum deal, yes.
Always remember that people are not like you. Just because you wouldn't, or don't understand those who troll or feel entitled to be offended, doesn't mean that people don't.
Just live your life man ^^
I probably do need to toughen my skin a bit, like you said. The weird thing with written words on the internet (for me a least) is that I read them with my own 'voice' so to speak, and my default tone is sincere/take seriously.
I will do my best!