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Flirting advice
9 years ago
How do u approach people outside of cons @_@? Like, do u go out to bars alone ?
I feel like, real life is set on hardmode and con is just a cheat code for a weekend of fun!
I feel like, real life is set on hardmode and con is just a cheat code for a weekend of fun!
One, be different. Make yourself seem noticeable and not just wanting to talk. But you also have to be friendly and easy. That is how I met my BF, stand out but don't be a prick, It worked for me. Granted we broke up but that is not because of issues but moving and distance. It may not work for you but give it a shot I say. Also saying something other than hay or hi would help I am sure. Maybe: How's it going? How are you doing? Or even sup? It will make them at least think of an answer because you asked a question. That is psychology tho. I should probably stay away from that. And as stupid as it sounds, the more you hang out with somebody the more they will start to like you, get to know them, Become familiar.
Now for the Crazy shit...
Dress up in all purple and walk up to the man or woman like. "Hey gur... I saw you chilling there and was like. DAMN YOU SEXY!" Is that fails then you can always rub yourself in peanut butter and hope that in inner dog inside of them in triggered. It's attraction and happy ending :D
I would say get out there more, not with the intent of finding someone, but with the intent of meeting lots of people and making friends. Sometimes one or two of the friendships you make will blossom into something more. Go to a play, hold a BBQ in your neighborhood, hold a bonfire party, do some kind of volunteer community service, but just get out there, and don't try to hard. It'll happen when it happens, and often when you least expect.
They're unreliable and can be highly counterproductive.
Alcohol may decrease inhibitions, but it can also decrease awareness and cause big problems.
If nothing else, a first impression being"Hey, I'm tipsy heehee" or, "Hey there. Can I buy you a drink" don't really start a relationship of respect as much as one of regret.
It you just want to find a fling and forget about it, possibly catching something you don't want in the process, it's not the ~worst~ way to go about it, but if you want something with even a little flesh to it, better alternatives could be coffee bars, bookstores, upscale dance clubs (not night clubs, but actual clubs for classic dancing in), or other such "daytime locales."
Honestly, the biggest part of flirting successfully is knowing what you want and being confident and brave in going for it. It takes a "if you're turned down, nothing lost, but if your taken up on an offer for a date, it's a huge win" kind of mentality. Don't get discouraged, and don't talk yourself out of saying hello. Just be yourself, be a real person instead of a cliche pick-up line slinger, and show you're actually interested in them instead of what you can get form them, and if they reject you, they weren't someone who was likely to be a positive person to have in your life at the time.
There's a lot of minutia to it all, but, hopefully you'll be able to figure it out as you go, right?
I do wish you good luck, and hope you'll stay safe when you go out for such times. {/3
If you're hitting on them just out of the blue, it's for preconceived notions (They look nice, I bet they're smart, etc., etc.) and it can lead to dissappointment if you build them up in you rhead too much, and it can hurt them if they think yo're only interested in them carnally, as opposed to as a person.
As long as you are tactful and paying close attention so you know if they are uncomfortable while you flirt, or if they want to flirt back, and then repect their feelings, I don't see flirting being bad. I mean, at least not any worse than it would for any hetero or any other homosexual person.
Oh!
Now, if you mean hitting on guys who you don't know are gay/bi, that's potentially more dangerous than bad. : o
Some guys take getting attention from a gay guy as being intensely offensive, and some might lash out physically, or at least verbally/emotionally.
If you're sure the guy is swinging for your team and doesn't already have a closed relationship, flirting is just flirting, and they would likely either be flattered, say they weeren't interested, or or be annoyed at getting hit on so often.
Then, it would only be bad if you were to pester them or keep on if they asked (or told) you to stop.
If you like, please message me on Skype, and I'd be happy to chat. I'm not sure I've understood your actual question how you mean it yet, but I'm happy to talk and try to help. : 3
First off what vivian said, bars are usually a no.
People can be fun but will take advantage if you are clearly not use to doing what you're trying to do, flirt.
This isn't to knock your confidence, its just a rough fact, most communication in non-verbal, and in a bar, that is highly relied upon.
If by chance you go with friends to a bar, what you CAN do is be willing to be sociable as you would elsewhere, just focusing on your friends.
If by chance, someone you know, or dont, is interested and you reciprocate that, you can more easily into it if you're acting comfortable in your group.
Sitting still or being quiet, especially when around friends actually makes you stand out more in a bar, that isnt always a good thing.
As for actual flirting? be yourself most importantly
secondly, dont rush the notion of sex
dont compliment their eyes , face, other body parts within the first 5 mins of knowing them unless the conversation has an opening to such
like this, DONT go ''was gonna say you're really buff...like ...really really good shape man...those arms oh gawd''
instead, if a guy is noticeably built or even lean and toned, ask what he likes to do
theres a good chance he might mention either work that requires physical work or that he does some sort of physical activity
if he doesnt then dont mention his body right away but if he does (JUST as an example here) you can lead in by saying 'yeah i noticed your arms look really built'
a guy would typically respond with something like ''yeah blah blah work/gym blah blah'
another example would be, start by asking what someone does, until you can ease into asking 'how' they do said thing.
People like flattery but if you use up all your one liners in the first second you're gonna look cute but not get anywhere
When you allow someone to mention their job, activities they enjoy and personal life they will be much more flattered to hear someone interested in that FIRST before you go googly eyed over their boobage or man nipples
as for asking a guy if you want to get a drink or dinner sometime? dont make it look like a date upfront, make it look like you wanna just chill, and then it can turn into a date when you're both already at the place, see what i'm getting at here?
Flirting is rough at times when you get used to it online but in person its actually possible to keep it just as simple.
Let someone open up , one step at a time about themselves, if you really are interested in someone, keep the conversation going about yourself to a point, and let them mention themselves a good deal too; nothing will flatter someone more than someone who listens and doesnt hyper ventilate like a dehydrated llama over their shoulder.
be chill as a penguin fucking an icecube and you'll have some luck :3 hope that helps
I honestly feel afraid of approaching another guy irl. It might be that I am in the closet, but it feels like I'd be putting everything in jeopardy!
So i stick to only talking to/dating furries.
So it has to be established right at the beginning xD
The best thing you can do is just be humble and bring out conversational topics you like and ask about said person
Just learn to break the ice if you feel like you've made contact with a person etc.
going to a bar is a good idea if you enjoy drinking as it's a thing we use to y'know.. bond in a way, brings people together
just don't take it too far, drunk is a different story
just feel good 'bout yourself when you're out, keep a good posture and attitue, people will notice it ;)
1st gf: furry
2nd gf: furry
Potential bf material: furry
Senpai: furry