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A discussion (some possible sensitive subject ahead)
9 years ago
ScottishFurHello everyone.
Lately I have been feeling rather down a few days ago because of a headaches here and there. I won't go into details or point accusing fingers at people, because that's just immature and only causes more grief and I'll try to keep this journal neutral and calm. But it has gotten me thinking about how people treat each other, especially on FA.
I've encountered a lot of people here, some great, some bad....or are they? We seem to love to slap the labels of good and bad a lot when in truth we're all equally good and bad, it seems our opinions are easily swayed. I bring this up because for a while now I've been moping a lot on Skype about falling out with people, rushing headlong into a spiral of despair and paying too much on what other people thought instead of getting on with my own projects and progress. In the process I grew more aggressive and, quite honestly, scary.
That all said some of the people who started this were quite spiteful, mostly the types who hide behind a pile of mass of art and overly perfect characters to try and make themselves look big, kind of like buying a Lamborghini. I've been called 'too innocent' at one point for not staring at pictures of giant wangs and not making comments about banging characters, which is odd since those sorts of comments are usually very unwelcome.
I'm not asking for sympathy or anything like that. But I will bring up the fact that we are all human. I made some utterly stupid and incomprehensible mistakes that make me look back and say: 'What the hell were you thinking?'. Though there were a few times were I felt a bit of biting back was necessary; I'm not some carpet to be walked over after all and I won't be made a punchline by someone far away in another part of the world.
Honestly this has been a bit of a vent to lift things off my chest. I don't normally do this sort of thing and its not the height of my frustration, more the calm aftermath. And once again I'm not jabbing my thumb at anyone in particular, this journal is meant more as a thoughtful muse about how we treat other people.
I'm sorry if I was irritating to people, I was really not myself for a while and kept trying to get into the favours of people I once fell out, usually judging by their characters and art, which is a really shallow thing to do. A gallery of fancy pictures can't hide a rude personality.
Thank you for reading though. I hope to have a more positive journal soon.
Lately I have been feeling rather down a few days ago because of a headaches here and there. I won't go into details or point accusing fingers at people, because that's just immature and only causes more grief and I'll try to keep this journal neutral and calm. But it has gotten me thinking about how people treat each other, especially on FA.
I've encountered a lot of people here, some great, some bad....or are they? We seem to love to slap the labels of good and bad a lot when in truth we're all equally good and bad, it seems our opinions are easily swayed. I bring this up because for a while now I've been moping a lot on Skype about falling out with people, rushing headlong into a spiral of despair and paying too much on what other people thought instead of getting on with my own projects and progress. In the process I grew more aggressive and, quite honestly, scary.
That all said some of the people who started this were quite spiteful, mostly the types who hide behind a pile of mass of art and overly perfect characters to try and make themselves look big, kind of like buying a Lamborghini. I've been called 'too innocent' at one point for not staring at pictures of giant wangs and not making comments about banging characters, which is odd since those sorts of comments are usually very unwelcome.
I'm not asking for sympathy or anything like that. But I will bring up the fact that we are all human. I made some utterly stupid and incomprehensible mistakes that make me look back and say: 'What the hell were you thinking?'. Though there were a few times were I felt a bit of biting back was necessary; I'm not some carpet to be walked over after all and I won't be made a punchline by someone far away in another part of the world.
Honestly this has been a bit of a vent to lift things off my chest. I don't normally do this sort of thing and its not the height of my frustration, more the calm aftermath. And once again I'm not jabbing my thumb at anyone in particular, this journal is meant more as a thoughtful muse about how we treat other people.
I'm sorry if I was irritating to people, I was really not myself for a while and kept trying to get into the favours of people I once fell out, usually judging by their characters and art, which is a really shallow thing to do. A gallery of fancy pictures can't hide a rude personality.
Thank you for reading though. I hope to have a more positive journal soon.
*hugs ya face*
The aspects of the individual behind the screen is also something I rather look for, though there is nothing wrong with learning about/speaking with a character. However it is very easy to get caught up in the opinion that you are apparently role-playing with said character instead...but I do understand the drama behind it. The majority of users on here, I'm sad to say, are rather on here to escape something, and so on purpose, being themselves is the least of what they want to accomplish. And of course that isn't even to mention how most of their interests are automatically adult-oriented.
Try to reach out to someone whom you believe you can pull off the right conversation with, then slowly learn more about whoever it is if you feel right in doing so, and perhaps rinse and repeat a few times...and don't even bother branching out any further than that. You only ever need a small yet strong circle of friends!
And I've already made a clean up on FA, hopefully to find a new beginning sometime.