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Creepy Guy At Work
9 years ago
♥|| My Dears ||♥
So, over the last few months, there's been this dude that comes in. Sometimes it's every couple of weeks.
Sometimes it's once a month. But, as of late, I've grew to dreading the very moment he walks in.
Why? Because he's a creep. He's also twice my age... though I don't usually give a fuss about age.
But in this case...
Let me explain though. When he comes to my till, he whispers at me.
And gets obviously uncomfortable if there's someone in line behind him.
Because, I'm assuming, he knows what he is doing is wrong.
The first time I ever met him, he asked me if I was single.
I answered truthfully, because I'm like "weird question, but whatever."
He then asked if I'd like to go out some time. Trying to be polite, I gave a non-commital 'maybe'.
He asked a few more times the next couple of times he came in, and I gave more non-commitals, attempting to be polite.
A few weeks to a month ago, he came in and asked for my number, very blatantly.
He wouldn't leave until I gave it to him, but instead I lied and said I didn't remember my number.
So he finally left after that. I just kind of shrugged it off, though I felt uncomfortable.
Today, he came in, and I saw him and immediately internally went "fuckkkkkk".
He comes to the till with a purchase, while I'm checking someone else through, and I dally with that customer a bit so someone will get in line behind him.
When it's his turn in line, not only does he comment on how he's not happy there's someone in line behind him.
But he asks me if I live alone. I shake my head at him, eyes widening, and he asks if I live with my mom then.
Well, it's not a lie, I just don't tell him I also live with my dad, so I just nod at him.
Get this... He then asks where I live, so he can come visit.
I just go "uhmmm..."
I've finished his transaction, so I'm now handing back his change, and he grabs my hand and holds it there.
And makes me promise that I'll tell him next time. So I say "... okay." so that he will leave.
I am beyond uncomfortable, now, and verging into fucking terrified.
I don't want to bring this man's race into it, because A.) not quite sure what it is.
And B.) I don't want it to seem like I'm afraid of him and his advances simply because of his race.
In my mind, I want to say that the next time he comes in, I'm just going to tell him to stop.
But let's be real here, I'm soft spoken, and I try not to offend so hard, that people take advantage of it.
Chances are I'm just going to get even more meek...
But, at the very least, I think I'm going to talk about it with my store manager...
And probably, the next time I see him, I'm going to call whomever is the manager up to check him out themselves.
Or get him to stop bothering me. Because my god.
(this is all worse, because, I never in my life before this job, had more than one guy interested in me ever.
I literally don't know how to process male interest, because I was of the opinion that I wasn't attractive [too fat] or 'wantable' [too 'boyish'] to men.
So knowing how to handle this is just out the window, I've never had to deal with it before.
Sure there's been a few creepy dudes at Dollar Tree. But they haven't been as aggressively creepy as this guy has.
Sometimes it's once a month. But, as of late, I've grew to dreading the very moment he walks in.
Why? Because he's a creep. He's also twice my age... though I don't usually give a fuss about age.
But in this case...
Let me explain though. When he comes to my till, he whispers at me.
And gets obviously uncomfortable if there's someone in line behind him.
Because, I'm assuming, he knows what he is doing is wrong.
The first time I ever met him, he asked me if I was single.
I answered truthfully, because I'm like "weird question, but whatever."
He then asked if I'd like to go out some time. Trying to be polite, I gave a non-commital 'maybe'.
He asked a few more times the next couple of times he came in, and I gave more non-commitals, attempting to be polite.
A few weeks to a month ago, he came in and asked for my number, very blatantly.
He wouldn't leave until I gave it to him, but instead I lied and said I didn't remember my number.
So he finally left after that. I just kind of shrugged it off, though I felt uncomfortable.
Today, he came in, and I saw him and immediately internally went "fuckkkkkk".
He comes to the till with a purchase, while I'm checking someone else through, and I dally with that customer a bit so someone will get in line behind him.
When it's his turn in line, not only does he comment on how he's not happy there's someone in line behind him.
But he asks me if I live alone. I shake my head at him, eyes widening, and he asks if I live with my mom then.
Well, it's not a lie, I just don't tell him I also live with my dad, so I just nod at him.
Get this... He then asks where I live, so he can come visit.
I just go "uhmmm..."
I've finished his transaction, so I'm now handing back his change, and he grabs my hand and holds it there.
And makes me promise that I'll tell him next time. So I say "... okay." so that he will leave.
I am beyond uncomfortable, now, and verging into fucking terrified.
I don't want to bring this man's race into it, because A.) not quite sure what it is.
And B.) I don't want it to seem like I'm afraid of him and his advances simply because of his race.
In my mind, I want to say that the next time he comes in, I'm just going to tell him to stop.
But let's be real here, I'm soft spoken, and I try not to offend so hard, that people take advantage of it.
Chances are I'm just going to get even more meek...
But, at the very least, I think I'm going to talk about it with my store manager...
And probably, the next time I see him, I'm going to call whomever is the manager up to check him out themselves.
Or get him to stop bothering me. Because my god.
(this is all worse, because, I never in my life before this job, had more than one guy interested in me ever.
I literally don't know how to process male interest, because I was of the opinion that I wasn't attractive [too fat] or 'wantable' [too 'boyish'] to men.
So knowing how to handle this is just out the window, I've never had to deal with it before.
Sure there's been a few creepy dudes at Dollar Tree. But they haven't been as aggressively creepy as this guy has.
People I Look Up To:
(my friends should also be on this list, but it's redundant to repeat them lol)
I've dealt with creepy men before but that takes creepy into a whole 'nother territory o-o...
And neither do I! I'm a little boggled that I'm even in this kind of situation.
It's scary.
Honestly my mind just explodes when people think its ok to bother someone like that, like no please go away
I mean, maybe I'm just good at reading people, but I can usually tell when someone is uncomfortable.
But I guess I also have manners and know to stop bothering someone if I've done something out of line.
FFFF
Uhg uhg really hope that creep goes away and stops bothering you, if not I'd get the cops involved with a restraining order or something
But it also encourages him that there could potentially be something there. So I would be polite, but firmly say no. Just to protect yourself.
The number thing, was unsettling, but I figured he'd drop it once I said I didn't remember it.
Asking if I live alone and where I live set off serious red flags, and I was like;
"who the fuck asks that kind of question??!"
It only came off as 'I want to see if you're vulnerable, so I'll be able to get to you'.
On another note, I'm kind of glad that I'm not the only one who has been asked these kinds of questions. But I'm also sad that anyone else has had to deal with this sort of thing. And that dealing with this sort of thing even needs to be a thing. :T
I'm sorry you have to deal with such a horrible person.
Should definitely inform your manager and have them check out this man
so you don't have to deal with him.
Instead I've made him more creepily agressive towards me. Which is the exact opposite of what I wanted.
Planning on saying no to whatever he asks next time. Just hope he doesn't attack me or get into a huge fuss over it. =__= Of course, if he just has a tantrum I can call up a manager to help.
He probably won't be too upset if you're firm. He might complain to your manager, but if they are already aware of the situation they'll probably just ignore them. Often these guys get spooked if you get more firm; they like meek, turn the tables on them and they don't know what to do.
I suppose I should pay more attention to my anger. I tend to either immediately defuse it or ignore it because it makes me uncomfortable. Though, at times, I do get legit pissed off, and will be a grumpy ass for a while because of it.
I do hope he gets spooked, and nothing else. Doesn't attempt shit ten fold or something. =__=
I'm assuming my managers will sympathize with me. 8| At least I would hope. I'm going to tell the other two managers (the ones that weren't there last night with me) about it all.