:/ gotta love parents.

Parents always say you can tell them anything... No No you cant.... yeah if i could tell everyone who does have varying prefrences to not say anything I would... it just neverpans out well...

Hopefully things will calm down for ya and your parents soon :C

This isn't going to be much solace to you right now, but I think it's good to at least know how they've reacted, rather than wondering how they'd feel about it until they pass away and the chance to tell them is lost.

I'm sorry you have to deal with your parents in this way. Your feelings are what they are though, and they have to respect that. The difficult part is that you have to deal with it on a daily basis now, presuming from what I read is that you live at their home. A wiser decision would have been to tell them after moving out, but you can't blame yourself for anything. They choose not to accept it, and as difficult they can make it for you, its not something they can turn around. I came out to my family last year. I was more lucky on how it was accepted. I can't really offer any advise other than keep trying to pursue your own happiness.

I'm sorry to hear things are still going rough for you, but I feel like once your parents come to accept you again you will feel much better having nothing to hide. Things are looking grim now but they can only get better over time.

I think it's just that your parents are one of the ones that are extremely close-minded to stuff like that, if they were different it would've went differently for sure. Just stay strong and try to manage through it, hopefully it'll clear out a bit more and they'll at least get used to it. If not, then you might just have to try to manage with them till you can move.

-hugs for comfort-🐉

Here's to hoping time will heal things, and they will understand sooner rather than later. Stay strong Liz :)

My dad is pretty ignorant about the whole LGBT thing. I came out to him, but he's still an asshole about everything, even comparing being gay to bestiality to my face. Not much you can do now but hope it blows over and things can go back to normal.

Sorry to hear about your situation. I hope things get better soon :/

"maybe if we lock you up with a woman for a week u will turn bi or straight" Maybe if do your job and accept, this this would not turn into a huge conflict. -___-

"Why the hell did we bother having jobs and stuff, this was all so pointless". Uhhh since when does your sexuality have anything to do with your job?

It's like parents are just sprouting things just cause they can't accept, so sorry your going through this rough jagged road Lizzy.

-gives hugs-
Sorry to hear about your situation, it'll take a little while til your parents understands you, your parents does not have right to change the way you are, or control your sexuality. It's your own choice of living. Stay strong and see how things goes in next few days. If you need help or someone to talk with, we're here for you, Liz, ^^

No. It's good that you told them. At least now you know. And Liz, Do they understand that they're hurting you? Have you told them that they're hurting you?

In all honesty, I know this might sound a little cruel, but if they don't accept you for who you are doesn't that meant hat they're not worth it? If they let such a petty thing get in between you then maybe they don't deserve you.

The road to others acceptance after coming out is always the worst, wether or not it blows over well or not. The biggest issues I had to and still to this day, deal with, is my own comfort with being out now and not trying to hide all the time. Honestly, the worst pain comes from my own doubts in others. It's even worse when I act negatively because I don't give somebody a chance to come to acceptance over what they now know, and I skew their ability to process it. Honestly, it really is going to take time, and you are gonna both hate yourself for telling people, and hate that you never did it sooner so you can work towards getting on with your life, but it will be one of the best things you can ever do, even if it really feels pretty fucking horrible right now. What you have to tell yourself, is that you can get through not get jaded about the whole thing. This is the time where you have to have a tougher skin than normal and try not to let the people you care about hurt you worse now that they know and are trying to reevaluate everything they thought they knew about you. It's gonna take awhile for them to calm down, but honestly, if somebody loved the real you before, even if they have conflicting beliefs and ideals, they will come around and understand eventually that they were incredible sashays, and they will come to your side and support you. People who neologize coming out as an easy and simple process don't understand that people and varied, complicated, tapestries that are very specifically woven in such a way that pulling out threads will complicate things, but that eventually, those threads can be reconnected in new ways that let them become a functioning tapestry again, and then they can make up for all the support they didn't give you when you came out and really needed it. Just stay strong, and keep being who you always are and don't be negative towards them even if they try and make you feel terrible. They wouldn't have such a strong negative reaction if they didn't care about you, and now they just need to figure out how to care about a different version of you they have never considered before.

To be blunt... it's not your problem your parents are being shitty parents in this situation. They say ignorance is bliss but I've never liked the notion of living a lie to maintain happiness. In time your parents will either accept it or be hateful bigots about it for the rest of their lives. But be mindful of the stages of grief because chances are your parents will be going through that and may give you some comfort as time passes and you read their behavior based on those stages.

At the end of the day you are who you are. The fact your parents think locking you up in a room with a female shows how little they even know about sexual orientation. I'd say challenge your dad to become gay for a while if he thinks sexual orientation is a choice. :P But people that ignorant and hateful toward something they dislike are not inclined to be open minded about it. So.. the ball is truly in their court. Just keep a support group around you and just continue being you.

Give it time. Be yourself still and in time and hopefully they'll regard you as the same person as before.

It isnt the worst decision... it is who you are, and they need to deal with that. Take time and explain that it is how you are, and locking you up with a woman, or 'retraining' or any of the other silliness doesnt work... that you are still who you were 5 days ago; they just know something else, now.

I'm very sorry that you're going through that. I know you don't know me, but if you want someone to talk to, you could message me. If you want to talk to someone, at least.

Very sorry bud. :/

I'm sorry Liz if you want to talk I'm on at least once a day.

Well, I don't think that it was the worst decision. A bit of early - yeah. If you do live with them - you should've waited intill you'll be on your own, independent from them. Also, i think that this kind of acting still better than "you're not my child", with throwing out of house.
And if they're not accepting and know nothing (it seems) about sexuality - it's their problem. And it's not about "open-minded" crap. It's about education - most of all. And only the productive thing you could do (IMO) - give them to read some of profile literature. (For example - my grandma was worried about my sexuality, after I told her. But she's okay now, since i gave to her a couple of popular science articles)

There is the possibility even, if they are that type, that they could be planning to put you in some illegal anti-gay camp that will beat you, drug you, shock therapy you, until you have had the gay removed from you. So you'll need to be careful.

Both my parents know I'm gay, among other things that I can't say here on furaffinity. One is mildly disturbed, the other doesn't give a crap, so I'm lucky.

I'm not exactly sure what you can do though. Does your phone have GPS? If so, just keep your phone with you, keep GPS turned on at all times, and have a draft saved on your phone that you can send to "911" in a text message that specifies you've been kidnapped and they need to track your phone's GPS for the location. Don't mention anti-gay camp, just mention that you've been kidnapped.
http://www.cnet.com/news/text-to-91.....d-to-know-faq/
A suggested draft is "I've been kidnapped, please try to track my phone's GPS, My number is xxx-xxx-xxxx. I must keep my phone hidden and silent. My parents may be behind this."

Even if they take your phone from you, if you are able to send out that message, it is much more likely that you will get help because the police will be actively looking for you.

At least you still love your parents.
I know how hard it is to tell them a big secret, and in the end it plays out the bad ending how you saw it.
I kind of stopped saying anything to mine afterwards, but I hope you and yours adjust positively to this... change... soon.
Try to have a talk with them, when they're in a better mood, if they are still talking to you.

Hispanic parents, like asian parents, are tough and super conservative when it comes to this kinda stuff :T

I'll never come out to my parents

I am sorry this happened to you...I just can't say anything else...

What's done is done.
I can't really say whether it was the right decision or not.
On one hand, you could have stayed the same and presumably lived happily ever after while having to hide your self from those who are supposed to be there for you.
On the other hand, how can they be your parents if they don't know you? Don't hate the fact that you're gay, there's nothing wrong with you. If you have to hate anything about this situation, hate your parent's ignorance and lack of compassion for their own son.

Sorry to hear that they did not take it very well, such things can be very complicated if you have older parents, the world has changed alot in the last 20 years or so but it is not the world that they have grown up in. But I'm still surprised at how they reacted, and I do really hope that they get over it eventually.