I only want a monogamous relationship, I've only ever been in one relationship in my whole like and that lasted 5 years, and I would like to get back together with my ex. I guess I'm an exception, like you are, it does seem like more guys are looking for a poly relationship and not an monogamous relationship. It makes it harder to date people when a lot guys are like that, I don't understand it eather.

It's like that becouse sodomites are such a sinful and immoral lot! Ask any fundamentalist and they will tell you! it's in the bible! >:|

But seriously... I have seen many straight relationships have just as short lifespan, and the polygamy is a natural consequences from the simple fact that guys like to fuck... and are generally more prone to consider sex and love as two different things.

Or I might be wrong, who knows.

I'm in a relationship that's lasted for five years this June. I don't get it either.

I was monogamous for 6 years before me and my ex split, RL i am when I have someone with me, but as rl technically i am single i stil dont sleep around, SL is different I feel, tried monogamy on SL and it didnt work for me

Well, I yiff RP a lot online, but only with close friends =P I also don't think telling someone I'm into monogamy means I have to not have RP with anyone for that person unless I were mated. I don't believe monogamy works online unless you've visited and dated your guy for a year throughout that cycle. Online relationships can eat you alive, it has for me at least. Even so, I was able to be fully monogamy with a guy who never wanted to yiff with me, which lasted 4 months and he never spent time with me, but I stayed loyal hahah. I mean yeah, I could live with that as long as my paw can be my friend LOL, just can't live with that if I'm neglected.

Though, irl. I remain single and virgin, would never sleep around. I would like to believe that would be selling my soul lol, it just doesn't have any meaning, purpose, dignity, morals, or respect in it. Only thing I could possibly gain from it is nearly nothing, just the selfish and childish need to pleasure one self.

Last time I checked, most people aren't into monogamy because they aren't into growing up. It's sad, but true. Which points back to the fact that not wanting monogamy is a lot more selfish than one would like to say monogamy is. But yeah, it pisses me off just as much that people don't appreciate monogamy at all. Most of the time when a guy can be a polygamy, they don't honestly care in the first place. If there's no ambition in the relationship, then there's no real love. Especially if you end up the only one doing all the work and caring.

I often don't get into relationships much because it's usually that problem. I've dealt with too many people who aren't willing to make things work or in better terms, work together as a team without lying to yourself about how you feel. People should work together because they want to, though other people just don't want to nor do they want to care, which makes society in general a disaster, from friendship to lover all the same it can be a problem.

Being able to overcome your heart and controlling it is a major strength, so you can reserve it to those that deserve and earn it =] Thinking with your heart first can become a huge weakness, cos in the end it suddenly after all was just thinking with your dick! GASP!

I only stick to things that prove themselves for what they claim to be instead of people who bullshit and swag petty things. I keep myself near people who can communicate and show that they care, have a good sense of selfless and selfish in them, and people who respect themselves and others instead of just their pleasures. There is no point in putting your heart towards something that doesn't share it's own realistically with you; friends, lover, or anything close. :3 Although there is always too much of anything. Things work best as building blocks and teamwork instead of being the only one who does the work. Though some work plans are way too ambitious and selfish, needs to be paced and balanced for teammates that care about the work too as much as you but in their own way. This is what makes relationships in general tough to keep because only one person ends up being the one that cares enough. Which under many circumstances hints polygamy a lot.

There is no point of a relationship if it can't be a happy team. Trying to keep a relationship working is one thing, but trying to keep something bad that's way too obvious is self defeat. Trusting someone to be good is one thing, but hoping someone will change for you is helpless if he doesn't even try in the first place. Expecting something that you don't find in that person is okay, but expecting it right away and leaving that person just because it might not be there is being a total kid. Although if it's lack of communication and bonding, it's very important to keep tabs in it even if your shy and have nothing to talk about it's best to learn your way around that together. If neither of you want to learn about each other or be happy to hear new things about each other, then whats the point? Lots of people don't like to often and just skip to the fucking and oh hey I love you so much or oh hey I misss you lots and oh hey we will do this and that when we finally get together.

I actually don't yiff a whole lot online, except with people I know well. I've found some people attach way too easily based on online yiff alone (Remember, don't stick your dick in crazy... something I've done once or twice x.x) When it comes to polygamy, it's more than likely they're only concentrating on making their collection (and themselves) feel as good as possible, not caring about the people around them. I've fallen into the trap of lying to myself about the status of a relationship before, taking a while to realize that I'm the only one doing all the caring in a relationship. Ended up burning myself bad on those.

Oh man, the thinking with your dick one, run into some like that too.. hard to believe how long I've been in the fandom, I've seen it all through the years honestly (no, not gone through it all personally, but seen other people go through it.) Most of them really do only think with their dick, not realizing what they're getting themself into. I watch for that carefully, but not always all that good at seeing it (fell into that trap once too x.x) I don't think I've ever actaully had someone interested in me that acted the same way I acted toward them. It's pretty sad really.

I agree that both people need to be happy in a relationship. Granted, it's not gonna happen all the time. There's going to be friction. But if you're serious about a relationship, you're not gonna let it fall apart on the first sign of rugburn. You're going to work through it, try to figure out what caused it, and figure out what kind of agreement you can come to that make you both happy about the situation.

My problem regarding communication is I try my best to learn about someone, ask them questions, see what they're interested in (once I can work past my shyness about them and worrying that I'm intruding x.x) If they show no interest in learning about me, no asking me questions, just jumping straight to *yiffyiffyiff* or not showing any desire to setting aside time to talk, to draw me out of my quiet, then I don't put anymore effort in.

I had the same problem, I'd been looking for someone forever and they either A) just wanted to sleep with me, B) didn't want to JUST be with me, or C) shut me down completely. I got hurt alot, but then I found someone really special through a friend of mine and he wants the same thing i do in a relationship. We're together now and i couldn't be happier.

Don't give up man, there's someone out there for you. I know that sounds overly-cliche by now but really, it's true.