*hugs*

*offers a hug*

Frankly, he can't have been a good friend if that's what he decides to do. After all, you CAN have friends when married, yet still be faithful to your partner.

The obvious point on all this is that he didn't feel he could be faithful to his husband, and one way or the other, that'll come back to bite him in the ass (possibly literally, if he does cheat on them in the future).

Be glad you got out. You don't need that kind of drama in your life.

As for snapping and whatnot at others, I'm sure they understand how difficult losing a close friend can be, and will forgive you for it. *hugs*

Well, I'm straight, and he and his partner knew that. There was no threat of him cheating

Then he's just an asshole... Either way, you're better off not being around someone like that.

I will stab you in the eye with a really hot french frie

I did no such thing! o.o

Oh wait it says married. so you must be talking about someone else.

Just so you know bro I would never do what that person did. You're my family and always will be! *hugs tight*

Not you

I understand that envious feeling all too well ... It's not fun. Especially when aimed at a best friend who didn't purposely get into a caring relationship to spite me. I'm happy for him that he found someone, but I can't shake the feelings of deep loneliness that follow suit when I wonder when I'll find the mate I'm supposed to find happiness with.

Thing is, I do have a mate, but for the past month it seems the connection between us has died and there is no emotional attachment

Then that might be something you should both sit down and talk about. Communication is one of the best, and hardest, things for a relationship. It's obviously bugging you, so you should ask her if you can talk about it and resolve the issue. I know how terrifying it can be when it also holds the prospect of potentially being alone.

I guess the first question is whether you feel deep down that she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. If so, then use that in part of your talk and ask her if there is a reason for her being distant. If you both feel the relationship is something you want to keep, then talking about it will help a lot.

I know what its like to leave off talking about things until its too late when my mate started getting distant with me. Part of me wishes I would have consulted him earlier and resolved things earlier .... where we might have been together now ... or broken it off earlier and given me more time to move on.