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Not how I wanted the secret comes out
9 years ago
I was excited about working my first day today for UBER, Really happy to finally find work since being laid off from Blizzard in April.
I took a nap before I was gonna go drive...I get woken up to a bunch of texts and a phone call....my biological aunt found my personal facebook....not just her a few of my cousins and aunts....they have been talking about me and my "Condition" unsure of what to make of me. They want me to take down a bunch of stuff and also tell my biofather that I am trans and to stop hiding it from him.....
I have been trying to come out to him for a long time and his instant rage and insanity and over reactions have completely broken me apart.
I gave up trying to tell him and that family and was happy to move to Texas....now....now it is tell him myself or they will.....
I don't know why this bothers me so much....I feel hallow....damaged....like the mirror self I dreamed of has been cracked....
I know what he is gonna to....he is gonna scream and hollar, he is gonna break anything that reminds him of me in that house...
He is gonna tell me I am vile and wrong in the eyes of god. he is gonna tell me i need to find a doctor and get fixed.
He is gonna destroy what I have built up... I have been trying to avoid this....i am still shaking and this was hours ago.....I don't know what to do at this point...
I took a nap before I was gonna go drive...I get woken up to a bunch of texts and a phone call....my biological aunt found my personal facebook....not just her a few of my cousins and aunts....they have been talking about me and my "Condition" unsure of what to make of me. They want me to take down a bunch of stuff and also tell my biofather that I am trans and to stop hiding it from him.....
I have been trying to come out to him for a long time and his instant rage and insanity and over reactions have completely broken me apart.
I gave up trying to tell him and that family and was happy to move to Texas....now....now it is tell him myself or they will.....
I don't know why this bothers me so much....I feel hallow....damaged....like the mirror self I dreamed of has been cracked....
I know what he is gonna to....he is gonna scream and hollar, he is gonna break anything that reminds him of me in that house...
He is gonna tell me I am vile and wrong in the eyes of god. he is gonna tell me i need to find a doctor and get fixed.
He is gonna destroy what I have built up... I have been trying to avoid this....i am still shaking and this was hours ago.....I don't know what to do at this point...
And if he says you're wrong in the eyes of god then say "Why don't he come down here and do something about it."
i will hope that everything smooths over quickly, or that this can be avoided somehow
eitherway, being trans is ok, its tough, and sometimes it really sucks, but its real, you are real. No matter what dumb shit your dad says.
is the situation that you live with these people or what?
the people i live with are very protective and are helping me through this
Perhaps there are others with good notions on how things can be softened in this situation. Because, all I can even think of is a boldfaced, interception lie...like stating that these other family members are going to cause a prank. But as a word of caution, this is probably some really bad advice. As it does tread into the risque region of softening a blow with lies. Should it fail, the after wreck can be worse then just what letting the speeding car might do when it rams into a brick wall.
Sure. It may be said that the truth is always the best policy. But, I've found that truth vs. lie is about as black & white as people hope for them to be. When life is really about all that gray zone, in-between. One can open wide and gulp down a pure tablespoon of sugar or suckle right off a raw lemon. But most prefer to blend those two into Lemonade for a more palatable mixture.
you can also bump up your privacy settings on facebook so ur other family cant see, thats how my mom has hers bc of similar types of people (and my facebook doesnt have my real info anywhere hahah)