this all took place at a military education and started when she said i could get a college degree and i had said i already had one. she had told her husband i was glorifying my rank which came across to her as rude when all i said was "at basic training they considered me the college specialist instead of a Combat Specialist."

Rank facts: you can earn E-4 (specialist) 2 ways: 1) work your way up from the bottom through years of service or 2) start out as a Specialist by having a 4yr degree.

My Situation: in basic they considered my rank a joke with the explanation of "you're a College Specialist" so even though i had the rank officially i was never seen as one because of how i got it. it's been very hard trying to fit in because of what i have and how i got it making me a rare case, officers' say i made a good choice of going enlisted starting off while enlisted say i made a dumb choice and look down upon me

All'n'All: i wasn't trying and didn't mean to come across as rude or offensive because being considered a "College Specialist" my Basic training Company was frowned upon for not having earned it through experience.

What's next?: i have to talk to the Sergeant who's wife i offended tomorrow and he happens to be in my unit. so because of the situation he thinks i was being rude in boasting my rank when it was actually a belittlement...being both new to the unit and their culture is very hard...