You can also who you want want to be, so if being like that guy is not something you like, just be like yourself instead.

If you always sit in the darkest corner, then most people will never see that you are even there. That's only good for those who wish to be alone and to stay alone.

If you pick a bar to do your sitting in, then the best you can generally hope for is the sort of people who resort to going to bars in the first place. You'll see people doing lots of things, with little desire to remember them, nor to be responsible for them. It's the kind of place where, even if you got someone's attention, they probably wouldn't stick around. Sadly, that's the nature of that lifestyle. People go to bars for the good time or the prospect of sex, but they bail on you the moment that they perceive a problem. So, the guy in the dark corner crying is usually going to be left to himself. If someone does approach in that sort of environment, it's almost certainly because they think they can get something out of you, and not because they can give something to you.

There is nothing wrong with sobbing, but it's better done with the comfort of a friend around, than in a place where no one is likely to care. It's better done with someone who will give you needed hugs for your comfort, rather than hugs to increase their chance for a one-night stand.

In other words, there are better places to be sobbing when you need to do that. You need some real quality friends. That means making them, and that is darned near impossible to do in a bar. Go to events that attract people who share your interests. Make yourself seen around the sort of people that make you the most happy. It might mean going to places you don't normally hang out. It usually means doing that a lot more than once.

Another option is to find another raccoon who is always looking for new friends. There's an abandoned house next to mine that could probably be bought dirt cheap! Of course, I'm not the ideal person to live next to. I am weird. Could you live next door to a guy who shovels his sidewalk while wearing a raccoon kigurumi, or who wears animal backpacks and plush character hats, or who wears Disney shortalls or overalls nearly every day of the year, in public! If you are weird too, then you'd have someone to be weird with!

The bar is a metaphor. The only place i'm sitting is in my home. The people in this entire city are undesirable to me. Events that attract people i'm interested in aren't held here, but hundreds of miles away. If I make friends with someone here, i'm usually the only person investing time into the relationship. Nobody ever checks on me or even bothers to say hello. I want to leave, but finances and bills are keeping me stuck here. I can't even afford to fix the problem with my mouth that's slowly and very painfully starting to kill me.

If I wasn't on SSI, and could afford it, I'd pay to get your mouth fixed. I know what jaw and tooth pain feels like, and no one should ever need to go through anything like that. I suffered a bad tooth for a couple years before I could finally get it taken care of. In the mean time, it was making me sick. At least that's over for me. Hopefully your mouth problems can be fixed soon.

I know what it's like with not being checked in on. Unless we initiate things, many friends tend to go on with their lives without including people. They just don't pause to think about the needs of others most of the time. That's just the way many people are. There are exceptions of course, but those often turn out to be friends living in distant areas, so they can't do things together anyway. I think a lot of people are familiar with this reality, so you aren't totally alone on that level at least.