(copypaste from elsewhere because i felt like posting it here, although it's been adapted to be more generic.)

being told that you're wrong - even if the tone is harsh, even if multiple people tell you over and over, even if there is cursing or yelling - is not oppression. and thinking it is makes it obvious that you have no actual understanding of what oppression really is.

you are not being bullied. you are not being harmed. no one is calling you slurs, and you're not going to get jumped outside for being transphobic. if anything, you will be supported, and the Big Bad Trans will all be told that we're being too hard on you.

oppression is systematic. it is all-encompassing. oppression is not being able to go out to eat, to the movies, take public transportation without people mocking you, calling you slurs, and potentially attacking you physically if you stand up for yourself (or even if you don't). oppression is being told you're not even really who you say you are, not really a man, not really a woman, not really a nonbinary person; you're just making it up to feel special. or your gender identity is chalked up to mental illness and we should stick you in therapy or even a conversion camp to get this idea out of your head. and you're going to get pushed so far that it gives you ptsd or perhaps causes you to attempt suicide. and even if we "accept" you, you have to go to a psychiatrist and other doctors for literally years because that (likely cisgender, likely neurotypical) therapist is going to be believed over you; they are trusted to know more about your own identity and experiences than you are.

someone calling you cishet? someone calling you transphobic? someone telling you to stop using certain words? that is not oppression. this is you being told that you're wrong.
and if multiple people explain to you why because you're arguing about it, despite not having an intimate understanding of the issue at hand, it's still. not. oppression.

stop playing the victim, stop acting like you're persecuted, and accept that you fucked up. you said a shitty thing. we all do at some point, and the way to deal with it is to stop defending your actions, apologize, and move on.