That's pretty sick that someone would cause crap to you after you lost your loved one. I am so sorry that happened to you. You definitely don't need some asshat to screw you over.

If I was granted with an ability, I would be able to put that fool in his place. But sadly, I don't think there's not much I can do, but hope that the troll gets what's coming to him. Just remember that you have many that still support you to this very day zoobear. When there's darkness, there will be light.

You're a good guy. Papa Bear. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

Papa bear, I can say from experience that your advice has really helped me when I messaged you. Don't let anyone make you feel bad or make you feel like you aren't making a difference.

You go papa bear, kick then trolls to the curb. They'll never find a fur as kind & willing to help others the way you do.

*huggles*

I'm gonna keep supporting you, Grubbs, in any way I can! Stay strong, and keep hold of that wonderful big heart of yours *hugs*

*hugs* Trolls are small, irrelevant people who attack what they cannot comprehend, and they cannot comprehend the form of selfless love you display to those who write to you.

I have certainly benefited from your column, both from reading others' letters and your responses, and writing to you myself.

We will continue to read, write, and support you in whatever ways we can.

Don't give them the oxygen of attention

Hes SIXTEEN....

Don't let it get to you Grubs.
You try your best to give back to the hurting people that come to you and I can't even begin to imagine how these people view the world if they feel the need to tear down something so innocent and positive.
As well as to use the death of a loved one against a person, mock and chastise them when they grieve... they are sick people and don't deserve the energy of a response.

You keep being supportive and awesome and don't let pessimistic trolls tell you that you're anything else.

I still believe that most people resort to this out of jealously. Don't listen to the trolls, you do wonderful work and are certainly appreciated here. *hugs*

To my mind, the only people who don't need validation in *any* form are a) people with Schizoid Personality Disorder or b) psychopaths.

Of course, there's a spectrum of social neediness, and there are healthy and unhealthy ways to get attention and validation.

But, most of the people who boldly claim to not care *at all* about what anybody thinks are lying to themselves and everyone else--and, I'd argue that a lot of them "doth protest too much," and are often MORE hungry for validation than the average bear (erm), whether they realize it or not.

These sorts of wannabe-cynics are equal parts perplexed and "triggered" by genuine people who sincerely care, and therefore tend to attack them.

From there, the armchair psychologists who are smug about people "only" seeking love, a sense of purpose, mastery, or social support "just" because they've endured trauma or grief strike me as people who haven't met their personal Waterloo yet, and/or lack insight into how their own behaviors and attitudes are likewise driven by their own shortcomings and wounds.

Just know that we appreciate you, Grubbs, and that your advice has helped a lot of people.

As I'm reading the thread, I'm struck by how the primary troll accuses you of seeking validation through your advice column, while basically enumerating all of the ways his life is harder than yours--thereby *SEEKING VALIDATION* from you for his own personal suffering!

He also clearly wants you to concede to his superior logic concerning the triviality and silliness of your feelings relative to his, and relative to hypothetical suffering of people throughout the world. Pushing someone to concede to your superior logic or rhetoric is also, arguably, yet another form of *seeking validation.*

Sooooo, pot, meet kettle.

He comes across like a lot of people who don't feel like their own grievances have been heard and validated, so they use one-upmanship, martyrdom, crackpot realism, trolling, and/or Spockian logic to discredit and minimize other people's feelings and experiences.

When they go low, YOU go high!