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The Doctor is OUT.
16 years ago
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This gallery is now closed. I will be deleting everything within the next week. Sorry.
So, the other day I spent six hours dealing with a suicidal friend here in my apartment. The whole thing was over a woman. Granted, he was being treated terribly, but he has a bad habit of totally obsessing over his current object of affections. Since this chick was his first lay, it was worse than usual.
For the past few months, I've been trying to get him to take some advice. He's infuriated all his other friends with his inability to listen to their input. Which has basically been the same as I told him.
Finally, it came down to 'KNIFE TO THE THROAT, SAVE ME KITTEN'.
First off, I'm not fit to save anyone. I was crippled in a car accident almost two years ago. I'm in a wheel-chair 85% of my day. I have severe, severe bouts of depression of my own; how is it fair for me to take on someone else's burden?
The boy is very sweet. And I owe him a great deal, but I can't carry him through his fucked up relationship. I'm disabled, and spiraling down into my own hole.
For the past few months, I've been trying to get him to take some advice. He's infuriated all his other friends with his inability to listen to their input. Which has basically been the same as I told him.
Finally, it came down to 'KNIFE TO THE THROAT, SAVE ME KITTEN'.
First off, I'm not fit to save anyone. I was crippled in a car accident almost two years ago. I'm in a wheel-chair 85% of my day. I have severe, severe bouts of depression of my own; how is it fair for me to take on someone else's burden?
The boy is very sweet. And I owe him a great deal, but I can't carry him through his fucked up relationship. I'm disabled, and spiraling down into my own hole.
My best advice to give is to do something as a couple. Maybe make some dinner together at your place, sit down, watch a movie, play some games and get into the business of being friends with each other, and show this person you care about him, and you might see that he cares about you too.
It sounds like you two really need companionship right now - so why shouldn't it come from each other? ^_^
I tend to do alright, when left to my own devices-- it's when other people unload on me that I get problems. At least they can walk, you know? I'm in a wheelchair or on crutches the rest of my days. Of course, I'm a little better at dealing with relationships than most. I think it comes with nearly hitting Cougarin' Age.
It's fun being a potential cougar, I have to say. ^_^
Anyway, don't let him unload on you. Like you said, if he's so busy and stressed out, he's obviously more interested in HIS problems than in being a friend to you.
Give it to him straight up. Either buck up and come around and start being a friend to you, or that's it, the friendship is over. Remind him of what you've done to help him, and what he has done to help you. Ergo, he's RESPONSIBLE for you. Stick that in a little to get some guilt going. ^_^